Its your child ....you pay !

You say don't have children if you cant afford them. Do you actually stop to think about what is the coast of childcare around the world not just in one location. As a mother of three kids. Life doesn't work the way you want it to. You can't have all the things you want before you start a family. Also people assume just don't have children when you don't have money but you don't know when that might happen and your health risks go up. That mainly for females since males don't have to risk there life to support a growing human inside of them. Then you forgot to account in unplanned pregnancy. A large amount of prengancy are usually unplanned. That doesn't mean that protection. Its not as simple as don't have kids. Many factors go into not or having kids and healthy risk. In the US public school is for free. Some work places offer free day care for kids but not all. Daycare normally don't provided and education. The amount of money for it is that some people have to work 3 jobs. My husband and I worked it out early on. We live in the richest county but only 1% off 99% of the population is rich. The other 99% of us are poor, or low class to the point we have to find outside help someone willing to work for less or one parent has to give up work lowing the monthly income. We did that and then applied for government assistance to make up the difference. That helps put food on the table. Housing is for free since we live in a family owned home but we pay all of the bills on it. The kids get free lunch and breakfast at school as they would like. Youngest actually eats at home because of food allergies. before you tell me I shouldn't have kids. I'll straight up tell you none were planned protection was used but that didn't mean I didn't want them once I knew I was pregnant. I was a mess with my second pregnancy because I missed carried one twin. The thing is unless you in that person shoes you wont understand what they are going through and what they need and want. It would be nice to have universale health care and childcare. Knowing if you need it's there to help you not take money that could be used for food or a bill.

I have mixed feelings about this. I agree, people should try to create a stable and settled home before they have children. But of course bad things do happen - job losses, chronic illness, accidents - that impact a person's ability to earn a living and provide for their children and no-one can foresee or plan for everything that might happen. There's also the question of whether the parents or society are responsible for the children. Directly of course it's the parents. But it is in the interests of society in general to produce a healthy and educated population for the future, otherwise we have to pay in terms of healthcare costs and lack of an educated workforce. And then there's the issue of equality. If childcare is expensive, one parent is likely to choose to stay at home to look after the child (especially if there is more than one). And guess what? In almost all cases it is the woman who gives up her job. That means that women with children are far more likely, later on, to end up in lower-paid jobs, with less up-to-date experience and skills, and with less pension credits, and as a result there are far more poor older women than older men.

But they are paid for having kids right, child benefit and all ...yeah I know disgraceful.

I agree with you 100%. I think people in many places, including my own country, have become too used to certain "entitlements," and the one thing that is sorely missing is responsibility. If I get a Cadillac instead of a Kia, I have to pay the cost. If I get an iPhone over a cheaper model, it's up to me to pay for it... And when you have kids, it is no one else's responsibility but the parent's to make sure all of the child's needs are met. I don't mind paying taxes for important things. But when it becomes, I work hard to pay my own way AND get forced to pay taxes to pay someone else's way? I get a bit peeved.

I don't have any children yet , I recently talked to my mother , again the same question, when will there be grandchildren? , but I soberly assess the situation , we are not ready financially yet , I also understand that children are for always , responsibility , big expenses and all my free time .

I believe that everyone should be responsible for their children and provide for them. However, there are sometimes such life situations, random and unfortunately, but parents cannot cope, and yet they have a child and they love it. Then I think help is needed. Of course, I'm not talking about people who shirk from work, don't care about children, and take such financial help.