Did you ever get fed up?

@Jenaisle (14078)

Philippines

June 4, 2023 1:59am CST

Did you ever get fed up to the point where you want to burst into anger? This person keeps repeating her offenses and you keep tolerating her but there are times, I wanted to throw in the towel and just give her a piece of my mind. I hesitate though as I may be wrong in my interpretation of her actions. I wanted to have a heart-to-heart talk with her but I am not sure if I would be able to contain it because it's like opening Pandora's box. Everything would come pouring out like a raging river that I may not be able to stop. For the sake of peace and happiness in the family, I intend to keep it all to myself and pray instead for understanding and acceptance. She may be trying her best to do what is right, I'm just too sensitive. So, for now, I will keep the peace and let go of all my negative thoughts. God help me. This method had succeeded so far. What about you? What would you do in this situation? I would appreciate it if you share your two cents' worth with me. Thank you. Photo is mine.

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@astutimeliana723 (4626)

• Indonesia

4 Jun 23

When I'm angry with someone, I'll shut up and stay away. I will come back when feeling better.

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

That's a good way of blowing off steam, Thank you.

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@astutimeliana723 (4626)

• Indonesia

4 Jun 23

@Jenaisle Yes, you are right. You are welcome.

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@much2say (55562)

• Los Angeles, California

4 Jun 23

I too am in such a situation with a family member - that is a long story. Although we remain civil face to face, I cannot have a heart-to-heart talk with this person because like you say it opens Pandora's box . . . in my case she gets very nasty and weird. All sides that matter are actually on my side . . . but still there is this tension and it keeps me rattled. I keep calm (even if I am not inside) and stay vague in our communications . . . I already know she is more stubborn than I and tends to lash out before getting all the information . . . I cannot talk to her. As I said, we keep civil, but unfortunately, we will never be close.

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

7 Jun 23

@much2say Thank you. I'm hoping so too. Take care,

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

Wow, you heat the nail on the head. That's exactly what's going on here. She's so stubborn and thinks that she is always right. And would flare up easily. I guess I may have to do what you have done.

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@much2say (55562)

• Los Angeles, California

7 Jun 23

@Jenaisle Ah, I wish you the best with your situation . . . I know it's NOT easy for sure. I really don't like to internalize things, but with my own sister - ugh - there is NO talking things out with her. I truly hope you can work things out better with your person

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@sjvg1976 (41281)

• Delhi, India

4 Jun 23

It is sometimes better to keep yourself quiet to keep peace at home. Many times it happens I don't agree with what my parents or wife say but I have to nod my head just because they don't feel bad. I feel better and easy to do it than to oppose them.

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

I see, Yes, I nearly talked back last month but I'm glad I stopped myself, or we would be having problems now. That's one way of resolving the problem.

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@sjvg1976 (41281)

• Delhi, India

4 Jun 23

@Jenaisle Yes if you want to retain your relations then this is the best way.

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@LadyDuck (471337)

• Switzerland

4 Jun 23

Hard to advice if you know almost nothing about the situation.

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

I guess so.

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

@LadyDuck I understand what you mean. Thanks.

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@LadyDuck (471337)

• Switzerland

4 Jun 23

@Jenaisle - It's very different if a person is part of the family, a co-worker or someone you just know.

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@Kandae11 (54986)

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4 Jun 23

" For the sake of peace and happines in the family" - by that statement l will hazard a guess that it is a family issue . Those are hardest to resolve because you are most likely around that person often and of course it would be easier for you if you are not in the vicinity. I do not know just how serious a matter it is, if it may be affecting your peace of mind only you will know that. So depending on how seriously you view the matter , try talking to someone you can trust - maybe your church leader. If you are a praying person - take it to the Lord in prayer, he will fix it for you.

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

You do have a discerning mind. Thanks for your thoughts. I do try to eschew my anger by praying every night. I know I can succeed if I keep doing it. Your advice is well taken.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

4 Jun 23

I think we have all encountered certain people that make us angry. Taking a deep breath and maybe stepping back from the situation helps. It has helped me, I should say. I avoid drama.

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

5 Jun 23

Right, I don't like drama too. I avoid it at all cost. I really have to step back. Thanks, Carol.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Jun 23

@Jenaisle You are so welcome. I wish you luck.

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@snowy22315 (180452)

• United States

4 Jun 23

As the others have said, hard to know what to say when we know next to nothing about the situation.

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

Yes, I understand. It's hard to judge when all the facts are not on the table.

@RebeccasFarm (89831)

• Arvada, Colorado

4 Jun 23

Yes I got fed up all the time..just get away from it whatever it is.

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

Yes, I will, thanks Oshy, I will go on vacation during school break.

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@jstory07 (139579)

• Roseburg, Oregon

4 Jun 23

I hope it will all work out for you.

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

Thank you. I hope I could make it work again this time.

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@wolfgirl569 (105945)

• Marion, Ohio

4 Jun 23

If it is bothering you it will explode at some time. So it could be better to try to have a talk before that happens

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

I'm crossing my fingers that it won't happen. But I will be considering your suggestion too.

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@RasmaSandra (79714)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

4 Jun 23

When I have been really angry with anyone I just keep away from them. I wish you luck in resolving your situation,

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

Thank you, Rasma. I try to be away, so now, I'm taking a vacation.

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@LindaOHio (178131)

• United States

4 Jun 23

Without knowing who the person is to you and the whole situation, it's hard to give any suggestions.

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

Yes, I understand your point. There should be more facts presented. Take care,

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@LindaOHio (178131)

• United States

4 Jun 23

@Jenaisle You take care as well.

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@ihasaquestion (8274)

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5 Jun 23

Yep, maintaining peace is better for your goodness..be patient okay. Hugs.

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

5 Jun 23

Thank you. Stay safe and take care

@MrDenata (12248)

• Indonesia

4 Jun 23

looks like she is one of your family members. If I were you, I will try to talk to one of her and tell her what you feel, because you are only human, if someone made a mistake, tell them, talk to them in a good way. You're not an angel Jen, I do not want someday when you can't take it anymore it will explode. You have to make sure that you're mental health matters, always

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

4 Jun 23

You have good judgment Ric. Thanks for saying that. I wouldn't want to explode, so I pray every night to counter my anger. I'm really not an angel, I'm more of a demon.

. I can feel your concern and will take care of my mental health. Take care too and stay healthy.