I am a natural born worrier

By Manuela Lopes

@nela13 (58720)

Portugal

December 29, 2021 6:41pm CST

I know I worry too much about things. I have always been like this and it can be so stressful. I often wish I could be more relaxed. My son who is 13 will receive the varicella or chickenpox vaccine tomorrow. He didn't had the disease yet and according to the doctor it can be dangerous if he gets it in the adolescence. My daughter didn't have it either but as she is only 9 we will wait. I need to pay for this vaccine but that is okay, as long as he is protected. I am only worried about the second effects, hope he has none. I have a friend whose daughter received this vaccine last year and everything went well. My husband seems to be more relaxed but I can't avoid to be nervous and worried. Maybe it is a mother thing... Do you also worry to much about things? Picture of my son and my daughter at a restaurant this last summer.

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@LadyDuck (472114)

• Switzerland

30 Dec 21

I am like you, I am a worrier, my brother always mocked me because of this. I think it's genetic.

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@LadyDuck (472114)

• Switzerland

31 Dec 21

@nela13 - I envy my brother, he is never worried, but he seems to care about nothing and this is not really good. My husband is a worrier, when I go out alone he is hyper stressed until I am back home.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

31 Dec 21

@LadyDuck care about nothing isn't good at all too.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

I really wish I was different, I think that being worried leads to the anxiety that I often feel. It could be genetic as it seems to me that it is more a woman thing

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@raijem (335)

• Philippines

30 Dec 21

Worrying is a sign that you are not comfortable about something. It only means that the thing you are worrying is in the top levels of your priorities. Its quite natural to be worried, particularly if its about your children\s health and safety. But over doing it is no longer worrying. Its anxiety Its not being helpful but only adds up to your stress. I think you should learn to handle things calmly so you don't loose focus and arrive at solutions.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

Thank you for your words, you are right, it is more anxiety and I need to find ways to deal with it and don't let it control my life.

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• Philippines

30 Dec 21

@nela13 I have had those issues before myself. The only thing that can satisfy anxiety is assurance. If you are assured that things will go smoothly, you won\t be anxious. Find something that could assure you reasonably and have faith in the solution that you apply and it should help On the case of your child's vaccine, speak to doctor about it and do some research. It should be a good start.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

@raijem I read about it and it relaxed me a little. The vaccine went well, as this isn't a very common vaccine I was worried but he seems to be well, he is only feeling a little pain in his arm.

@JudyEv (342100)

• Rockingham, Australia

30 Dec 21

I don't worry nearly as much as I used to. Eventually, it seemed such a waste of mental energy as most of what I worried about never happened.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

That is true, 99% of things that I worry about never really happens and it just make me feel anxious.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

30 Dec 21

You have lovely children, I am a worrier. I don’t know how you turn it off or I would.

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@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

31 Dec 21

@nela13 I’ll expect you to do just that.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

31 Dec 21

@RubyHawk being here often helps me.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

Thank you, they are the love of my life

If I find a way I will let you know

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@Janet357 (75646)

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30 Dec 21

Just pray and everything will be alright. I avoid worrying too much because it is not good for our health.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

It is awful to our health, you are right, praying always give me some comfort.

@Kouponkaren (5503)

• United States

30 Dec 21

Yes, I am definitely a worrier but I try to give my worries to God when I get too stressed out. It helps.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

Praying helps me too, I often feel that God listen to me and give some comfort to my heart.

@rebelann (112969)

• El Paso, Texas

30 Dec 21

I do not worry overly much but sometimes I have reason to. My mom was constantly worrying, she would worry even if there was no reason to

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@rebelann (112969)

• El Paso, Texas

30 Dec 21

I hope you will find a way to do that.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

I really hope I can control this, being always worried about something is a waste of energy and often leads me to anxiety.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

@rebelann thank you, being here often helps me.

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@DaddyEvil (137636)

• United States

30 Dec 21

Yes, I can be a worrier... I can't help it. Any new situation or even meeting a new person can cause me to worry. There's no reason for me to worry, but I still do it. *shrug* I'm sure everything will go well with your son's vaccination. (I had chicken pox when I was young and Pretty did, as well.)

