He or She I Have the Answer
By Ruby Hawk
@RubyHawk (99405)
Atlanta, Georgia
June 14, 2022 7:39pm CST
A few days ago I wrote a discussion about a maintenance person at my complex, I couldn’t tell if they were a man or woman. The person was so nice and replaced the light in my kitchen right away.
The person had a very short mans hair cut, loose floppy pants, no breasts or Adam’s apple that I could see. I really appreciated the persons help but could not guess if they were man or woman.
So I asked about the sex of this person and she’s a woman. The secretary told me she wouldn’t have known without seeing the lady’s information. So I wasn’t the only one who couldn’t recognize a man from a woman.
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
15 Jun 22
And there are women who have a mannish haircut, wear masculine clothing. This is the image they want to leave. Our nephew now claims to be a girl. While a niece now says she's a male. Do I understand this? NO.
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
15 Jun 22
@RubyHawk I miss my nephew William. I miss my niece, Carlita.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
15 Jun 22
@kobesbuddy But they’re what they’ve always been. You just didn’t know it. They’ve told you their secret. They probably feel much better about themselves.
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@wolfgirl569 (105945)
• Marion, Ohio
15 Jun 22
Keeping her hair short would help doing that job
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@wolfgirl569 (105945)
• Marion, Ohio
15 Jun 22
@RubyHawk I just wear dew rags, especially in the summer
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@GardenGerty (160626)
• United States
15 Jun 22
I have seen it happen the other way as well. Guys with sweet baby faces and enough body fat they have a bit of a bust and hips.As long as they all do what they are supposed to, it is fine. I can understand your curiousity, though.
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@jobelbojel (35506)
• Philippines
15 Jun 22
My assumption was true about she/her. She is a woman.
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@jobelbojel (35506)
• Philippines
15 Jun 22
@RubyHawk Because of your description. I suspected that because of the loose pants but looks womanly.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
16 Jun 22
@jobelbojel Well, you got it right. I’m interested in how she will be dressed next time I see her.
@jefferson126 (3262)
• Shenzhen, China
15 Jun 22
that person did a good job.sometimes in public place,someone dressed up oddly,would mislead others to mistake their gender.Once on train i met a preson had long hair and slim shape and wore ear ring,because she/he had back towards me,I couldn't judge gender.then i supposed the person must be a lady,however next moment when the person open mouth to speak,i got to know it's a man, how awkward.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
17 Jun 22
@jefferson126 That was the case with this young lady. But it could go either way.
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@jefferson126 (3262)
• Shenzhen, China
16 Jun 22
@RubyHawk ,I expect a person's dress can clearly display gender,but sometimes it's not necessarily case.
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. Sometimes I asked other people to know the gender
@LindaOHio (178131)
• United States
15 Jun 22
I'm glad you now know the gender of this person.
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
15 Jun 22
There was this time when I thought I have seen a beautiful lady not until I have heard his husky hoarse voice by then I know...
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@ihasaquestion (8274)
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15 Jun 22
I guess as long as the person is nice, it doesn't matter whether it is a man or a woman.
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@betlynfrnds (4069)
• United States
15 Jun 22
Though my husband and I really don't get out a whole lot, I do occasionally run across the questionable gender. 
If there is any eye contact, I simply smile and may say hello.
If there is any eye contact, I simply smile and may say hello.1 person likes this
@betlynfrnds (4069)
• United States
16 Jun 22
@RubyHawk There are still some very friendly people around. I always try to show kindness in a non-judgmental way.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
17 Jun 22
@betlynfrnds So do I and I don’t judge anyone. We never know what others are experiencing.
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@much2say (55562)
• Los Angeles, California
16 Jun 22
@RubyHawk The thing is now "they" (which to some is the correct pronoun now) may not want to be referred to as a "she" or "he". It's all rather confusing to me, but apparently this is how it is. My friend's teen daughter dresses masculine and the mother refers to "her" as "he/him" on her FB posts.
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