Do you get over it quickly?
By Amber
@AmbiePam (93297)
United States
August 14, 2023 11:55am CST
My sister is pretty irked with my dad (yes, I said irked), and when I tried to explain to him why, his reply was, "She can get glad in the same britches she got mad in" So basically, Sorry, Charlie! He used to say that to us growing up when we'd get upset with him. I'm not really sure when she's going to let her issue go, but she's been upset longer with him than I thought.
As my dad gets older, I'm much more inclined to let things go because we never know how much time we all have left. I'm not sure she's thinking about that. And really, it's hurt, not anger. He just can't see her point of view, unfortunately.
Life is just too short for that stuff. I think we just have to remember how much the good outweighs the bad. But hey, for about ten days I'm suddenly my sister's favorite relative! 
Not counting her husband and kids, of course.
How quickly do you "get over things"?
Not counting her husband and kids, of course.
How quickly do you "get over things"?29 people like this
29 responses
@snowy22315 (181198)
• United States
14 Aug 23
Something happened to my response...I don't get over things quickly, but it depends on who is doing what, and the circumstances around it.Did she tell dad she was hurt by him?
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@AmbiePam (93297)
• United States
14 Aug 23
Apparently, he's done this before, she's told him, and he's said he'd do better. He does for awhile, but then goes back to his old habits. This time, she didn't bother telling him, she just quit returning his texts.
Honestly, I can see both their sides, but ultimately, I think my sister is right. I don't agree with ignoring him because you never know when it's our last day on earth, but if forced to choose sides, I'm surprised to say I'd side with her. And, I think my dad knows that.
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@snowy22315 (181198)
• United States
14 Aug 23
@AmbiePam I sympathize Sis and I are more or less in a permanent state of irked with my mom because of her behaviors. I think at 85 though she isn't gonna change, and bottom line wie do love her and want her in our lives..so??
. I remember you talking about a tiff with your dad and sis before.Good luck!
. I remember you talking about a tiff with your dad and sis before.Good luck!2 people like this
@Tampa_girl7 (50349)
• United States
14 Aug 23
It truly is best not to go to bed mad. We are not promised tomorrow. I try very hard to forgive and move on.
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@RebeccasFarm (90065)
• Arvada, Colorado
14 Aug 23
Oh dear still? I like that saying what your Dad said though.
I like that saying what your Dad said though.2 people like this
@RebeccasFarm (90065)
• Arvada, Colorado
15 Aug 23
@AmbiePam By the way I have not heard that term britches for many years. haha
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@DaddyEvil (137277)
• United States
14 Aug 23
It honestly depends on what I'm upset about in the first place. Usually, I just shrug things off and go on but, if someone really pisses me off, I stay pissed for a long time.
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@DaddyEvil (137277)
• United States
14 Aug 23
@AmbiePam Usually, between Pretty and I, we get mad for a little while and then go back to normal for us. The most we've ever stayed mad is a day or so.
With my mom, she pissed me off so badly once that I didn't talk to her for two years.
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@just4him (317116)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Aug 23
I'm sorry your sister is having an issue with your father. I hope she can get over the hurt soon.
I won't say I don't get hurt, but I don't let it bother me for too long. Maybe a day. No more than that. That's stretching it, because most of the time, it's over and done with quickly.
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@much2say (55670)
• Los Angeles, California
15 Aug 23
I guess it really depends on what "it" means.
On the note of parents, I got over things in time . . . my younger sister did not and still goes on and on about past things even though my dad passed last year - now she "reminds" my mom in an almost unforgiving tone. Like you said, life is too short . . . I am glad I made my peace with my dad and that I could truly get over "that stuff".
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@wolfgirl569 (106998)
• Marion, Ohio
14 Aug 23
As I have got older I try to let things go
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@DesirousDreamer (34776)
• Peoria, Arizona
14 Aug 23
Depends on what the situation is, most of the time I just let things slide off because I just have too much to do to deal with anger. But there are some things that kinda stick, they may not be a priority, but I will make snide jokes, for example, my grandma saying I am a liar. My mother and I kept having a joke all weekend saying that I am a "liar" with anything I said. Humor helps get over things, that is for sure
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@DesirousDreamer (34776)
• Peoria, Arizona
15 Aug 23
@AmbiePam We share the same way of coping and humor, so it helps a lot.
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@LindaOHio (179780)
• United States
15 Aug 23
Unfortunately I don't get over things easily at all. I'm still angry about things that happened decades ago.
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@AmbiePam (93297)
• United States
15 Aug 23
Some people are just wired differently. And sometimes we can fool ourselves thinking we’re over things. I thought I was over something that happened twenty years ago. Hadn’t thought about it at all, until one day it popped into my mind, and all the anger came rising back. I was like, wait, I thought I was over it!
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@LindaOHio (179780)
• United States
16 Aug 23
@AmbiePam Yes. You don't get closure on those types of things; and they keep surfacing with thoughts of "I wish I would have said....".
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@arunima25 (87817)
• Bangalore, India
15 Aug 23
I don't have a right answer for that. Sometimes I get over things very quick, but then there are things that I am not able to get over quick despite all logical reasoning that I give to myself. I get stuck. I consciously try to forgive and move on, but forgetting it completely is not possible.
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@GardenGerty (160778)
• United States
14 Aug 23
Unfortunately some things hang on forever, and I suffer the consequences of holding on to things. On the other hand, most of the time I get over "it" pretty quickly at least to the point of peaceful coexistence. It depends on who I am irked at.
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@Treborika (17695)
• Mombasa, Kenya
15 Aug 23
I too don't get over things with me very quickly. I can take a long time to.
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