Still On The Matter of My BIL (A Rant)
By Raine38
@Raine38 (12389)
United States
September 7, 2023 6:29pm CST
My brother-in-law, my husband's oldest brother, strikes again.
So he is on vacation this week, and was doing a road trip to KS and NE. For some reason, he has their 95-year-old mother with him the entire time. But whatever - their trip, their decision, their deal.
My husband and I were doing our usual walk/hike, and we're using our respective cellphones to listen to music while we walk and talk. He received a call from his brother asking for directions from what it sounded like. No biggie, it's just a few minutes. Wrong.
He called a total of 6 times, and the total calls are about over an hour long. Apparently, he does not want to use his phone's map app because he does not want to use his data. He does not want to exceed his limit and pay for extra, so my husband will map out his drive, hotels, the restaurant, the casinos, etc. If only their mom is not with him, he would have not answered after the first couple of calls after knowing what his brother was intending to do.
He does not care that my husband is in a middle of something, he does not care that he's inconveniencing those around him period, as long as he can save a nickel. He is the kind who will drive the extra 5 miles because the next truck stop is charging a penny less on gas, no kidding and this did really happen. Yeah, try to work that logic with him.
I know it didn't really affect me, and what my husband does with his siblings is between them. I am just venting.
Okay, rant over! 
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@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
8 Sep 23
Yes, and I just vent on here because I know that my husband is already upset as it is. You should hear how he was when their niece (their other brother's daughter) got married in Jamaica. He did not go, of course because he has to pay for it, but I swear I thought for a while there that the bride is going to murder him. 
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@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
8 Sep 23
@AmbiePam My husband gave him options for hotels, and he does not want those and told my husband to keep looking. Reason being: he does not want to spend over $100. My husband told him that he needs to live a little, plus does he actually want their mom to stay in a shady, seedy motel?
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@much2say (56088)
• Los Angeles, California
8 Sep 23
Oh, he's an older brother 
! That is so nuts and weird . . . besides the being extremely cheap part, part of me wonders if this man even knows how to do these things by himself!
I don't understand people who don't realize they are being a burden on others - asking for too much help, money, time, effort, etc. Have they no shame (because it seems like they don't care about anyone else or what they look like when it's obvious they are taking advantage)?
! That is so nuts and weird . . . besides the being extremely cheap part, part of me wonders if this man even knows how to do these things by himself!
I don't understand people who don't realize they are being a burden on others - asking for too much help, money, time, effort, etc. Have they no shame (because it seems like they don't care about anyone else or what they look like when it's obvious they are taking advantage)?1 person likes this
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
8 Sep 23
Definitely taking advantage, and lack of awareness. The funny part is when it's my husband's turn to ask for help, it's only limited to things he can do without spending anything. So if he needs to drive to our place, unless my husband shoulders his gas for the drive, he "can't go."
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