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@DaddyEvil (137636)

• United States

31 Dec 21

@nela13 I understand. I worry about things that probably won't happen. Pretty tells me to stop worrying all the time. If I could do that, I would...

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

1 Jan 22

@DaddyEvil if there was a magic bottom to turn off, I would use it.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

Sometimes I feel that the worry leads to anxiety, it is awful. I had the disease when I was young too.

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@TheHorse (220245)

• Walnut Creek, California

31 Dec 21

They look charming. I hope his vaccinations go well.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

1 Jan 22

Thank you, everything went well.

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@TheHorse (220245)

• Walnut Creek, California

1 Jan 22

@nela13 I am glad to hear that.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

1 Jan 22

@DianneN (247186)

• United States

30 Dec 21

I’m a worrier, too, but it’s in my blood. Can’t help it. Your son and daughter will be better off with the vaccine. Our insurance pays for everything, thank goodness.

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@DianneN (247186)

• United States

31 Dec 21

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

31 Dec 21

I can't help it too but I wish I could control it. The vaccine went well and he is only feeling a little pain in his arm.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (317242)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

2 Jan 22

Someone once said to write all your worries on a piece of paper and put it away. Then take it out on the last day of the year. You will find all your worries disappeared. I found that good advice. I've never been a worrier. I take it one day at a time. I hope the vaccine goes well.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (317242)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

3 Jan 22

@nela13 I'm glad everything went well.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

4 Jan 22

@just4him Thank you

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

2 Jan 22

That is a very good idea, I think I will write it and check by the end of this year.

Thank you, everything went well

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@JESSY3236 (20046)

• United States

4 Jan 22

My best friend is a worrier.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

4 Jan 22

I am trying to stop worrying so much.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

30 Dec 21

It is only natural to worry. I did the same when my son was here. We always seem to worry about things we cannot change.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

Yes, I always worry about things I can't control or change.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

@CarolDM thank you, it makes us feel so small.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

30 Dec 21

@nela13 That is life unfortunately. But at least you are aware of it.

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Nevena Zivkovic

@Nevena83 (65277)

• Serbia

30 Dec 21

Oh, that's how they grew up. It is normal to be worried, I think less and less people believe in medicine.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

31 Dec 21

@Nevena83 that is true, we don't know in what to believe nowadays.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

I always worry, it was just a vaccine but I can't avoid to worry.

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Nevena Zivkovic

@Nevena83 (65277)

• Serbia

30 Dec 21

@nela13 This is normal, because we live in a strange time.

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@snowy22315 (182193)

• United States

31 Dec 21

Yes, I worry...although probably not as much as some. Everything will fine with your son.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

1 Jan 22

I need to stop worrying, it is such a waste of energy and leads to nothing. Thank you, everything went well with his vaccine.

@dodo19 (47336)

• Beaconsfield, Quebec

30 Dec 21

It can be so easy to worry sometimes. There are definitely times when I worry a little more than I should. Definitely trying to change that.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

1 Jan 22

I want to change that too, it is a waste of energy and leads to anxiety.

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@RebeccasFarm (90474)

• Arvada, Colorado

30 Dec 21

A lovely photo of them Manuela. Yes of course I am nuts with worry as you know

Yes it is a Mother thing, at least for us right? I am praying for them, and I hope they will be fine with the shot.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

It is impossible for me to avoid to worry. The vaccine went well, he only feels a light pain in his arm. Thank you

@mom210 (9115)

• United States

2 Jan 22

my mother is a worrier like you, I think I learned to be a little more chill because she worries so much.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

2 Jan 22

I think I worry too much about things too, it is no good for my mental health at all.

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@cacay1 (83577)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

3 Jan 22

I also worry much but need to control it. My heart aches if worry much.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

4 Jan 22

It is the same with me, I need to find a way to control this.

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@Shiva49 (26774)

• Singapore

30 Dec 21

I do worry when I have to get out of my comfort zone, but then I resign myself to getting over with it asap. Yeah, worrying helps too to be more prepared to tackle issues and analyze them.

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@nela13 (58720)

• Portugal

30 Dec 21

I also notice that I worry about things I can't control or change, like you said things out of our comfort zone.

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