Do you have a good relationship with your family?
By Diana
@dya80dya (36769)
October 17, 2022 10:25am CST
I live in a house where my father can't stand me sometimes. He drinks a lot. I was talking to my mom and he was very angry because we were talking.
Strangers helped me more. I was lucky because I found kind people. I am sad because he has some anger issues and his behaviour is terrible. I talked to him too and I listened to all his problems. And he can't stand me. I have a brother and we never talk. I don't have a good relationship with my family.
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15 responses
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
17 Oct 22
I had a good relationship with my mom and Dad but they have both passed. I was close with one of my older sister but she passed away earlier this year. I have 4 other sisters but we are not close at all.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
19 Oct 22
It's not unusual to have misunderstandings in the family. We're all unique individuals and sometimes we clash, When I sense a family member has issues with me. I talk to him/her and ask him why he/she is behaving that way. Then I try to explain my side. I listen intently to what he has to say and try to see things in his/her perspective. Sometimes, I find something that was indeed unfair to her, and I also discuss it with him/her my issues.
Talking it out with the person saved me a lot of pain and misery. Misunderstandings were cleared and our bonds were strengthened from getting to know more about each other's thoughts.
Your father must have something he can't express freely, you could invite him to a weekend trip or a private lunch somewhere and talk to him or encourage him to tell you what's exactly troubling him about you.
Many anger and pain have been resolved just by honest communication. Good luck.
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@celticeagle (168296)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Oct 22
It sounds like he could use some counseling. Anger can be very scary. Why do you think you don't have a good relationship with your family?
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@moffittjc (121729)
• Gainesville, Florida
19 Oct 22
I had a great relationship with both of my parents. Sadly, they both have passed. I miss them.
I’m sorry to hear about the issues with your father. Has he given you a reason as to why he doesn’t like you?
@JESSY3236 (20040)
• United States
18 Oct 22
I always thought I had a good relationship with my family, but now I don't know.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
20 Oct 22
I’m sorry your dad is the way he is But he’s not likely to change. I also had an unhappy home growing up. If you’re of age you’ll have a better life moving out on your own. If you’re under age just keep a low profile and try not to anger him. Stay close to your good friends.
@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
18 Nov 22
My family, yes we have a closed and strong bonding except our distant relatives.
@Dreamerby (5881)
• Calcutta, India
29 Oct 22
I have a sister and we don't talk too. My dad- I love him but I cannot forgive him for one reason which I cannot state here. I absolutely love my mom though.
@Queenoflife (942)
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18 Oct 22
I have been living with my boyfriend for a year. I have good relations with my family.
@manandez (24)
• Petropolis, Brazil
18 Oct 22
Unfortunately my family didn't have a good relationship with me. I always felt something was wrong and I couldn't do anything as I was a little boy and couldn't go anywhere to save me from that environment. When I was 18, I was already in a good University and concentrated all my efforts on my studies and my job so, two years later, I managed to move on my own and live by myself since then. I remember I never went back to them to ask for anything and they never wanted to see if I was alright.
Even though, I think we all should try and forgive the family, or whomever was in charge of our education. They knew what they were doing, because they were the adults of the relation, and they will have to face what they did. Now, they are all gone, only one aunt is alive. Somtimes she calls me, but sometimes it is still painful to remember all the pain they caused and I block myself.
@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
17 Oct 22
I married at 18 years of age and never again lived with my biological family. I thank that was the best.