is anyone in a longterm relationship without marriage?

i am not in any such relation

Well I was with my ex (father of my kids) for 8 yrs and we never got married..never had any intention to either...I've been with my husband for almost 9 yrs but we've only been married for 4....No it isnt anyones biz at all...if you and your man are happy with it all then who cares what anyone else thinks...if the "whys" are buggin you that much just blow them off with a "I dont like him enough to marry him but he's great in bed" response...that'll shut them up pretty quick LOL

If you check the definition of marriage, it doesn't require a legal sanction (other than for legal purposes). It's entirely OK to refer to each other as husband and wife. To swear alligence and fidelity to another IS marriage. That's your vow and it holds as much weight as any vow proclaimed in front of an audience.

i honestly thnk that if you are i a relationship and you are not married then you should ask yourself where this relationship is going?because any relationship that is not formalised generally one of the partners have a problem with commitment. so you should ask yourself if you have this commitment problem or not.then you should also ask yourself if you want a commitment or not. just a live in relatonship is bad for just you but when children are involved then the bad situationjust becomes worse!

there was a philosopher and a feminist who was not married whatsoever, but they loved each other so much that stood by each other. The philosopher went blind and his feminist 'better half' never left him. i guess nowadays, marriage is just a 'contract', nut true love is another thing ^___^

no not till now if i get one then surely tell u ..........

you know, it's not really anyone else's business whether or not you're married or when you will get married. do it if you want to and only if you feel ready for it. basically, it sounds like you're "married" in a sense to this guy already without all the legal terminology, but who cares about all that legal crap? it's obvious that you two are together and happy and committed, so i dont think a legal document will make your relationship any better. if someone bothers you about it, just tell them that it's none of their business..cause it really isnt. let people think what they want to about you. you and your "significant other" know what your relationship is all about and you two, along with your kids, are the only ones that really matter.

I'm in the exact same situation, living with my partner for 6 years without THE PAPER, and the peer pressure and social demandings make me a little frustrated that we're not "doing it". He doesn't really want to, he's not ready, he's not willing, and the fact that my relatives constantly hammer me about it makes me miserable and complexed. I think that marriage is a form of expressing your love and commitment to the highest level, it's a promise and a gesture which, by making your union acceptable socially, takes you to the highest possible level achieved by human bonding. Of course, I'm positive you can achieve a similar level of connection and intimacy without committing legally, but marriage, among others, brings that. At least ideally. The more you wait, the more special it is, in some cases. Anyway, because of constant bugging, I feel incomplete without the social status of a wife.

No, it is not anyone business wheter you two are married. You are together, if you truly love each other, why care how to call your other part. Probably, since I don´t know you, you are more husband and wife to each other than many married couples out there. So call him "husband, love, whatever you want" express your love and fell no shame, or worry not what about other people think. Even parents. And good luck to you.

I think it is better for the both of you to get married.

Well my oldest Brother has been with his gilfriend for ages now and he has two kids. One 6, One 2. He doesn't plan on getting married though and his girlfriend is fine with that. I'm not sure what they call each other as they don't live close by to me but they seem happy enough living together as a couple and people know that thus don't ask any questions. I've only been with my boyfriend 2 years (almost), so I can't really comment.

my opinion aboyt marriage well i dont think that a pice of papre woul change something i meen about you love for your partener! yes it is verryy good think that in the papre you are togheter to! but moust inportant thing is that you have to feeal it in your heart!i now a couple that are togheter for 15 years and they are not marriade and they have 2 kids to! and is not about the money!because they one of the moust richer people in my town! i think that pice of paper sraes sometimes! so much peple say that afre marriage you are stiked with tah ine! so they try to ainprove there relation ship without that conjugal paper! but i will want my own weading i think that is wonderful that you can wear you mans name! i just can wait to get married butt only when i will be rady!when we will be ready

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years. I've never really had any problem with people asking me when I was getting married. The only person that I can remember asking was my doctor and he was just making small talk. And I know how you feel about introducing him to others. Its kind of akward but I don't have any suggestions for you either.

ya i have been in many long term relationships..have loads of friends in my life..who r really sweethearts.n have a important place in my life

I'm in a long term relationship of two years, we don't seem to have people telling us to get married though lol. It really isn't anyones business, as for how you can refer to him, why not just call him "your sweetheart" or really throw people off and just refer to him as your sugar daddy lol...jk.

may be not

I am so far

just call him ur husband and don't worry about what people say ...i call my boyfriend my husband and he calls me his wife as long as ur happy its no one's business but yours

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and we're getting the pressure of "when are you 2 getting married?" We'll get married when we're ready but all you can really do is ignore everyone. I know it's hard and it takes time but eventually you'll get used to it. I've been to 6 weddings in the last 2 years and trust me, I get asked that ALL the time. In another point, my boyfriend's parents have been together for 17 years, have 2 kids together so people have kind of just stopped asking about when they're getting married.

Do you need legal document to call your partner "husband"? Ask him, how he thinks you should introduce him to others.