How do you do that ?

@Babino (5759)
Morocco
April 21, 2022 7:07am CST
So lately I've been trying to imagine myself as a married woman, like put myself in the situation and imagine every aspect of that life, kind of trying to prepare myself for it. But I've got this little issue with marriage life o couldn't figure out : they say married couples should keep going out on dates and stuff even after marriage but, if we live together, and we're going out together for a coffee or dinner or something, I can't help but imagine it to be boring, like, we already talked about everything at home, what would be talking about while sipping our coffee or having our dinner.. what if it's awkward ? How do you do that ? How do you go out with people you live with ?? PS I'm an introverted person,.and socially awkward.. not very talkative.
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@porwest (92588)
• United States
21 Apr 22
Date nights are common in marriage. The thing you have to keep in mind is that married life can become very routine and after a while getting out is tougher due to a long list of reasons. Lack of time, sometimes if you have kids you have other things keeping you busy, and of course there are jobs and daily household chores and things that need to be done on weekends. If you aside a night or two each month when you can just go out for a nice dinner or spend some time at a bar or otherwise just get out of the house and do fun stuff, it helps to keep the marriage good and strong and breaks the monotony of daily life.
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@porwest (92588)
• United States
25 Apr 22
@Babino lol. Maybe so. Incidentally my wife and I never had kids. The only thing we miss is having someone to help with chores. lol
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@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
26 Apr 22
@porwest chores fir only two persons shouldn't be a lot to deal with. It's better than having baby additional chores.
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@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
22 Apr 22
I always imagine myself without kids, maybe that's why I imagine us bored.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
21 Apr 22
I'm single, but outing with your love is something wonderful to marriage bond stronger. There's a need to respect every decision made by a husband or a wife to have marriage last longer or as long as they live.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Apr 22
@Babino you're welcome.
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@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
22 Apr 22
I'm single too I'm just imagining situations. That's a great advice tho thank you.
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@LadyDuck (472074)
• Switzerland
21 Apr 22
I am married from 50 years, not only, but I worked with my husband during all my life. IF you get bored talking to someone, it's better that you avoid to get married to that person. I am never bored to talk with my husband.
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@LadyDuck (472074)
• Switzerland
22 Apr 22
@Babino I broke with my previous boyfriend when I realized that I got bored after a while we were together. We had nothing to discuss about. That was the sign we were not compatible.
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@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
22 Apr 22
That's awesome !! I hope I can find someone like that !!
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@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
23 Apr 22
@LadyDuck yeah I'm scared of that !! But at the same time you can't force it .. if you're not connecting, you're just not !
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@Kandae11 (55162)
21 Apr 22
It works. Getting away from the home environment once a week or month can't be boring - even if you are accompanied by wife or husband. Especially if it is a restaurant with a nice ambiance, you can soak in the atmosphere, observe other couples, feel good to be served for a change.Just relax and enjoy.
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@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
22 Apr 22
I hope it's going to be fine.
• Nairobi, Kenya
21 Apr 22
I guess it's just natural because you love them it is the same way you can love your sibling and you stay together but you still want to spend time with them. I am also an introvert so we have a thing in common but if you find the right person you will just have things to say you know because you love them and you enjoy their company. But still marriage is a big thing, I have never been married so I don't know much about it.
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@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
22 Apr 22
True !! It's the same with siblings, you live with them but somehow you still talk. I'm single too I'm just imagining situations.
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Apr 22
@Babino when that time comes that you are married you will understand things better.
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• China
21 Apr 22
Just let it go. Just relax. Two people stay together every day. They can say anything they think of at any time. They can also keep silent when there is no topic
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@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
22 Apr 22
I hope it works like that for me. That sounds so nice.
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Apr 22
To me, if a person is getting married it's because they want to be with this person ALL the time and forever. I think about one-third of marriages actually work for the long term because many(both men and women) don't mind putting up with others' quirks and can actually stand to be around this other person ALL of the time. The other two-thirds are either greedy, self-involved, or selfish (or all three) and can't stand to be around anyone for that long.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Apr 22
If you love them it's nice. You don't even have to talk except about how the food is.
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@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
22 Apr 22
That sounds great, feeling comfortable even in the silence.
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
22 Apr 22
I'm sure it would not be boring. It's more fun going out with our loved ones on a date. You feel excited and you will surely be talkative
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@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
22 Apr 22
I really hope so !! Thank you that made me feel better about it, even tho I'm just making the situation uo in my head.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
22 Apr 22
@Babino Sometimes when you are at home you won't be talking that much and would be busy with your phone etc. but if you go out together you enjoy the bonding the food, the ambiance and you will be more talkative
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@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
23 Apr 22
@averygirl72 I really hope so !! I hope we won't be on our phones or something.
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