A health Adventure

By Faye
@FayeHazel (40243)
United States
December 23, 2022 4:05pm CST
So, momma has been doctoring in Minneapolis which is an hour and half away from us. Complicating issues, it is a major metropolitan area which gets a lot of traffic. I do poorly in traffic, as does she. A lot of people don't understand this. Yes, I do drive. Yes, I'm a nervous driver. No, I don't willing put myself or others at danger, yes, it is worth it for me to not drive in conditions where I feel unsafe. Yes, I plan my routes out ahead of time, yes, I will drive longer if it means less getting triggered into an anxiety attack. As a result of this - we have been blessed enough to find a volunteer driver who gets paid for mileage through a local organization. However it adds a level of complexity to care and sometimes her appointments take all day. So, happily she found an oncologist here in this area that she likes. She will keep her Dr. in Minneapolis, but be mainly seen by this one here. Making transportation much easier. We went to see that new Dr. the other day. To be honest I'm not sure what I think of this one. She was kind, and suggested a few different things. However I felt like they were trying to push mom to not take treatments anymore. Yes, that means ... well... giving up. Essentially. I know, they have to let people know all of their options, and that this is an option, but I just don't like how they dwelled on the negative. There are more treatment options available for mom and mom says as long as there are treatments available she wants to keep trying YES that is my strong fighter momma. So this Dr. wants to do all the scans and blood draws over again. Well, I guess that's natural... mom has had all that, but they want it done here, so they have their own, fresh copies of things. I guess that's what you want them to do, be thorough. I just don't know what is better, trying this new Dr. out for the convivence of receiving treatment close to home, or staying with the old Dr. I guess if she doesn't like the level of care here she can always switch back. On the upside there are lots of extra programs out here that we could participate in. Free Reiki (energy work) mom is interested in. And Art therapy for Caregivers I'm interested in. Please send your continued prayer and wishes that mom stays healthy and that this disease leaves her and that this is the right choice we're making. Thanks all Photo : AI generated image of momma by MyHeritage AI
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@much2say (55905)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Dec 22
Sending healing thoughts out your mom's way . That is a tough call . . . I would have to go with the doctor who would be most caring and give the best treatment possible above everything else. Keeping you both in my thoughts .
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@much2say (55905)
• Los Angeles, California
29 Dec 22
@FayeHazel It's good your mom has options . . . I truly hope it works out for her and that she gets well.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
30 Dec 22
@much2say Thanks, I too find comfort in knowing that there are options.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
29 Dec 22
Thanks, so true... so far we will see if we like what this Dr. recommends. If not, we go back to the first one. Thank you so much .
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@RasmaSandra (80635)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Dec 22
I wish her all the best and many blessings and will keep her in my prayers,
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
29 Dec 22
Thank you so much for that.
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@sallypup (61569)
• Centralia, Washington
30 Dec 22
I spent part of my childhood in Mpls and St. Paul. I totally agree with you on not being willing to drive in gigantic city traffic. I live about an hour and a half from Seattle. I refuse to drive anywhere near there. It's not worth the horror and the what if a semi mows me down? The doctor near you is probably a capable doctor.
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@sallypup (61569)
• Centralia, Washington
30 Dec 22
@FayeHazel Don't find your nervousness about driving in heavy traffic as a failing. Its not. Its called wanting to live!
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
30 Dec 22
Oh wow, small world :-) Seems like there is always something amazing or fun happening in MSP but yes, the drive to get there. Sorry you deal with it too, but it makes me feel so less alone that you know exactly what I mean about the driving. Yes, not worth the stress or potentially dangerous driving situation. Yeah I am hoping that this dr. just needs more time to get to know us.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
2 Jan 23
@sallypup Thanks, I try not to be upset by it. Sometimes it's a hinderance ... and others don't get it. They say "just do it". But I don't believe in driving when I genuinely don't feel safe doing so, because like you say, it risks my life and the life of others, literally.
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@just4him (317249)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Dec 22
I love the AI of your mother. I wouldn't trust the negativity of this new doctor. I'm glad your mother is a fighter. I will keep your momma in my prayers.
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@just4him (317249)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Dec 22
@FayeHazel Yes, it does. You're welcome.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
29 Dec 22
Thanks, that app is super fun, it chooses different historical costumes. Thank you so much for the prayers. Prayer works.
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@JudyEv (341752)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 Dec 22
It's so hard but so important to find a doctor you feel comfortable with and that you can trust. I hope it all works out well for you and your mother.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
29 Dec 22
Thank you, so true there.
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@nela13 (58720)
• Portugal
27 Dec 22
If you didn't like the suggestion of this new doctor, go back to the one you trust. I know it is far from you but you will surely find a driver. I will keep your mom in my prayers. Wish you all the best.
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@nela13 (58720)
• Portugal
29 Dec 22
@FayeHazel really hope everything goes well with you and your mom.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
30 Dec 22
@nela13 Thank you friend
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
29 Dec 22
Thank you so much, prayer works.
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@jstory07 (139782)
• Roseburg, Oregon
24 Dec 22
I will say a prayer for your Mom and family. I hope your Mom does really good.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
29 Dec 22
Thank you it is much appreciated. Prayer works.
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@jstory07 (139782)
• Roseburg, Oregon
29 Dec 22
@FayeHazel Yes they do.
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