Care givers
@1creekgirl (41444)
United States
September 13, 2023 8:53am CST
A care giver is one who "gives care or takes care of" another person.
Usually it's someone who takes care of another person in their home, maybe a mate or a child.
I know many of you myLoters are care givers. And I know you do it because you greatly love the person you're taking care of.
There are many of us who are the person receiving that love.
My husband has been my care giver for a year now. We've always helped each other if one of us were sick or hurt. But this year of cancer for me and all the treatments and surgeries has definitely put Dale in the role of care giver.
I've told everyone that I could not have had a better person to help me through all this. He's done his work, my work inside the house, and chauffeured me to all the doctors' and hospitals and treatment centers.
People are always concerned about the patient. And rightly so....they're the sick ones. But the people taking care of them need attention and prayers and help.
They tend to be invisible. They need help. They need to know they're appreciated.
Dale has never complained one time about all he's done and still doing to a certain extent.
But people always ask how I'm doing and seldom ask the same of him.
If you know someone who is giving love and care to another person, let them know you see and appreciate that.
If you're that care giver, may God bless you every day.
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@Marilynda1225 (82789)
• United States
13 Sep 23
This is a great post Vickie. You are right about the caretaker being in the background. It's a nice reminder for me to remember the caregiver as well as the person being cared for.
You are blessed to have Dale.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
13 Sep 23
I absolutely am blessed to have my husband. I want to strangle him at times, but for being married 57 I guess that's expected!
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@Marilynda1225 (82789)
• United States
13 Sep 23
@1creekgirl after all these years it would be unusual not to want to strangle him at times 
I hope you both have many more years together.
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@RebeccasFarm (89873)
• Arvada, Colorado
13 Sep 23
Dale is a gift to you Vicki I understand. What a good man he is. God bless you both.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
13 Sep 23
Thanks, Oshy. Most of the time we really understand each other, then at times it's like we're speaking foreign languages.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
13 Sep 23
You totally know what I'm talking about. The sick person would be so lost without a good care taker and sounds like you take really good care of your husband. He's blessed to have you.
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@LadyDuck (471421)
• Switzerland
14 Sep 23
@1creekgirl - I do my best for my husband. What is more harder is keeping patient when he asks the same questions over and over again. Losing memory is so horrible.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
14 Sep 23
@LadyDuck Is he developing Alzheimers? I understand about the same question being asked over and over. It's awfully trying.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50256)
• United States
14 Sep 23
You are truly blessed to have him. I took care of my parents and felt so fortunate to be able to be there for them.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50256)
• United States
14 Sep 23
@1creekgirl Sadly there are some that have nobody to help them.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
15 Sep 23
@Tampa_girl7 I can't imagine going through something serious without some help.
@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
14 Sep 23
It would be so difficult to be sick and have no one to help.
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@MarieCoyle (37566)
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14 Sep 23
Oh, can I ever relate to this.
We are struggling so much here lately. Son not healing well and tons of health issues for him, plus all the appointments for infusions and blood transfusions. I try hard to do whatever I can do...I struggle with MS so often walking very far is difficult. Usually, I just try to suck it up if I can and soldier on--I don't know what else to really do. He's one of my children. I need to be there for him.
I am so, so glad you have Dale, and you are right, being a caregiver can be really hard. I've spend the last 2 days at the hospital with my son, after I had to call an ambulance for him. Long story but he had to be admitted. By last night, I don't even think I was making sense.
It's so wonderful that you have someone to care for you with love. I know that means everything. 
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
14 Sep 23
Marie, I thought about you when I was typing this post. I'm so sorry about your son. I pray he's improving and you know I'll be praying for both of you.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
14 Sep 23
@MarieCoyle You are so welcome, Marie.
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@MarieCoyle (37566)
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14 Sep 23
@1creekgirl
You are one of the few people I've ever known that has voiced about caring for the caretaker. It's so easy to get swallowed up and never get a break from it all...and I know you have to be so very tired of being sick and dealing with pain, surgeries, treatments, and so forth. All we can really do is just literally take one day at a time, whether we are the caretaker or the person needing one. I thank you for your caring, and for the prayers, much appreciated, Vicki.
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@writerjo (2540)
• India
14 Sep 23
@1creekgirl Great of you
Helping one another & taking care is a noble personality
God bless them
Have a good day
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
14 Sep 23
Most carers don't complain so it's easy to not be aware of all they do.
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@LindaOHio (178782)
• United States
14 Sep 23
Caregivers are often under a lot of stress and tired. God bless Dale for all he's done for you. Have a good day.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
13 Sep 23
My infection is getting better, but turns out it could take a long time to heal and there's a 50% chance it could come back. But I'm praying I'll be completely healed soon. I really need that foot surgery.
@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
14 Sep 23
This is a heart touching post. Generally, I am the caretaker of my family. But when I am sick and going through a rough patch, I get all the love and care back.
You are so right about the caregivers being a constant silent worker in the background .
My prayers and thoughts for both you and Dale. Together you will sail through this rough tide. Take care
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@Karusa (703)
• Italy
14 Sep 23
I know first hand how difficult it is to be a care giver.
I was my mother's only caregiver for 13 years.
She suffered two strokes and for the second stroke, she was bedbound for the last 9 years.
I did everything, day and night and I can't deny how exhausting it was. I cried and cried because of it
She passed away this February and believe me, my heart is so content to know I sacrificed a lot to take care pf her in the most loving way, as nobody else could've done it like a daughter.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
14 Sep 23
There's a true comfort for you knowing you took such care of your mother.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
14 Sep 23
That's true. It would be even harder for him if he weren't retired.
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@snowy22315 (180805)
• United States
13 Sep 23
You make a really good point. Care givers need support too.. That is why there are often support groups for them, but probably not as many as there should be.
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@FourWalls (68084)
• United States
13 Sep 23
Excellent reminder! I always remember to pray for the caregiver as well. Illnesses and disabilities are challenging for them, too.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
14 Sep 23
I'm sorry to hear that about your husband. I'll pray for him and you, too. It's good when a married couple really are helpmates.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
13 Sep 23
That's really true. We tend to concentrate more on the sick person.
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@1creekgirl (41444)
• United States
13 Sep 23
You sound blessed to have people who take care of you.
