Hi From Myself And Daisy

@simone10 (54187)
Louisville, Kentucky
November 2, 2021 4:54pm CST
Hi everyone, it's been quite a while. The last time I was on mylot was not long after my brother passed away. I haven't been able to deal with his death very well. Even now, it's been over a year and it's still tough for me. I was thinking about him yesterday and the pain felt just as fresh as it did the day he died. I am hoping that I will be able to be back on mylot again but time will tell. With the holidays just around the corner, it's going to be hard. One good thing is I have been in touch with my youngest sister. We had not spoken for over 10 years. She lives in Tennessee and I live in Kentucky so we aren't living close to each other. Her and I text each day and talk on the phone about once a week. I don't feel quite so lonely anymore. I feel the need now to reach out to all of my friends on mylot. I have missed you all and I hope you understand why it's taken me this long to write.
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@kaylachan (71519)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2 Nov 21
Real life does take prioriety. Don't forget that. Grief is a process and pain fades on it's own over time. You just have to trust the process.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
I really expected I would be through this grief by now.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Nov 21
There you are. So happy to see you and Ms. Daisy. It will always be hard. Be easy with yourself. I am always here for you, remember that. I don't do holidays. And you have a choice as well. Happy to hear about you talking to your sister. That is great news. Take care of yourself.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Nov 21
@simone10 I feel the same for man reasons as well. And that is ok. Always take care of you.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
@CarolDM Taking care of me was why I took time away but now I think im ready to be back with all of my friends here.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Nov 21
@simone10 Sounds great.
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@rebelann (112959)
• El Paso, Texas
3 Nov 21
I understand completely. I'm glad you made it back to let us know you're ok but I know what you mean about losing someone. I still grieve for all those I've lost over the years even my dad who passed in 1980.
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@rebelann (112959)
• El Paso, Texas
4 Nov 21
It is always hard no matter how old we get. All most of us do is simply accept what cannot be changed but the heart still hurts.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
4 Nov 21
@rebelann This is very true. Time doesn't really heal. It only helps us to accept it.
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@RebeccasFarm (90294)
• Arvada, Colorado
2 Nov 21
There you are, I thought you had left us Sharon.. Welcome back. Not easy I know as well the pain Hi Little Daisy
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
I did leave for a while but never intended to be gone as long as I was. No, it's not been easy at all.
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@RasmaSandra (80635)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3 Nov 21
So glad to hear from you and Daisy is just adorable, No worries we're all here as usual and glad you checked in, Glad to hear you can contact your sister, Your brother is now watching over you and is close by, It's been four years since my husband passed away and I still find it hard but the memories are great and it makes things easier,
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
The memories are still bittersweet right now.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
3 Nov 21
Thanks for stopping by to visit me. As I mentioned, I think of you all the time and Miss Daisy, too, especially after our last phone call. I’m so glad you have reconnected with your sister. Hopefully, you will remain here, and I’ll see you soon.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
4 Nov 21
@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
Hi lady, how are you? I really appreciate you caring and thinking of me. All of this has been tough but im still hanging, barely but still here.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
3 Nov 21
@simone10 I understand the awful time you are experiencing.
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@jstory07 (139782)
• Roseburg, Oregon
3 Nov 21
I was worried about you and now I know you are sorta ok. Did you end up moving? It is hard losing a brother I loss mine eight years ago and I still miss him.
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@jstory07 (139782)
• Roseburg, Oregon
4 Nov 21
@simone10 Yes you were very blessed. So sorry you loss him.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
4 Nov 21
@jstory07 thank you
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
I'm so sorry I worried you. It has been hard losing my brother especially since we lived together for 10. I was blessed to have those years with him.
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@LadyDuck (471992)
• Switzerland
3 Nov 21
Welcome back Sharon, I am so glad to hear from you and to see the pretty face of Daisy. We missed you and we know how hard the holidays time can be for you. I am glad you are back in touch with your sister.
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@LadyDuck (471992)
• Switzerland
3 Nov 21
@simone10 I hope that myLot users can help you, often it is useful to share our problems here.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
@LadyDuck Thats very true. How have you been?
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
Hi Anna! I've missed all of you here. I'm so happy that my sister and I are talking again. I do have a problem that I have to figure out and im sure I will have write about it here.
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@wolfgirl569 (107859)
• Marion, Ohio
3 Nov 21
Glad to see you again. Everyone processes grief differently. Glad you are in touch with your sister again.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
Thank you! I've never had grief last this long before and I have thought of therapy but don't think I've reached that point yet.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
4 Nov 21
@wolfgirl569 I've been talking with my sister and she has been very helpful.
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@wolfgirl569 (107859)
• Marion, Ohio
3 Nov 21
@simone10 Maybe find a support group so you have someone just to talk to as needed.
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@rakski (125766)
• Philippines
3 Nov 21
good to see you around here again. What you are going through is not easy. We lost my brother-in-law last March and he is the only brother I have. Mylot misses you
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
5 Nov 21
I'm so sorry about your loss
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
6 Nov 21
@rakski yes we do.
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@rakski (125766)
• Philippines
5 Nov 21
@simone10 we have some same experiences and we try to cope
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@JudyEv (341752)
• Rockingham, Australia
3 Nov 21
That's wonderful that you're back 'in the fold' again. I hope you feel able to stay this time. Daisy looks snug and warm in her bed.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
I hope I can stay this time too. I never meant to be gone this long.
