Does silence means yes?
By dolly_reysim
@dolly_reysim (48)
Philippines
December 1, 2006 4:21am CST
I have a boyfriend but he's not here. We communiate via internet, and by phone. He always call and tell me how he miss and love me. Then one day he stops the routine, no emails or even phone calls. I emailed him and even tried to call his cellphone but no response until now. Is it right for me to assume that we're off? I still love him but if he doesn't feel that way to me anymore he could have at least tell me or speak with me. Am I right?
24 responses
@shaikghouse35 (523)
• India
2 Dec 06
Its not right to assume that you are off the relationship. If you can meet him directly then the matter can be sorted out. Or you can mail him asking the reason for the distance. Have trust in him, Love is not like taste which can change regularly, It is a feeling which we can have for only one person in our life and for only once in lifetime. If he is that person for you then you will definitely meet him.
@dolly_reysim (48)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
Thanks a lot, i still don't know if i will give the benefit of the doubt. Wish me luck.
@JessieMae (345)
• United States
2 Dec 06
I guess just keep trying to get in contact with him to find out what is going on with him. I once had a boyfriend who did the same. But we saw each other. He had gotten grounded and about 3 months later, after only being able to talk to him twice a month, I found out that he was cheating on me with MY COUSIN. I hope everything works out for your boyfriend and you!
@edigital (2709)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Silence means yes, it is right. Short absence quicken love but long absence kills it. So you have to wait some more time as he may be in problem so that cannot contact me or he is taking an exam. on you to measure your love. As he is well known since 1991 I do not think that he will off you this way - if he at all do it this will mean that your bf is not a good man, a great selfish and have no heart.
@dolly_reysim (48)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
I also would like to think that he'll not do this to me but if he will maybe you're right that he has no heart. Thanks for the response.
@farocop44 (447)
• Canada
2 Dec 06
I dont think you can call yourself right without some more info. Did he explain why he hadnt called you for a long time? Was he super busy?, in jail?, his service disconnected?, busy with his other girlfriend?. You need to be a bit clearer before considering you right.
@dolly_reysim (48)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
How will I know if he doesn't want to talk to me, he keeps on ignoring my calls. It's hard for me to know because we're far from each other and the only thing that he at least can do is to answer his phone and talk to me for me to know what's happening with him.
@baysmummy (1637)
• Australia
2 Dec 06
Can i ask how long has it been since he just suddenly stopped ringing you and emailing you?
Yeah i would say its over, its a shame he didnt think highly enough of you to atleast tell you he wanted to end things!
@dolly_reysim (48)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
His last email was on Sept 21, and he even said "how he wish that I was with him and how much he missed and loves me"
so i'm really wondering for a sudden changed.
@wynna1 (1291)
•
1 Dec 06
For how long you two been into this relationship? have you two met already? If you dont hear from him anymore, then i think its time for you to move on, though its a bit difficult but you cant waste your time waiting for somebody who's not brave enough to tell you how he really feel or any explanation why he changed.
@dolly_reysim (48)
• Philippines
1 Dec 06
We've been into this relationship early this year but we've been friends since 1991 and he's my brothers' best friend and I really don't know why he changed. It hurts but I guess i have to move on. Thank you for the response.
@dolly_reysim (48)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
Thank you for the response, but can you please explain further why I need your opinion and it will help me a lot
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
1 Dec 06
There is no info on how long you have been boyfriend and girlfriend, but anyhow you deserve toget your questions answered. He needs to tell u what yuo want.
Call him from a differnt phone with a secret nu,ber - see if he answeres then. If he does - well then atleast you know that he was avoiding your callsand noone elses.
To just ignore aperson is coward...
@dolly_reysim (48)
• Philippines
1 Dec 06
we've been friends for almost 17 yrs and we've been boyfriend and girlfriend only this year. Anyway I will still try to do what you suggest. Thank you for the response.
@shalabi (63)
• Kuwait
2 Dec 06
Do you know any of his family or friends to call? I say this because maybe something has happened and he isn't able to contact you. You know him for a long time and were friends before, I think you deserve to know. He is very wrong not to explain to you if he wants to be free. The first idea you were given, to call from another number. I would try that. Then try someone else who knows him. He should be a man and tell you what is going on.
I am also in a situation much like yours. I didn't speak to my girlfriend for almost 4 months now. With us, I know many of the reasons so I don't blame her. Good luck to you.
@dolly_reysim (48)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
I already called his brother and he has no idea of what's happening with him coz' they seldom talk. I also spoke with his brother in-law and he gave me the same answer.
@danish160 (250)
• Pakistan
15 Dec 06
No! Silence not always means Yes. Sometimes it means "I need some time to think"
@lucalucky (1839)
• Italy
13 Dec 06
Usually silence means yes but that is for administration I am not so sure about love affair. I think you have to be sure that he thinks that you are off but if he is not calling you probably menas that you are off. One of the mistery of love you cannot understand what is happening.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
no. don't assume you're off already. there could be something why he is not doing the routine calls, and emails. he can't be too shallow at your feelings and won't consider them by just walking away like that.. out of your life? it does happen but im sure there is a reason for all of these,when he does show up and try to explain things, weigh each all carefully then decide.