Is being sexy all in the mind?
By Jenaisle
@Jenaisle (14078)
Philippines
May 7, 2023 6:40pm CST
I admire women who believe they are sexy no matter what they were wearing whether they are physically fat, petite, tall, ugly, or beautiful, they exude confidence and yes - sexiness.
There are many women who have physical beauty but they lack self-confidence, hence, they appear "ugly" because of their low self-esteem.
And by the way, there is such a thing as true beauty or inner beauty - the beauty of character - that radiates from the inside and eradicates whatever the woman's physical defects are.
What about you guys (including our men), What are your thoughts on this?
For men, do you prioritize a woman's physical assets over her character? What's sexy to you?
For women, what are your thoughts on this?
Thank you.
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15 responses
@allknowing (136531)
• India
8 May 23
That would be judged by the number of men ogling?
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Could be. I wonder where the men are. No male has answered the question yet.
@ptrikha_2 (46962)
• India
8 May 23
Well it is a tricky and not so chartered area on Mylot!
I think the looks do matter but once you start knowing a person it is the overall thoughts and interests that make more difference.
And yes, mind does play a role.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
10 May 23
I think so, and it also depends on what era you're in. Many centuries ago, people viewed fat women as seductive and slim ones as sickly. Nonetheless, in today's society, skinny girls are viewed as healthy-looking, whereas obese girls are seen as unhealthy.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
10 May 23
@JenaisleBut, for males, little has changed. Many still perceive men to be hot when they are strong and robust, and slim guys to be less appealing.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
10 May 23
@rsa101 I guess, we couldn't change their perception overnight, but slowly more women are aware that masculinity doesn't depend only on muscle and brawn. I mean, you may be "big" there but if you don't know how to use it properly, and you don't have humor and common sense, then nothing is impressive about you. (I'm referring to men.)
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 May 23
Well, what your talking about isn't sexiness, sexiness is how a person feels about something of themselves, nthanot others. It has nothing to do with continence or not.
This is about attractions men and women are attracted to a lot of different things. It can be about how a person carries themselves whether they are confident or shy. it can be about how you dress or don't dress. A certain part of the body.
To me I think I feel sexy in a pair of good heels or panties that I normally don't wear but to my husband sexiness is me wearing nothing. He'd also finds it sexy if we are out somewhere I do something I shouldn't like pulling out my panties and giving them to him, or not wearing a bar. Okay, 90% of the time I don't wear a bra but that's more for me then it is for him. They are just evil and uncomfortable.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May 23
@ShyBear88 It's just a word and the definition is relative.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 May 23
@Jenaisle Sexy is just a word there is no clear-cut or dry definition of what sexy is or isn't. Its all about attraction that's what it is. We actually look at some for less than 30 and the brain already knows if we like them or not by what we see with zero interaction. Connections are made before we even try to put any real thought into
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@wolfgirl569 (106362)
• Marion, Ohio
8 May 23
People, men or women, can look good by being friendly and honest
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@snowy22315 (180805)
• United States
8 May 23
I say beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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I know what you mean. 
@LindaOHio (178816)
• United States
8 May 23
A woman who is not attractive can become sexy in the eyes of someone who loves her. It's all relative. Wishing you a Happy Monday!
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@pitsipeahie (5015)
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8 May 23
For me, the concept of "sexy" can be subjective. It can vary from one person to another. However, it is true that our mindset can greatly influence how we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us. Confidence, self-assuredness, and a positive attitude can all contribute to "feeling" and "being perceived" as sexy. On the other hand, the opposite - self-doubt, insecurities, and negative self-talk can detract from one's perceived sexiness. So, while physical attributes can play a role in attractiveness, it is ultimately one's mindset and attitude that can make a significant difference whether they are to be perceived as sexy.
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@pitsipeahie (5015)
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8 May 23
@Jenaisle It does happen, its not impossible that when you feel sexy, then you exude that aura of sexiness that radiates to other people and make them perceive you as sexy EVEN if you do not look like one or you do not fit the typical physical mold of sexiness.
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