What Would Make You Lose Respect for Someone?

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For me respect is something that has to be earned, just like trust (I do treat people with consideration, though). Obviously, if I can’t trust someone, then I wouldn’t be able to respect them. Trust is not something which comes easily to me. I learned, early on, that the people I should have been able to trust & depend on I couldn’t or at least not as much as I should have. Different experiences in my life have just compounded that. The two people I trusted the most, my grandma & my cousin, have both passed. I do trust my bestie & another close person. They're the two people who know the worst I’ve been through in my life. I’m a fairly private person. I open up more as I get closer to & feel more comfortable with someone. Even then, I only reveal so much. I trusted these two friends that they’d understand, wouldn’t judge, wouldn’t tell others, that they'd care. I was right on all of those counts. My inner work & healing has really helped with this. I may be wrong, but I’m thinking people have different criteria for why they respect someone. For me it’s those that do what they’re able to for others. I volunteer & I’ve found that those who also do seem to be kinder, more generous & accepting than the average person. There’s other ways people can display these qualities besides volunteering. Taking an older or disabled neighbor shopping or to appointments, for example. Firefighters regularly put themselves on the line risking their lives to save others. What are reasons you respect someone? What would make me lose respect is someone who harms others, especially, animals or children. Two things they could do specifically to me that would make me lose respect is if they questioned my loyalty or integrity. That’s also a good way to make me angry. I rarely experience that, but I will be pushed there by that attitude. What makes you lose respect for another person?