Some parents in India are still spoiling their children
@aninditasen (16505)
Raurkela, India
May 21, 2023 9:53am CST
A few days back while I was chopping vegetables I saw from my kitchen window two mothers accompaning their teenaged children to the bus stop. Both the mothers were carrying their children's bags. Now both the children, a boy and a girl were quite old enough to carry their own school bags. Aren't the mothers spoiling their children? These children will not learn to do their own work and will depend on their parents for long. They will find it difficult to handle their work by themselves when they have to leave alone.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 May 23
@aninditasen that's the right training for kids.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
I taught my children to do their own work when they were say 10 or 11 as I knew they would go out of home one day and handle their own work.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
Such children in India do become dependent and their parents have to travel with them to their work place to help them with their work.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
You are right. Children should be taught to be independent and responsible when they are children.
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@much2say (55901)
• Los Angeles, California
23 May 23
@aninditasen When we were in school, most of us did not have backpacks like kids do today. I remember my friend and I carried all our textbooks in our arms - it was quite a stack on most days - I think she would agree that we wouldn't even think to make our parents carry our things.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
23 May 23
@much2say I agree with you. Compassion comes from childhood. We did our own work even before we were teenagers.
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@psanasangma (7281)
• India
22 May 23
I often see some mothers doing these to their children. I always thought it might be normal for them to do so 
because when I was at school my mother always makes us to do by our own, Very Opposite! Once I got surprise when I saw one of the candidates was fed by his mother while he was with book, this was when I went for Post graduation entrance exam in one of the Universities. While returning to my home I kept thinking how much their parents would be expecting from her son meanwhile me, still travelling 150 kms what would I tell to my parents how my entrance exam goes? 
because when I was at school my mother always makes us to do by our own, Very Opposite! Once I got surprise when I saw one of the candidates was fed by his mother while he was with book, this was when I went for Post graduation entrance exam in one of the Universities. While returning to my home I kept thinking how much their parents would be expecting from her son meanwhile me, still travelling 150 kms what would I tell to my parents how my entrance exam goes? 2 people like this
@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
Feeding children till they are adults is a scene we still can see in India. At least I didn't do that to my children but I had to do that sometimes with my husband when he was getting late for work.
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@DaddyEvil (137477)
• United States
21 May 23
Parents in India let their kids be kids much longer than parents in the US. Pretty was carrying her own stuff when she started school at 5 years old. I bought her a backpack for her stuff. She was perfectly capable of carrying it herself. I did make sure she got everything in it before we left for school each day, though.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
You are right. In India mothers just can't accept the fact that their children growing and have to be taught to take their own responsibility.
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@DaddyEvil (137477)
• United States
22 May 23
@aninditasen I've noticed that mothers in India continue to do the kids' laundry, make their beds and hang up their clean clothes for much longer than parents in the US do, as well... My Indian brother still asks his mom where his clothes are when he's getting ready for work. He's 31 years old. Pretty does her own laundry and makes her own bed... She doesn't hang her clothes up but I don't hang her clothes up, either. She can wear them wrinkled if she wants.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
@DaddyEvil I do my son's laundry as I run the washing machine now at his place but he does irons them before going to the office. He will be doing everything by himself when I am back home and he is alone. Now too when the maid is on leave he cleans the whole house not me.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
27 May 23
However less Indian parents understands it.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
29 May 23
@banksim Had parents understood this, so many old parents in India shouldn't have suffered alone when they are infirm.
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@banksim (5256)
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29 May 23
@aninditasen yes but now people are understanding it
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@RebeccasFarm (90294)
• Arvada, Colorado
21 May 23
Hmm.. I wonder why the mothers choose to do this? It seems that is not teaching the kids anything much.
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@RebeccasFarm (90294)
• Arvada, Colorado
22 May 23
@aninditasen Yes indeed and do not know how to fend for themselves.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
23 May 23
@RebeccasFarm Yes, and create trouble in the family.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
No, they like to keep their children dependent on them till they are adults for which such parents suffer a lot when they are old. Such children become inconsiderate adults.
@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
23 May 23
That's true and they start thinking exploitation is their birth right.
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@JudyEv (341752)
• Rockingham, Australia
22 May 23
@aninditasen I have read of examples of such behaviour. It's very sad.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
@JudyEv Yes, it's sad to see the parents suffer when they are infirm as such children grow as inconsiderate adults.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
They do and make them work till they are infirm.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
Yes, at 13 or 14 they are old enough to carry their own bags.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
Note books are reduced because some schools are allowing children to store notes in smart phones. Yet heavy schools bags have been there since I was in school.
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@Butterfingers (66583)
• India
21 May 23
I think it's OK because their bags are quite heavy
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
School bags have been heavy since I was in school and both me and then my children have carried the weight.
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@Butterfingers (66583)
• India
22 May 23
@aninditasen yes me too but I'll carry these for my kids in the future
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
That's right. Hand holding can be done uptil some age, say 5 to 10 but not after that.
@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
23 May 23
That's true which they realize when they are infirm.
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@snowy22315 (181985)
• United States
21 May 23
That is stupid and short sighted in my opinion
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
It is short sighted as such children don't become independent easily and give their parents lot of trouble even after they are adults.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
You are right and that's what is happening in some families in India.
@Tampa_girl7 (50603)
• United States
21 May 23
At that age they should carry their own bags.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
They should and rather help their parents in small errands.
@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
22 May 23
Some children aren't in India. Rather they think it's their birth right to make their parents work till they are infirm.
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