What would you do?

@sol_cee (38219)
Philippines
October 5, 2022 5:28pm CST
My friend sent me a message asking me if she did the right thing or not. Her kumare (godmother of her baby) is bugging her for a loan on Facebook. She said this person already owed her money before and is now asking for a second loan promising to pay everything in the near future. WTH? I hate people like this. You owe someone money, you pay first before asking for another loan. Or end up losing good friends over broken trust. Sigh! Sorry, got carried away. Too bad for me, I met a lot of thick- faced people like that in this lifetime. So did she lend her the money? Of course not. And she didn’t reply to the person’s FB message either. Talk about seen zoned. Silent treatment. Whatever. Then I saw this photo.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
5 Oct 22
This message is something I say a lot. Over the years I have learned to never loan money. Especially to family.
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@MarieCoyle (38592)
6 Oct 22
I have seen my own grown children borrow from each other in the past. I worried about it, thinking it could come between them if not repaid. But in all instances, it was repaid very quickly, I think it even brought them closer. They hadn't done it in years, then last year when my son was hurt, he borrowed some money from his brother. I worried he couldn't pay it back very quickly, but he sure did. He paid him in full. When I said something to him about it, which I normally don't do, he said, Mom, of course, we always pay each other back. Yay, I was so glad.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
@MarieCoyle I have six siblings and all of them owed me money which they never paid back. I'm not angry. At that time, I have the means to lend them money. But they can't borrow money from me again haha
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
@CarolDM Family is a tricky thing. You don't lend money, you are bad. You lend them money and you ask for the payment which they almost always forget, you are bad.
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@jobelbojel (36028)
• Philippines
5 Oct 22
When is the near future?
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@DaddyEvil (137504)
• United States
6 Oct 22
Likely, never.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
Pay you sa katapusan.. End of the world..
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
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@askme123 (6228)
5 Oct 22
Well if she didnot pay the first loan I would not lend her money again..Ignore her all the way
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@jobelbojel (36028)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
Seenzoned! You can ignore or tell her she still have outstanding balance.
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@askme123 (6228)
6 Oct 22
@sol_cee Agree
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
Ignore, ignore, ignore!
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@DaddyEvil (137504)
• United States
6 Oct 22
After not getting my money back the first time, I wouldn't even think about loaning more money to that person.
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@jobelbojel (36028)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
@DaddyEvil thinking of asking the bank if there is another offer. But thought of, no I don't need it , I thought my house and my childhood house is being built. But we don't need to borrow.
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@DaddyEvil (137504)
• United States
6 Oct 22
@sol_cee Oh, yes, several times. If I believe the person actually needs the money, I just give it to them. That way I don't expect it back and don't lose a friend. (I will only give money once to the same person, though.)
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
Has it ever happened to you?
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@RasmaSandra (80658)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
6 Oct 22
I totally agree that she should not lend the money if she was not paid back the first time, And the silent treatment is a good one,
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
I know, right? I sometimes use this technique lol
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@MrDenata (12262)
• Indonesia
5 Oct 22
I try to avoid that, S. That will ruin the friendship tho. I never do that to my friend. And remembe be careful about message on facebook, we have to call the person first just to make sure they write the message. How are you today, S?
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
Scammer alert! Lol, yeah that's a good point. Always confirm before sending your millions
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
@MrDenata why, you’re generous!
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@MrDenata (12262)
• Indonesia
6 Oct 22
@sol_cee always confirm before sending but i always avoid this loan things, so i will give them a little as a gift not a loan.
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@RebeccasFarm (90298)
• Arvada, Colorado
5 Oct 22
Glad that your friend did not lend it. Your saying there is quite appropriate. You know I would have to tell the woman ..what do you take me for a fool?
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• Arvada, Colorado
6 Oct 22
@sol_cee You are right always
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
My first option would have been to give her a tongue-lashing. But no, the silent treatment is way more deafening lol
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@JudyEv (341824)
• Rockingham, Australia
6 Oct 22
I agree completely. The lady really has a nerve to ask for a second loan.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
The nerve indeed! Like she got away the first time so maybe repeat performance?
