Would you receive a relative in your house for free?
By Diana
@dya80dya (36486)
June 29, 2022 7:51am CST
I have an aunt and she found a job in my town. But she doesn't have a place to sleep. I live with my parents and we don't know if we should receive her. We are very undecided.
I have another aunt and when I stayed in her house for two days it was a bad experiece. What would you do? She wants to stay for a long time, not only a week or a few days.
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@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
29 Jun 22
Let us be realistic. Expenses and bills are high lately, I will surely expect her to help out with the expenses and bills plus must follow cleanliness at all times. If she agreed to that. Then, I will accept her 
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
29 Jun 22
That's right sharing bills is a great way to stay afloat together before she gets her own house
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@dya80dya (36486)
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29 Jun 22
@Laurakemunto She has a house, but it's not in this town.
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
29 Jun 22
@dya80dya maybe if a distance that is reasonable enough to be commuting I will recommend that and only stay in your house if she gets late from work and not possible to go home
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
29 Jun 22
You can accommodate her for a few days and let it known to her before she comes that you can't offer accomodation for a long time
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@dya80dya (36486)
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29 Jun 22
@Laurakemunto We stayed with other persons and it wasn't easy at all.
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@DaddyEvil (137249)
• United States
29 Jun 22
No, not for a long time. Maybe for a few days but that would be all.
Why would she accept a job without finding a place to sleep?
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@DaddyEvil (137249)
• United States
29 Jun 22
@dya80dya I would tell her to keep looking for a place to sleep.
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@Hildasalom (954)
• Nairobi, Kenya
29 Jun 22
It is very difficult to be in that situation because if you tell her no she will feel bad because you are related. At the same time when you allow her in your house it will be difficult adjusting plus the money you are going to use.
But you just need to be honest and tell her what you think, or if she stays let her live according to your rules and help out with the bills.
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@DevMrSamEleazar (14058)
• Philippines
29 Jun 22
well for me its okay to receive a relative as its also one of your family. but for living for long well idk for that.
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@MarieCoyle (36793)
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30 Jun 22
@dya80dya
I wouldn't do it unless she is willing to pay you. Housing isn't free. It will raise your expenses.
@willmichaelson (122)
• Chengdu, China
29 Jun 22
well, for me it's ok, if the relative was nice to me.
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@willmichaelson (122)
• Chengdu, China
30 Jun 22
@dya80dya if so, it's too hard for me to decide. maybe I will but not willing
@porwest (89613)
• United States
3 Jul 22
Yeah, if it's long term, there needs to be boundaries set and some sort of an agreement made. There are all sorts of considerations such as food, extra water usage, other household needs like laundry and so on and so forth. If nothing else I'd say some form of rent should be charged. And I would still set a timeline as well. Once a person is living in your home they are, by law, a tenant, and you have to go through the same process to evict them as you would anyone else. EVEN IF they do not pay rent. They are still considered a tenant.
Get everything in writing.
@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
14 Jul 22
That's too controversial dilemma you have had. It would be a good enough if he stays temporarily but to live in your house indefinitely that's troublesome.
@PinkFloydFan (1086)
• United States
2 Jul 22
Yes.. I have done this before. I could never get any sleep. But he's my younger cousin and was kicked out with nowhere to go, and I'm his oldest (close) cousin, so my heart can't say no. I will never ask for money, only respect.
I would let her stay. Maybe she can help you? Brainstorm ideas.