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@JudyEv (341752)
• Rockingham, Australia
3 Nov 21
@simone10 Passes quickly sometimes.
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@Courtlynn (67081)
• United States
3 Nov 21
Sorry about your loss i can understand it being hard to "get over"
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
5 Nov 21
Thank you. I've lost a lot of loved ones over the years but losing my brother has been the hardest to get over.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
6 Nov 21
@Courtlynn I'm so sorry you lost custody of your daughter. Do you get to have visitation?
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@Courtlynn (67081)
• United States
6 Nov 21
@simone10 i dont. She was adopted out. Have an open adoption but i only get one letter on her every Dec
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
3 Nov 21
@simone10 I remember about your brother. How are you and Daisy doing? Thank you for putting Daisy in the picture. I am sorry how hard it is for you. Just come back when you are ready to. I am glad that you reconnected with your younger sister. Loss is very hard and I know you and your brother were very close and lived together too so it must be so hard for you during the holidays and also without holidays. Come back when you are ready.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
5 Nov 21
@Hannihar I would have felt so much worse if we had been apart those years.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
7 Nov 21
@simone10 Then I am glad that you had that time together even though he is gone now.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
4 Nov 21
@simone10 Now, I understand it better and I know you two were very close and lived with each other that you have all those memories and how hard that must be too. I am so so sorry about your loss but so glad the way you are looking at it that you had the 10 years together.
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@DocAndersen (54402)
• United States
3 Nov 21
we are still here - i am sorry you are struggling. it is hard to lose those we love. There are no magic bullets, no words that fix this, so I will simply say we are here!
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
4 Nov 21
Thank you so much. I always feel at home on mylot.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
5 Nov 21
@DocAndersen yes it is!
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@DocAndersen (54402)
• United States
4 Nov 21
@simone10 it is a good place to hang out with friends!
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@Juliaacv (51458)
• Canada
4 Nov 21
I am happy for you that you and your sister are staying in touch. In the end, family will always be there for us.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
5 Nov 21
This is very true. My sister isn't in good health so I will probably move in with her during the summer so she won't be alone. She has bad seizures and I worry about her.
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@DaddyEvil (137464)
• United States
3 Nov 21
Long time, no see... We're always here for you when you have time for us.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
@DaddyEvil Thank you. I'm doing ok, a lot better than I was.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
Thank you so much! You are very kind.
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@DaddyEvil (137464)
• United States
3 Nov 21
@simone10 You're welcome. I just wish there was something I could do to actually help you.
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• United States
4 Nov 21
First let me say how happy I am that you are back!!! I'm so sorry that this past year has been so rough but there's no limit on the grief timeline. I'm glad you're back in touch with your sister and that you're texting and talking often. We've missed you and Daisy
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
5 Nov 21
Thank you! I've missed all of you too. It really warms my heart how much we all care for each other yet most of us haven't met in person.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
6 Nov 21
@Marilynda1225 It really does mean a lot and is very rare. We are truly blessed.
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• United States
5 Nov 21
@simone10 it's so true Sharon. This is a circle of friendships that mean so much. It's likely we'll never meet in person yet I feel as if I know so many people here It's wonderful having a place to come to share everything both good and bad. Its comforting
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@nela13 (58720)
• Portugal
4 Nov 21
I am so glad to see you here again, You have been through a lot and it takes a ot of time to deal with. Great that you have been in touch with your sister.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
5 Nov 21
Thank you, im happy to be back. It seems like no matter how long we are away, mylot is always here with welcoming arms.
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@nela13 (58720)
• Portugal
5 Nov 21
@simone10 true, we always feel welcome here.
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@LindaOHio (181321)
• United States
3 Nov 21
Glad to see you back. I'm so sorry you are having such a difficult time with your brother's passing. I'm so glad you and your sister are now back in touch. Take care. We are here for you. That's a great picture of Daisy.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
4 Nov 21
My sister has helped me a lot with my brother's passing. I wish we lived closer together.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
5 Nov 21
@LindaOHio Weve been talking about it. She has a lot of health issues and doesn't need to be alone.
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@LindaOHio (181321)
• United States
4 Nov 21
@simone10 Perhaps you will make the decision to live with her.
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@oahuwriter (26777)
• United States
3 Nov 21
Understood. Loosing a loved one is never easy, and I know from experience, you never get over it. Every year their birthday, holidays and other remembrance, remind us they're gone. Healgrief.org lets me put up a virtual candle for my departed loved ones and I feel better, knowing, they nattered. Then, my heart reminds me, of the happiness we shared and as the memories engulf me, I feel the courage to carry on, without them.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Nov 21
I will have to look up that website, thank you. My brother and I lived together for 10 years.
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@oahuwriter (26777)
• United States
4 Nov 21
@simone10 Ok. Healgrief.org is helpful. My colleague, suggested, writing a journal to the loved ones that passed. You'd write, sometimes telling them, things you wanted to, but can't now. Or sharing with them, on paper, what you would have, if they were living. Etc. This really helps me.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
5 Nov 21
@oahuwriter I may do that. I think it's a great idea.
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