I think 3 cats are too much for my father.
By Jellybelly
@CookieMonster46 (13454)
United States
July 18, 2022 9:12pm CST
As most of you know I just came from a nursing home from my stroke. I really can't do what c I used to do.
My father has three cats and he can't take care if them or himself. Let alone me.
I am still after the social worker to get me a caregiver. She is not calling back.
The problem is one cat is throwing up on my rings inside and my father not cleaning that up or changing their drinking water. I am very frustrated. If my mother was alive it would not be this way.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
19 Jul 22
See he wants the cats. You can't tell him a thing he screams and yells.i am not sure what I can do.
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
19 Jul 22
@CookieMonster46 you need to discuss with him, hope he understands.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
19 Jul 22
@sjvg1976 I tried it I think is hopeless.
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@LadyDuck (471456)
• Switzerland
21 Jul 22
@CookieMonster46 
That is sad, it's not clean if he does not clean after the cats.
That is sad, it's not clean if he does not clean after the cats.1 person likes this
@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
22 Jul 22
@LadyDuck he thinks it is clean here the last care giver told me this place was filthy he tried to clean but my father yelled at him
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
20 Jul 22
He doesn't he thinks it is clean here.
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@snowy22315 (180870)
• United States
24 Jul 22
That is a tough situation maybe. Cat living neighbor could help out
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
24 Jul 22
Very tough on me. I have a place to live. But the cats are a problem. My father's thinking is off.
@Marilynda1225 (82789)
• United States
20 Jul 22
I hope you can get a caregiver and that might help you somewhat. Dealing with an aging parent is difficult especially when they are so set in their ways they don't realize it's jeopardizing their (or your) well being. I hope you can find a solution
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
20 Jul 22
Me too, o remember my father coming home complaining about his mother with dementia. Now I see him.being difficult to deal with.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
22 Jul 22
@Marilynda1225 I used to see how he was in denial his mother had dementia. The sister used to cry. Now I hope he doesn't have to be around a lengthy time with it. The mother lived to 103. I can't handle it to long.
@Marilynda1225 (82789)
• United States
21 Jul 22
@CookieMonster46 My mom had dementia and it could be very trying at times (she lived with me).
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
19 Jul 22
I sat by the phone today nothing. I get very frustrated.
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@JudyEv (340230)
• Rockingham, Australia
19 Jul 22
@CookieMonster46 Sometimes those in charge of such things seem very uncaring.
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@MarieCoyle (37573)
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22 Jul 22
I don't know where you are, but every state has adult protective services. You can call and they will help you, they even send out someone to see you if needed. They can check on your situation and on your father. And possibly help speed things up to find a caregiver. I wish you the best.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
23 Jul 22
I am in CA whatever I do I don't want trouble with my father. I have to be really careful.
@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
20 Jul 22
I don't know eat is the solution., this is his house, but he isn't able to take care of himself or the cats or the house.
@JESSY3236 (19941)
• United States
19 Jul 22
That's sad. You may have to rehome them.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
19 Jul 22
I don't know if I will fully recover from this stroke. I feel for now I am as good as I will get.
@misunderstood_zombie (8142)
• United States
19 Jul 22
I'm sorry he can't keep up with them. He must love them a lot to want to keep them around. I hope your social worker calls you back soon, can call a supervisor or someone else to say you are not getting the help you need.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
20 Jul 22
She reached me this morning.
Ii really can't keep up with the cats.
