Ever ok to hit a woman?
By what_now
@what_now (554)
Canada
December 1, 2006 3:21am CST
I am just conercened if it is ever ok to hit a woman? Being a man sometimes it can be really tough. There is so much pressure on not hitting a woman what so ever? But what if the woman hits you first? the thing is, if a woman hits a man first isnt that as disrespectful as it hitting a woman? That being said I think "if you want to be treated like a woman then act like one." Don't be going hitting men and expecting them not to hit you back. I personally would never hit a woman but if a woman hits me first I might hit her back. what is you guys take on this?
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@sassyces (1602)
• Philippines
1 Dec 06
It's never ok to hit a woman. Even if the woman hit you first, the intensity of the woman's punch is no match to the intensity of a man's punch. besides, as for the getting even part, I believe there's such a thing as KARMA meaning what goes around, comes around. So if you cannot avenge yourself, then she'll get it from other situations.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
1 Dec 06
"the intensity of the woman's punch is no match to the intensity of a man's punch." - I'm sorry but I have to disagree with that completely...granted some women dont have a good arm so to speak but I know many including myself that have given some men a good run for their money...My punch is just as intense as many men..I know how to throw a punch and I am not a small woman...it all depends on the ppl..it cant be generalized like that IMO
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I understand what you are saying (its not braggin at all IMO fact is fact) but size doesnt necessarily mean squat..I've been knocked around by some serious big arsed hardcores BUT because of my history I dont go down easily at all and I rage to the extreme (which is partly why I dont go down I think)..Aside from the obvious (I'm assuming) which is that he loves her why is he with her? I was abusive like I'd explained in one of my other posts in this thread and ya know what if I would ahve been my bf or husband I would have left me without a doubt! I never did find out why my ex stuck around but my husband stood by me because he knew what i was goin through and loved/loves me so much he was/is willing to see me through it..not that its any excuse at all cause it isnt and I still snap but now that I'm on meds I dont raise my hand to him...The way I see it is this, if your friend is embarrassed he has three options IMO...he can do nothing and she will continue (and she will), he can grab her the next time she does it and tell her firm and straight up to knock it off or one of these times he'll smack her back or he can dump her....none of them are easy options by any means but if it is starting to affect him mentally/emotionally he needs to decide whether or not its really worth it....If she has issue adn thats why she does it (on top of the fact that he doesnt react and that is a HUGE factor not to be ignored) then he should tell her that she needs to start dealing with whatever issue it is because he wont be her punching bag anymore...see what I'm say...he doesnt HAVE TO be a victim and he shouldnt be
@what_now (554)
• Canada
1 Dec 06
Talking about intensity of punches. Not trying to brag or anything but I have a hard rock body I work out 2 hours evryday and am naturally a very strong guy. A punch even from the biggest guy won't hurt me physically, I can take it. But my main conern here is the insult you feel when you get hit by someone man or woman. I have never been hit by a woman in my life yet and hopefully will never GET hit. Cause seriously I wouldnt know what to do if something like that happens. I know my one punch will knock her out, she'll pass out that is what scares me. And considering my friend's situation his gf hits him occasionally and he has never hit her back but this has changed him alot. He feels very embarrassed and uncomfortable arround his friends now cause his gf sometimes hit him and we all know about him. And lemme assure you the only reason she hits him is cause she knows he is not going to hit back. IF he hit her back once this will all end.
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I was raised that you never ever hit a woman even if she hit you first. But I don't think a woman should be hitting a man either. I say if a woman hits you call the cops and have her arrested. It will be hard not to hit her back. But I agree, men can be a lot stronger and you could really hurt her. Make sure you have a witness.
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@boeyong (256)
• Malaysia
1 Dec 06
Sometimes when the violence starts, there are no witnesses except the both of you - the man and the woman. And nowadays, I don't get what point the women are trying ro prove - they do all kinds of things just to get their own way and if they don't, they resort to violence and make their men (especially their men) look as bad as possible thinking it make them stand out. Not all women are physically weak - I have seen many stout women beating up their wiry men into pulp.
Just that the more men remain silent than women. Just because men want to be silent because they think they will lose face if violence to them by women is reported, doen't mean things didn't happen. Women have their action groups whilst men are supposed to suffer in silence. When you do that, you are going to get more violence because when men come to a stage where they cannot even voice out their duress and suffering, they will answer with physical strength and violence.
Whatever the cause, the bottomline is NEVER hit out at one another physically, whether men or women. If you don't love him/her anymore, and you are married, get a divorce or stay apart. No need to quarrel and fight. Ten times out of ten, the action is never worth it. The best way of winning a fight is walk away - as far as possible.
@browneyedwomen (1827)
• United States
2 Dec 06
I am a women and I honestly believe that you shouldnt hit a women if you are a man, maybe you think sometimes they need it, but you are not the person to give it to them. Sometimes I think some women need to get a good beating, from another women so they understand that they are not that tough, or what ever the reason. I know if they kit you maybe you feel like you have the right, but men are a lot bigger than women and can really hurt them, I promise if my fiance ever hit me I would leave him in a heart beat..A women kind find someone who will not, so if you love this girl you do not want her to get away!
