Who’s in the wrong

@Ladanger (14578)
United States
May 24, 2022 3:48am CST
I love creating these kind of discussions because I already know that everyone is going to have a different opinion. So this friend of mines was having some trust issues in her relationship and decided to test her partner. She created a fake account pretending to be a random girl online. The sad part is that he fell for it in less than 2 minutes. That screams red flag she was having doubts if he talks and flirts with other women online. I do feel like even though she went out of her way to do that, it still proved her point. She got her answer. Was she wrong? He had told her that she had nothing to worry about but I guess that gut feeling never fails. She wasn’t bothered that he followed the account. She was curious to see if he flirts or not. Not only did he flirt but he sent a picture of his abs. She was nervous about doing this because I think she knew deep down he would fail. Would you ever test your partner to get confirmation? Or would you wait to catch the person? I want to say she was wrong for doing that but I guess this was what she needed. She had also expressed her fear that maybe he was sending ab pics to other women.
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@LadyDuck (471354)
• Switzerland
24 May 22
She had the feeling he was doing this with other women and she was right to test him. Now she knows that she was right and he is a potential cheater. That said, what does she plan to do? I would not test my husband as I know he is not a cheater. Should I discover that I am wrong, this would be the end of our marriage.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
24 May 22
She broke up with him. She wishes that she hadn’t done it but I guess it was for the best.
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@Kandae11 (54986)
24 May 22
It is easy to test for a cheater- l would have done it , but how do you test someone who acts like a perfect gentleman and is really a physical abuser?
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
24 May 22
@Kandae11 I thinks it’s all about that gut feeling.
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
29 May 22
If I don't trust someone and would like to test him, then I would rather break up with him. I believe that love cannot exist without trust. So, if I don't trust a person that much, then I don't love him that much. I don't condemn her actions though, as it's human nature to want proof before deciding on something. Now, that she has it, what would she do? That would be her tough decision.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 May 22
She left him. I agree with your comment. If you don’t trust them, you don’t love them
@maclanis (2406)
• Belgium
26 May 22
I don't think was she did was good, but ultimately, she learned an important thing about her boyfriend. Either way, what he did was worse than what she did. I hope she breaks up with him. I myself wouldn't do this. If I was with someone I couldn't trust, I would simply break up instead of testing him.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 May 22
I don’t think I could test someone like that because it’s just so unhealthy. She broke up with him. I guess she was ready to leave.
@JESSY3236 (19912)
• United States
24 May 22
I wouldn't test my boyfriend. Although I do stalk him online sometimes. She was in the right to test him. He does sound like a cheater.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
25 May 22
I would have done the same if I need the confirmation
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@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
25 May 22
I personally wouldn't stay with someone I can't trust anymore, even tho it's just a gut and I have no proof.. it's energy consuming and I don't want to live everyday doubting his loyalty. If I feel like I have to test him I would just leave.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
25 May 22
I’m with you there. I think we know deep down when we are being betrayed. Some just have trouble accepting it.
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
24 May 22
Well, it sounds bad. In law that is self-incrimination. It lacks a good communication between the couple. If she didn't trust her hubby, she talk to him telling him that he's flirting with other woman and warm him but not to trap him.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
25 May 22
I guess she was ready to walk away. There would be no point in doing that if you don’t plan on actually leaving.