Breaking Up Is Hard Anytime.

@Kandae11 (55131)

December 7, 2022 9:29am CST

This morning l heard a Christmas song titled : "What Do The Lonely Do At Christmas?" , and l thought of the many people who spend lonely Christmases due to death of loved ones or broken relationships. Talking about relationships , most people agree that the worst possible time for a breakup is during the Christmas holidays. I mean, who would want to break up with a boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse during or just before a holiday which focuses on family, love, caring and sharing. Have you ever had relationship problems just before Christmas? Have you ever spent a lonely Christmas? What should the lonely do ? Pixabay image.

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@rebelann (112959)

• El Paso, Texas

7 Dec 22

I wouldn't call it lonely but I usually spend Christmas alone now, before mom turned 95 I was always with her on Christmas.

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@rebelann (112959)

• El Paso, Texas

8 Dec 22

Yes but I especially miss how mom used to decorate our tree, she stopped doing that when she turned 85.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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8 Dec 22

@rebelann. Okay. Only the good memories left.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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8 Dec 22

You must miss her company.

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@LadyDuck (471979)

• Switzerland

7 Dec 22

I never broke a relationship during the Christmas holiday and I have never been alone and lonely for Christmas. What should the lonely do? Focus on something that make them happy. Treat themselves, go out at a restaurant for a nice meal. Host a small parties for other people who are lonely and alone.

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@LadyDuck (471979)

• Switzerland

8 Dec 22

@Kandae11 Those are people who would do the same even if they were not alone. I have known a few.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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7 Dec 22

All very good ideas. Although some people prefer to sit at home and brood , feeling sorry for themselves.

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@Brandford (49)

• Nairobi, Kenya

7 Dec 22

You must a perfect partner, keep it up.

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@allknowing (137553)

• India

7 Dec 22

Never had that experience There is so much a person who lives alone can do with their time to keep them happy. If nothing there is the virtual world they can depend on.

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@allknowing (137553)

• India

8 Dec 22

@Kandae11 I think sometimes neighbours and friends can be better than family

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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8 Dec 22

The virtual world definitely. I am never lonely at Christmas - even though l am not in a relationship. I have family.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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8 Dec 22

@allknowing So very true.

@Tampa_girl7 (50580)

• United States

8 Dec 22

I’ve been blessed to have never had a lonely Christmas. If I were alone I’d invite people over.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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9 Dec 22

I would do the same.

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@dgobucks226 (35716)

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10 Dec 22

Any breakup is hard. Breaking up before Christmas would be pretty devasting. Thankfully, my relationship breakups occurred during the spring/summer so not as bad. I've not ever spent Christmas totally alone so not sure how I would react. Each person defines and deals with loneliness in their own way. Some even celebrate it You cannot be lonely if you like the person, you're alone with is one way to see it. Or as Roy Orbison said, "Only the lonely know the way I feel tonight." Being alone is in the eye of the beholder...

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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11 Dec 22

Some people actually enjoy solitude. Over the years l have been alone ( by choice) for an entire year - sometimes even two or three but I never feel alone because family members are always around.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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11 Dec 22

When it leads to depression - that would be the beginning of serious problems

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@dgobucks226 (35716)

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12 Dec 22

@Kandae11 Yes, having someone near to talk with when you need it is extremely important.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Dec 22

I have lost so many family members in December I just don't do Christmas for now. Maybe one day. Many lonely people out there.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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9 Dec 22

That must have been very difficult for you. So sorry.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

10 Dec 22

@Kandae11 Thank you.

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@snowy22315 (181955)

• United States

7 Dec 22

I am sure I have, but reaching out to others than may be even more lonely is the best thing to do.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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7 Dec 22

I agree. Some do not even have a cat or a dog.

@vandana7 (100531)

• India

9 Jan 23

I am basically a loner. So I don't really miss company that much...to feel sad.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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9 Jan 23

Me too.

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@sjvg1976 (41289)

• Delhi, India

9 Jan 23

No, I never had such an experience. Maybe I am lucky that I didn't lose or had broken a relationship during a festive time.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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9 Jan 23

Happened to me a few times.

@RebeccasFarm (90294)

• Arvada, Colorado

7 Dec 22

The lonely..what should they do? Find connection if possible, easier said than done. All my break ups were very welcome by me, so I was exhilarated and free and happy, no regrets. Lucky in that way.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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7 Dec 22

Mine was a relief as well, except a few of those during my late teen years.

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@RebeccasFarm (90294)

• Arvada, Colorado

7 Dec 22

@Kandae11 Yes in teen years we tend to be more feeling not hardened yet by bad experiences. I remember one boy fondly always to this day.

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@Marilynda1225 (83062)

• United States

9 Dec 22

I am fortunate to be able to say I never broke up or was broken up with around the holidays.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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9 Dec 22

Very good.

@andriaperry (117130)

• Anniston, Alabama

15 Dec 22

I have

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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15 Dec 22

Its not a nice situation to be in.

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@db20747 (43440)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

19 Jan 23

Many times I thought we were going to go out for Christmas and didn't go. I was ok, but it would have been good to go out for new years.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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20 Jan 23

You didn't't go out last Christmas or new year's ? Well the way time is flying another Christmas and New Years is just around the corner - next time could be different.

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@Brandford (49)

• Nairobi, Kenya

7 Dec 22

Actually breaking up can cause mental illness because of overthinking.

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@Kandae11 (55131)

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8 Dec 22

Depends on the circumstances of the breakup , like what caused it.

@JudyEv (341752)

• Rockingham, Australia

8 Dec 22

Our son is on his own in another city. He and other singles get together for a simple meal. They call themselves 'the orphans'. I used to worry about him being alone but I don't so much now.

@Kandae11 (55131)

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8 Dec 22

It is good to have a plan , singles getting together for a meal should help a lot.

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@aureliah (24316)

• Kenya

15 Dec 22

It is never lonely now since I have my son but I bet breaking up before Christmas is hard