One time me and my fiance were fighting, and he pushed me, barely but he did, I freaked out so bad and told him if he ever touched me like that again I will be gone before he knows it. It was a mad push and I will not deal with that behavior, of course if he did it playing around I dont mind, because I know he isnt serious about it, but I can not except that! My sister was beat up by one of her boyfriends, and she dated him for about 3 years! I promised my self than that I would never be in that kind of relation ship and so far Ive steared clear, but once you hit a women you might think its ok, and you continuisly doit!!! Dont do this to a women it can be very damiging and hard to deal with!
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@firelight (1858)
• Australia
1 Dec 06
No it is never ok to hit a woman! She should not be hitting a man either but that said a man is so much stronger and can do more damage. Anyone being hit should show restraint and not hit back.
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
2 Dec 06
I've always said bruises heal faster than emotional wounds but still that gives no one the right to hit. These "emotional" wounds will heal in time. If you were dating a woman that hit you and you guys can't talk about it or she won't stop the best thing you can do is walk away from the relationship. Because emotional pain is what causes men and r women to become abusive people and that isn't a good thing for anyone.
@dexterous21 (1180)
• Philippines
1 Dec 06
Woman should be treated in a good way. If a woman hits you then you hit her back, the pain that you created is tripple the pain that woman created to you. In my case, since I am into martial arts, I wont allow any man to hit me. I will twist his neck if ever he will do that to me.
@sireesuccess (1254)
• India
1 Dec 06
yes i agree with u .its not fair by hitting a women but many does this .once if the women reversed then wat about them ,then where should they hide their face.this is happening bcoz womens r bearing.thats why womens r called as goddess of patience.no women likes to hit any men.so i say if she does thet u can also hit
@udhayaharidas (310)
• India
1 Dec 06
I am a woman. Personally, I feel woman cannot hit a man. But if they are provoked, I think it is okay. I think the same thing goes to a man hitting a woman. If a man is provoked, I think he will do it.
@emarie (5442)
• United States
1 Dec 06
well its not okay to hit at all...i think women hit a man because normally they're stronger and can take a punch, and if you'd hit her back you might do serious damage. thats my guess...you don't know how many times i wanted to punch my husband, but i know i wouldnt do anything. my husbands mom once socked him in tme mouth...he said i thinks he deserved it for mouthing off to his mom. (he was an adult at the time btw) i think the only good reason a woman has for hiting a man is in self defense. and a man should never raise his hand to a woman...thats just how i feel. i get scared of my husband sometimes, he has a temper and i get scared he'll hit me because i've seen him hit a wall and throw things across the room and break them....i know in my heart he'll never hurt me, but sometime when he gets mad i just try to stay away...
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@rahulg007 (382)
• India
1 Dec 06
hey its not ok to hit a women in life and if ur male u should not hit a women
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@Stripperman (183)
• Portugal
1 Dec 06
No never. But some women use the advantage of the fact of many men don´t hit a women to attack them physically. Thats wrong too.
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@clashing_titan (557)
• India
1 Dec 06
its totally unmanly to hit a woman...how can anyone e1 think of it?
if a woman tries to hit you you can always block her and MOSTLY woman are not strong enough physically to take you over..
hitting a woman? where did you leave ur balls?
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@jediwa72 (204)
• United States
1 Dec 06
i agree with only one thing in this...the woman should act like a woman. but i don't think if she hits a man that she should be hit back. this is just as crazy as rationalizing that because the woman didn't clean the house and make his dinner that she should be hit. nothing is being resolved by hitting one another. how bout this, if the woman hits the man, he stands up and acts like a man by resolving the issue in a mature way. by hitting her back he is only a coward.
@Plutolegionario (767)
• Italy
1 Dec 06
Hi, I don't want to hit a woman and I never did it. However, sometimes women need it!
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I agree with you and I should state that I'm not a supporter of violence either and that being said I have to say that there are definately women out there that like to act like complete nasty b's and totally deserve the slap but then play the "you hit a woman" card just to stir up trouble but lets face it, these days there are plenty of women that are more than capable of holding their own and IMO if you wanna talk smak you need to step up and take whats coming to you..I mean I know some women who do it jsut to provoke others and thats b.s as far as I'm concerned.....and like its been mentioned, the whole equality thing..either we want to be equal or we dont..I dont agree with picking and choosing when..but thats just me
@pyr0maniac (572)
• United States
1 Dec 06
yea this is a tough question...it is usually never ok to hit a women, but what happens if she is attacking you? i guess you can fight back for self defence...but usually you can't hit women
@Blitzkrieg (121)
• Brazil
1 Dec 06
Men shouldn't hit women and women shouldn't hit men.
I don't like the idea of "the weaker can hit the stronger and the stronger can't do anything".
@dixielol (1579)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Beautiful(cant remember but whatever the name was of the person who posted a comment) You think that a man should let a woman beat on him with out hitting her back just because she is weaker? She is putting herself in a mans position therefor she is asking to be treated like a man. The old saying goes both ways, "whats fair for the goose should be fair for the gander".
@beautifulceiling (1300)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Yeah that would suck.
Now, imagine it the other way around.
@prenuer (277)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Frankly, no one should be hitting anyone else unless it's a clear case of self-defense with no way to walk away or restrain the other person. If you poke me with your finger, I have the right to call the police on you, male or female. I try to behave with dignity, especially during tring times. Some people try me nerves, my endeavor on. lol.
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