took me forever to get used to my married last name

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I've been with my husband for almost thirteen years but have only been married to him for four and when getting married I did the traditional thing and took his last name. The thing about this though is that I had my last name for 30 years so suddenly using his last name as my last name took some time. Another thing about his last name is that it rhymes with my middle name so when I hear it it always reminds me of my parents saying my first and middle name together. My mom always loved doing that when I was little. I won't divulge my name for privacy reasons but my mom got a kick out of it when I married my husband and started saying my first, middle, and new name together. Upon marrying my husband I realized I was changing one mispronunciation for another. I didn't realize either name was difficult to say but there are always people who mispronounce them. Most of my son's teachers don't know me by my maiden name but my son's kindergarten teacher and preschool teachers did. I think it shocked everyone when I finally married my husband. When my son was born I almost gave him both my maiden name and my husband's last name but decided to just give him my husband's last name to make his life a little easier. I do sometimes miss my maiden name because it was mine for so long. I thought about keeping it or hyphenating it but ultimately wanted to have the same last name as my husband and son. My mom has been married three times and she had my dad's last name for longer than she had any of her last names and it's still her name today. Her maiden name she only kept for about 19 years. I know a few women who kept their maiden name when they got married. I had seriously considered it because it was my name for so long and it seemed weird to go by anything else but ultimately I guess I just wanted to make things easier on my son and myself so I took my husband's last name. I went from a more German last name to an Irish one. Interestingly enough my husband's last name isn't even the same as his parents. My husband's mom's last name was an extremely Polish last name as in I think either her grandparents or great grandparents came from Poland. My husband's last name is actually his mom's mother's maiden name. My husband was given to his great uncle to be raised and that was his last name. Neither my maiden name or my husband's last name are very common so I am literally the only person with my first and last name since my first name isn't super common not uncommon but not common either but when you combine with either my maiden name or my current last name you find me which is why I won't divulge it here. I've made a few friends off of here and bubblews in which I did eventually give them my name to find me on social media but I don't do that super often and did it privately.