Lonely Days and Nights

I lost my husband over 20 years ago. I went through states of anger and pain. I can say that I survived. But it is never the same as before.

I also live alone,I would say the feeling of this lifestyle isn't good,but i have no other choice.when i felt lonely,i will read book,play internet games,or do some sports.these ways can relieve my emotion for sure.

I have never lived completely alone, but I did have to spend several nights alone when my husband was hospitalized a few years ago. It hadn't been easy at first, but I settled into a routine, and got through it. The idea is to get into a routine, and just ensure you're feeling your days with things so you don't get bored.

What a very cute baby. I hope things will get better for you as time goes by.

She looks like a sweetie. It was hard at first. I was divorced, though he's now passed. I still had children at home. The big break came five years ago when I went on Housing and was told it was me alone, nobody could live with me. I welcomed it. My space, my time, not doing for anyone but me. It's been a blessing. I admit the hardest was when we first broke up and dissolved the marriage. It didn't matter if there were others in the house. I was lonely and I hoped there would be another significant other in my life. It never happened. Eventually, it became commonplace so that when the kids moved out and couldn't move back in, I was ready for the complete change in lifestyle. Living alone. It's not easy and it does take time. Don't rush it. It's all part of grieving.

@RubyHawk don't linger in sadness, it's not good for your mentality because it will affect your mindset going forward, all you have to do is interact with people around you with that you can relax your mind, hopefully your day will get better in the future

Yes I am used to it and now I dont mind Ruby. I am so sorry though that you are feeling lonely, and I can understand why. I have much to keep me busy here. You are not dreary sounding at all..it is natural. A beautiful photo of Anna

I do not live alone, but my mother told me that the night was the worst moment.

Anna is adorable, I have gotten used to being alone and it no longer matters to me, I would rather miss my husband and have the memories than involving anyone else in my life, Of course, now with three kittens I at least have three living things to think about as well, I guess that is why a good part of my days are spent online and I listen to my favourite music and read and just get on with life,

Hugs from me. Can you find any kind of volunteering work to do? Years ago my husband got a job hours away from where we live so we spent a year apart. Not a good year. I kept having weird accidents. I feel for you.

Being alone is a recent thing to you, it will take time before you get used, or before it isn't as hard as it is now. The baby looks so sweet.

I am so sorry. Life can be so unfair. What a sweet photo. Hold onto those memories. They will get you through.

I used to live alone in my younger times, its fun at first, after a while, I hate it. So now I live with my big family, hope no need to live alone again. I know its different culture in your place, stay healthy and take care yourself!

I think you will adjust to it over time, it might be a great time to get a pet. Maybe the cute little dog you have always wanted. You could also get a housemate or invite a friend to live with you. It will get easier over time but probably never as good as living with someone. Who knows, maybe you will open your heart again?

Do you have any hobbies? I am blessed to still have my husband, it meet many women who have. Been widowed. Many of them get involved with volunteering at the local thrift shop (food bank) and I meet a lot of them at the quilt shop where I work.

I don't really know how to help but I do really hope that over time you will feel less down. You seem to be doing your best to keep busy which is probably a good thing but I'm sure nothing really replaces the ache and loneliness.

I think living alone would be impossible for me.

it can be hard. I suspect most of us at one time or another feel like way, even in a house full of people!

I lived alone for almost 8 years after my divorce. He was abusive and when I move to my own place it was nice for a while. It was kind of like a sense of relief. But after the initial feeling of relief was over there were lots of times I was really lonely. Believe it or not if it wasn't for my dog at the time I think it would have been much harder. I hated the nighttime after that and had bad anxiety about going to bed alone, so I would just sit there watching tv. My dog stayed at my side the whole time. But being widowed isn't the same. you lost someone you loved and was your partner through life. That's much different than divorce. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss and what you've been going through. When I was 19 I lost the man I was going to marry in a car accident.I still miss him everyday but everybody was telling me what I needed to do to make it better. I can tell you it will get a little easier with time. Sometimes counseling can be a big help if you can find a counselor you like. And don't apologize for feeling the way you do. It's not dreary to me. Sometimes you just need to talk to someone who just listens. You will eventually figure out how to get through and it has to be what you want, don't let anyone push you We all grieve differently.When you feel like you want to post about things I'm pretty sure there are lots of us that will listen