Do you think toxic people have an attitude problem?
@cacay1 (83577)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
August 13, 2023 7:41pm CST
We are surrounded by different kinds of personalities, but what we dislike most are people showing toxic manners despite we're good to them. They always have long faces and look unhappy but when you call them they just look at us with fierce looks a body language showing anger at the person.
It happened to me in the faculty office weeks ago and felt so embarrassed. I greeted my boss with a happy and smiling face only to receive no response even a single sound or nodding of the head. My colleagues understood my feeling and they called me and greeted me happily. My colleagues are also afraid of her. She is not friendly and smiling. She seems always mad and nosy. But last week she was hospitalized and operated on " Thyroidectomy ". There were only a few teachers visiting her including me, but I already forgave her. I do not know her problems in life.
She announced in our group chat she will no longer be our boss and all were shocked but pleased with the news, lol. What can you say about toxic people?
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@Beestring (14694)
• Hong Kong
14 Aug 23
I try to stay away from toxic people. They affect my mood.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Aug 23
@Beestring, I can't stay away she is my program head hehe, but she's replaced.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
15 Aug 23
@Beestring , classes start on August 20 and we will be having a cheerful and approachable male boss.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Aug 23
@marguicha, I am trying too but I cannot do it to my program head. Well anyway she will be replaced.
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@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
14 Aug 23
@cacay1 I know what you mean. It is worse when those people are near us.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
15 Aug 23
@marguicha , yes, we are afraid of her. She just snobs people inside the faculty office.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
14 Aug 23
I distance myself from toxic people including certain family members. People who enjoy misery and are intent to try and draw me into it are in for a surprise. Facebook is turning into a social pity party with gaslighting memes and status'. I have deleted half of my friends because of it.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Aug 23
@Starmaiden, it's the best way to do to distance ourselves to avoid arguments.
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Aug 23
Toxic people are horrible. Very self-serving and weird in their thinking. I'd stay away from this person. And this person was a boss? Ugh! I guess this type of person is more apt to be put in such a position because they are forceful and enterprising. These types may have a back story but it still gives them no right to be so toxic.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
15 Aug 23
@celticeagle , very well said my friend, that is during the gathering she is not present. She might feel insecure because even her subordinates do not stay near her. She seems an introvert. I am an extrovert and I have many friends in the office and in the entire university, especially students. But we tried our very best to lease her, but she is indeed indifferent.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 Aug 23
@celticeagle that's right, people stay away from her.
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@much2say (56053)
• Los Angeles, California
14 Aug 23
I'm assuming all knew her to be toxic before her hospitalization. Too bad the procedure could not take out her toxic personality 
. But well, for whatever reason she is like this, it is really a shame she projects this attitude towards everyone. This toxicity was probably not good for her own health as well.
. But well, for whatever reason she is like this, it is really a shame she projects this attitude towards everyone. This toxicity was probably not good for her own health as well.2 people like this
@much2say (56053)
• Los Angeles, California
15 Aug 23
@cacay1 I don't know why some people have to be like that. I think when some people are in a boss/managerial position, they feel like they have to be so serious all the time, as if they need to look like they're in command all the time.
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yes, feeling proud and superior but God does not sleep.
@allknowing (137767)
• India
15 Aug 23
It may not be anything to do with you but herself I like to be with people who are cheerful
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
15 Aug 23
@alllkmwing yes, very true cheerful people make our day great. We are contaminated with their happy ways.
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@RebeccasFarm (90474)
• Arvada, Colorado
14 Aug 23
I think they have some missing humanity.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 Aug 23
@RebeccasFarm she's awful
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
15 Aug 23
@RebeccasFarm , maybe because she is hard to please. She is only happy when receives many gifts
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@innertalks (22088)
• Australia
16 Aug 23
The world is full of different types of personalities, and we can learn something from each type, as long as we stay within our own self, and do not get tempted to respond unnaturally towards them too.
Personality type does affect attitude, so I would say she has an attitude problem too.
How does one best deal with toxic people in one's life?
Every person around you has their own life to lead, but when it affects you negatively, it is because you are not living enough from the power of love to overcome all incoming stressors in your life.
Love absorbs all, and then never throws it back.
Just allow the toxic person to be who they are being, and you be yourself too, and hope that you and others, staying nice, will eventually rub off on them too.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Aug 23
@innertalks , we remain nice to her, she is our boss. We just ignore her toxic attitude.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 Aug 23
@innertalks I haven't visited her, she was discharged after announcing her stepping down from her position.
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@innertalks (22088)
• Australia
16 Aug 23
@cacay1 Yes, that is the right approach to take, I think too. It was nice of you to visit her in the hospital.
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@AmbiePam (93918)
• United States
14 Aug 23
I am glad you will no longer be exposed to that kind of behavior. Sadly, there are toxic people everywhere, even on Mylot. The important thing is to remember, them being toxic has nothing to do with you. They were toxic before you, and they will be toxic after. The misery they carry around eats at their soul, and eventually no one wants to be around them. They’d probably laugh it off if you said they were miserable, but you can tell by what comes out of their mouth that it is true. Happy people don’t spread toxicity.
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@kaylachan (71779)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Aug 23
I don't know her personally so I can't say that she was toxic. Some people just don't know how to express themselves emotionally, and that doesn't make them toxic. She might have personal stuff that make her the way she is.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Aug 23
@kaylachan, we been together for many years at the university where I'm teaching and she's our program head and we know well her attitude unfriendly and cannot be teased. She gets mad right away.
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
14 Aug 23
I don't like toxic people too but I want to give them a chance to be nice to me and I would enjoy their company
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Aug 23
@averygirl72, that's what I'm doing to my program head to remain nice courteous, and polite.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Aug 23
@DWDavis, that's the order from her medic to avoid taking so long sitting.There is part of her back affected because of her previous sickness. I stated it in my post. We know well she's our program head at the university where I'm teaching.
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