Words Are Not Wind

That is so very true. I know of cases where wives were forced to leave their husbands - not because of physical abuse - but mental.

@much2say Well said. @Kandae11 Much2say said it better than I could have.

@Dena91 She sure did , as well as @sharon6345.

@Kandae11 It would be an awfully boring world if everyone thought the same. You have to learn to take life as it comes.

@Kandae11 common courtesy and respect are universal

@Vikingswest1 Imagine newspaper headlines like this: " Boy rescues cat from tree" much better than a headline about a shooting or a murder , but people being people how many would buy the paper with the rescue of the cat ? Why do gossip magazines sell so fast.? The story of Will hitting Chris made headlines around the world. The nature of people can't be changed. I recall the time l lived in a small apartment complex. Right next door there was a convenience store. The owner and l got along quite well, in fact l even helped him out a couple of times in the store. The owner of the Complex lived next door. So imagine my surprise one day when l was about to enter my apartment he approached me with a surprised look on his face. He said : " So you're not in the hospital" . l said what? Why would l be in the hospital? Seems like the guy from the convenience store told him the 'dreadful news' that someone fitting my description was run over by a car. He didn't even check to see if it was really me, he just ran with the news.

@Kandae11 That's true. I know there are people even worse than me.

Sorry to hear you were hurt , and you're not alone. It happens every second, every day.

Then there is the saying : "Many a true word is spoken in joke". Which means that a person might want to tell you something about yourself that is not pleasant so they joke about it and you might laugh - then afterwards begin to think. "I wonder if Jane or John was joking or trying to tell me something? I agree, lots of times words are used innocently with no intention of harm, but my focus is on those times when they are used with the definite aim to insult, degrade or villify.

@Kandae11 Hmmm, I get what you mean. For me, if the same joke's been told like too many a times but in differing manner, I'm afraid I may get too bored and the jokes will be lost in translation. But a good pun is a good pun, with non intended.

Well said. You are perfectly right. I am so very sorry about your son.

@Kandae11 Thank you.

They are, and after you say them you can't take them back.

@Kandae11 Yup. I learned a lot from not being careful about the words I utter.

@Neil43 Me too. There was a time when l almost lost my job because of something l said to a higher up in the Company l worked. I was requested to send him a letter of apology. What l had said was the truth so l pondered for a whole week whether l should apologize or leave the job. Finally when l thought of how hard l had worked to get where l was , l decided that an apology was the best option.

There is no pill you can take for that kind of pain.

Well said. I couldn't agree more.

That's the way it should be.

Right. One can be hurt in many different ways.

No we can't

So true. We cannot recall those words.

Exactly.

It definitely is.

You are so right. I recall hearing someone say in response to a lethal remark: "Ouch , that was a low blow" . like the person was feeling actual pain. And it was a pain of sorts - a pain in the heart which cuts very deep.

They sure can.

@Kandae11 Thanks. Forcing action onto kids, makes them hate life too. I was a very shy child, but my mother forced me to go to kindergarten, when l didn't want to go. I was dragged along there, protesting all the way. My mother always regretted doing that, and she said that she should have kept me home for another year. Words can force people too, in their way, by fear, shame, or unwanted encouragement, just as much as physical force does too. We should never force our way onto anyone else, either by words, or by action.

Well said. I concur with everything you have written. Quite often a child living in depressed areas might be told by his frustrated mother: "You will never grow up to be anything " or "You are just like your worthless father". What a child is told at a young age helps to form his or her personality for better or for worse.

Words uttered cannot be recalled and depending on what is said - many persons can be hurt including the utterer. Check my comment to @Neil43 about my experience.