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@Deepizzaguy (104006)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
6 Oct 22
The best way that I have taught to deal with a troll on social media is not to talk back to them since be keeping quiet it harms them better than give them satisfaction.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
Yas! It's a big slap to them when they're ignored lolll
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
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@Deepizzaguy (104006)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
6 Oct 22
@sol_cee It does work in shooing them away.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
6 Oct 22
Your friend used good sense. She should never loan this person money. .
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
Yeah, she’s too kind to be easily taken advantage of
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
6 Oct 22
@sol_cee You want to help people when you can but you can’t let them take advantage of you.
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
7 Oct 22
@RubyHawk I’ve been taken advantage before but I learned my lesson
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@Kandae11 (55131)
6 Oct 22
My decision to lend or not to lend would depend on a few things.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
True, there are things to consider and people to choose who to lend money to
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 22
No she should not loan her the money until paidd. Why isnt she working ?
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
I dunno, I guess my friend is way toooo nice and kind and generous and she tends to be abused by people who always take advantage of her
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@MarieCoyle (38592)
5 Oct 22
I agree. It's too bad in a way, possibly the person really does need money, but you just cannot always hand over money with no repayment. Been there, done that, no more.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
You know in my experience, desperate people tend to think of pathetic reasons to hustle money from someone, my baby is sick, my mother is in the hospital. One time someone borrowed money from me and she said her father was dying! But it turned out, her father was very healthy
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
@MarieCoyle I was really upset when I knew she lied and used her father just to get money
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@MarieCoyle (38592)
6 Oct 22
@sol_cee That's terrible, to say someone close to you is dying and isn't. Doesn't say much for the character of that person.
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@Beestring (14679)
• Hong Kong
6 Oct 22
Your friend did the right thing, not lending the money and silent treatment.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
@Beestring such a relief! What would you have done if he didn’t?
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
Have you had the same experience?
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@Beestring (14679)
• Hong Kong
6 Oct 22
@sol_cee I've lent money to my brother for his business needs. He did pay back on time.
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@shaggin (72192)
• United States
6 Oct 22
That’s awful. People are ridiculous to even ask for another loan after not paying off the first one. That definitely is a way to ruin a friendship.
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@shaggin (72192)
• United States
8 Oct 22
@sol_cee nope thankfully not
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
7 Oct 22
Has it ever happened to you?
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@LeaPea2417 (37369)
• Toccoa, Georgia
6 Oct 22
Yes, silence is a good answer in those situations.
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@LeaPea2417 (37369)
• Toccoa, Georgia
7 Oct 22
@sol_cee I agree.
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
7 Oct 22
And if the friend has common sense, she’ll know what that silence mean
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@moffittjc (121663)
• Gainesville, Florida
6 Oct 22
I am more than happy to help out someone in need, but if they’ve wronged me in the past by not paying me back, then they won’t get any future help from me.
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@moffittjc (121663)
• Gainesville, Florida
7 Oct 22
@sol_cee Sure, as long as you don’t ask me for money! Haha
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
7 Oct 22
Can you be my friend? Lol
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
6 Oct 22
I think she did the right thing. People who are in the habit of borrowing seldom repay.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
I think it’s like an addiction to them
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
7 Oct 22
@sol_cee Yes, they are like parasites and love living on other people's money.
@thelme55 (77168)
• Germany
6 Oct 22
I feel the same. I would be giving a silent treatment, too. I had a few experiences from those kind of people. I know how to say NO.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
How to say no nicely? Teach me
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
9 Oct 22
@thelme55 do they believe you?
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@thelme55 (77168)
• Germany
9 Oct 22
@sol_cee I usually say, Sorry I only have enough money for myself and my family and we still have a lot to pay for our bills. That’s it.
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• Philippines
6 Oct 22
I will not lend her money again if she does not repay the money I lent her the first time.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
6 Oct 22
Yeah, never again. Btw, long time, no see
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• Philippines
7 Oct 22
@sol_cee Yes, been busy these past few months