How Would You Respond? / myLot

March 31, 2022 3:11am CST

Hi all, Hoping everyone is doing great at the moment. Here is my discussion for this hour. When a friend or an acquaintance whom you have known for a bit starts to open up about their problems or stuff they are dealing with and etc, do you:- a) Listen intently and offer them your sincere advice b) Be neutral and breadcrumb the answers c) Offer a critical input and expect them to deal with it themselves d) Be a good listener, try to understand their plight or what they are going through and be tactful with your replies e) Simply can't be bothered because it's not your problem at the end of the day Which one will be your answer from the following? You can also add your own notes for there is no right or wrong answer; so, give your input on it. Thanks all, and till we meet again for the next discussion.

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askme123

@askme123 (6228)

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31 Mar 22

I would do option d. I would listen and offer my best advice.Ensuring I do nothing to hurt the person further but offer useful advice for them to get over the issue or problem.

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ihasaquestion

@ihasaquestion (8275)

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31 Mar 22

I like your answer.

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askme123

@askme123 (6228)

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31 Mar 22

@ihasaquestion Thank you

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vikingswest

@Vikingswest1 (6304)

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31 Mar 22

That depends on the person sharing troubles. If they won't normally open up to share, I would have a sincere interest in listening and responding if asked. I would want to help. If they ALWAYS seem to be sharing troubles and there have been other discussions, I might give less attention or offer advice even if I'm not asked. I don't know where that fits in on your chart.

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vikingswest

@Vikingswest1 (6304)

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31 Mar 22

@ihasaquestion C or D I think depending on the person. I have some friends of 50+ years. Over that time, it seems that some friends always seem to have troubles, some once in a while and with some, they rarely share troubles. I am less likely to give my full attention to a friend complaining every time we talk but very likely to be a good listener and comforting to those that share rarely or only once in a while.

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ihasaquestion

@ihasaquestion (8275)

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31 Mar 22

@Vikingswest1 That's a diverse circle of friends you have. I guess it is good to reply accordingly. Some rarely share because they don't want to either trouble others with their stories, or they don't wish for friends and acquaintances to know what they are going through. As for the whiners, I feel like it's a gray area at times because the responses they get may be lacklustre so they wish to get some kind of advice feedback but to the disinterest or lack of understanding thereof from the listeners. I mean that in general though.

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ihasaquestion

@ihasaquestion (8275)

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31 Mar 22

I think yours will be a followed by e.

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snowy

@snowy22315 (181955)

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31 Mar 22

D is the best choice.

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ihasaquestion

@ihasaquestion (8275)

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31 Mar 22

Yes..

MARILYN

@Marilynda1225 (83062)

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31 Mar 22

I have a good friend that is dealing with some serious problems right now so all I do is listen. I can't solve her dilemma but I can listen. All she needs is someone to vent to.

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ihasaquestion

@ihasaquestion (8275)

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1 Apr 22

That's very good indeed. At least there's a shoulder to cry on.