My Friend's Secret Relationship...

He should cut it off with the new woman..it will only bring him very bad karma.

You might point out to your colleague that divorce is expensive and his children will feel that he's abandoning them. His best option would be to tell the new woman to leave him alone and then make sure he doesn't contact her again. He needs to fix whatever is wrong in his marriage. He doesn't have to love his wife but getting along with her and staying married could work to his advantage.

It is pretty clear to me: he needs to cut off all contact with the second woman. He made a commitment to his first wife, and he deepened that commitment when he brought two children into the world with her. If he continues his deceitful ways he is going to end up blowing up his life for what may end up being a temporary infatuation. He’s enamored by a new, shiny toy. That usually doesn’t last. Making a marriage work can be incredibly rewarding. You’ll never know if you give up with the slightest distraction.

It is simple. Leave the new woman and try to fix his marriage. Try to remember he has a wife and two adorable children. Having an affair may be happy for a while, but once this situation is found, he can't afford to lose his wife and children at last.

This is a question of fidelity and responsibility. Your friend should be man enough to stand by his vows to his wife and his responsibility towards his children. How could he be thinking of abandoning his family for another woman? That's infidelity and only fools and persons who are not man enough would do it. The best option is for him to cut ties with the second woman and focus on strengthening and supporting his family. I'm sure if he tries hard enough, he could renew the "fire" between him and his wife. I hope he decides correctly and does not give in to temptation. I'm telling you, he will eventually regret it, if he does.

He should not cheat the women. If he has some issues with his marriage, he should try to fix his marriage. It's a shame he is cheating on his wife.

That is indeed a complicated situation especially if your culture does not allow multiple marriages like some religions tolerate such practice. I think she should stick to his original family since even if she marries the second girl it would be void since he is still legally married to his 1st wife. Unless there is a law in your country that allows such.

He is a happily married man but still, he got tempted. I would rather tell him that this is just one trial of a husband who may fall trapped into another woman just because they were attracted to each other. He should be honest with the second woman, and if this is a decent woman, she may get rid of him because he is already married and doesn't want to ruin another family and marriage. Before everything goes South, let your friend think he may develop problems in the future if he let that relationship last long.

My advice would be to cut immediately with the woman on FB. He is ruining his life, the life of his wife and also his children.

He is already a husband and a father. I think it is selfish of him to start a new relationship. Has his current wife wronged him in some way to deserve this betrayal ?

Does he talk about this openly with you and your other co-workers? I wonder why the first wife doesn't have a clue that her husband is not faithful?

He needs to leave the FB woman. His wife will find out.

Adultery is bad no matter what. If I would be in your place. I would stay away from this matter. You can suggest him as per your thinking. Take care

We should be careful with the social media

I see no confusion here. Writing as they say is clear on the wall He has to call it a day with his second marriage.

The first question would be doing he get divorced from his first marriage. Many people get married and divorced and remarried no big deal at all. My husband's mom and dad both got remarried at some point after their divorce was finalized. I do know in some places having two marriages at the same time is acceptable. I know in the US it isn't you can only be legally married to one person. You can have whatever relationship outside of that marriage as long in my option the other person is okay with that. (That's just me being poly other people married and having other partners doesn't both me as long as all parties know what is going on. When I mean poly, I mean Polygamous not that I believe someone should be married to two or five people at one time. lol not the same thing as being Polygamous.) The first thing he should do is talk to his partner and tell her what is going on. key to all healthy relationships is to talk and not keep secrets.

There is a saying 'Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practise to deceive' and I think that applies here. You don't mention divorce but is bigamy illegal there? I just think your colleague is really stupid to have got himself into this mess.

He should tell both women the truth and they will decide his fate.

Tell him the truth. You better stick with what you got. Another woman is nothing but a trap.

The only advice l would give him is to stick with the family he already has.