We're still reeling from the shock
By Judy Evans
@JudyEv (342088)
Rockingham, Australia
October 19, 2023 10:29pm CST
The photo has nothing to do with the post but my roses are blooming very nicely now. This is last year's photo.
We have gifted our sons some money. My father was very generous to us when we were still making our way in the world. He always said that, at that stage of our lives, we needed help more than we would when he passed away.
One son is using the money we sent to help get a mortgage on his first-ever house. The bank wanted confirmation that our contribution was a ‘gift’ and not a ‘loan. We needed papers signed by a lawyer and a letter from the lawyer saying we’d had legal advice. A notary, Justice of the Peace or magistrate wouldn’t do. It had to be a lawyer.
We found a lawyer and saw him this morning. We didn’t really need legal advice but he spent a couple of minutes to make sure we knew what we were signing, etc. He witnessed our signatures, went off for a few minutes and came back with necessary letter and we were free to go.
Vince asked how much we owed him and he said he wasn’t charging. Honestly? We took up his time and he was certainly entitled to charge something but no, he just sent us on our way. He asked us to leave a positive review on his website. That will be a pleasure.
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29 responses
@Juliaacv (51359)
• Canada
20 Oct 23
That was very generous of the lawyer, he obviously saw the good that you and Vince are doing for your son and felt that was his way of helping.
We received money once from my Dad when we were in our late 20's and had just bought a home. My hubby tore the cheque up in front of him, telling him that we were fine. My Dad wrote a second cheque, that too, my hubs ripped but the third time, my Dad made the cheque out in both of our names, and not just mine, and he looked at my hubby sitting in an arm chair near his, and said now I do not have to want to reorder cheques before I need to, so please do not destroy this one. My hubby realized the good that he was trying to do and accepted it.
We have been in such a position to assist our son, the purchase of his first home, a new furnace a few months later in that home, new top of the line appliances in his current home. He realizes how hard Dad and I have had to work for that and he does not take it lightly at all. And as a parent it is a wonderful feeling of accomplishment to see your grown children coming into their own and making the adult decisions that come with a bit of help.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50525)
• United States
20 Oct 23
That was very kind of him. I know that it feels good to be able to bless your sons..
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@Tampa_girl7 (50525)
• United States
20 Oct 23
@JudyEv I know that he is grateful.
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@JudyEv (342088)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Oct 23
It's when young couples are trying to establish themselves that a bit of extra cash can really help. By the time they get it when we have passed away, they won't need it nearly as much as they do now. Our son is soon to turn 50 but he hasn't had a regular 9 to 5 job till recently so wasn't able to get a bank loan until now.
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@allknowing (137775)
• India
20 Oct 23
When you said you were reeling under shock a whole lot of disastrous situations floated in front of my eyes
No big deal offering free service (lol)
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@allknowing (137775)
• India
20 Oct 23
@JudyEv I will remember this. When Billu disappeared I should have given an appropriate title to attract readers (lol)
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We thought it was a very big deal as lawyers usually charge of lot of money for any of their services, large or small. We were very appreciative.
@RebeccasFarm (90464)
• Arvada, Colorado
20 Oct 23
This is the son in Australia right?
Not the one in Ireland Judy..anyway this is very good of you and that lawyer was a good person.
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@RebeccasFarm (90464)
• Arvada, Colorado
20 Oct 23
@JudyEv Yes I understand. Goodo then in any case.
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@LadyDuck (472074)
• Switzerland
20 Oct 23
That was very nice and generous. I have to think that in our days a positive note on the website is more important than to charge a small amount for signing documents. Our lawyer/notary is a friend, she only charges what she is charged by the official offices, we are also lucky.
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@MarieCoyle (38702)
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20 Oct 23
That's amazing. I did have a friend from college who was a lawyer. She did a few minor things for me way back in the day when I lost several family members in a short time and absolutely refused payment. I bought an assortment of good steaks from a local small specialty shop and had them packed up and delivered to her. Her husband loved to grill outside, they loved that gift. They moved to London as her only child lives there, but we are still in touch.
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@MarieCoyle (38702)
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20 Oct 23
@JudyEv
She did a lot of pro bono work to help families. She wasn't rich by any means, a good lady. I wish she still lived here in the US, I miss her.
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@BarBaraPrz (47667)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
20 Oct 23
That is a shock: a lawyer not counting billable hours. 
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@ptrikha_2 (47072)
• India
21 Oct 23
That is very nice of that lawyer.
Generally we see Lawyers always trying to make more money at our expense.
I had an experience early this year of getting an affidavit made and one of the lawyers charged me almost the double.
I hope that your overall plans go as expected.
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@ptrikha_2 (47072)
• India
23 Oct 23
@JudyEv
Yes and such people are rare in the world !
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@thislittlepennyearns (62929)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
20 Oct 23
That is nice. A lawyer could easily of charged at least a few dollars for that
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@thislittlepennyearns (62929)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
25 Oct 23
@JudyEv I was told I should get a lawyer medical malpractice situation after a ER sent me away a coule weeks ago when they coudlnt get blood draw
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@thislittlepennyearns (62929)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
25 Oct 23
@JudyEv I was told I should get a lawyer medical malpractice situation after a ER sent me away a coule weeks ago when they coudlnt get blood draw
@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
20 Oct 23
A lawyer who doesn't fit the stereotype. That's a pleasant surprise!
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@JudyEv (342088)
• Rockingham, Australia
23 Oct 23
We thought it was very generous of him too. He was entitled to charge us something.
@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
20 Oct 23
That was nice of him to do. I hope your son enjoys his new home when he gets it. I love rosesI told me boyfriend next year I want some rose bushes
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@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
21 Oct 23
@JudyEv My mom already cut hers for the winter it is starting to get cold here where we are.
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@innertalks (22088)
• Australia
20 Oct 23
It sounds like that those bankers should learn something from that lawyer.
They were very mean and strict, to make you do that.
Surely at nearly 50, they could have given the benefit of the doubt to your son, that he had saved that money somehow, for a deposit.
When I was younger, I was a bit of a spendthrift, and I had no money for a deposit on my first car.
My Uncle somehow heard of this, and he gave me $2,000, a lot in those days. The car cost more than that, so I needed to take out a loan too.
The car yard, asked me where I got that money from, and I told them that I was good at saving, and they praised me, telling me that not many young men had such a good ethic with money, as which I did. They were happy to sell me the car, and to approve my loan.
It was a white lie, I told them, and I have felt a bit bad about that ever since.
@JudyEv (342088)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Oct 23
I wouldn't worry about the white lie too much. The bank was worried that we might want our contribution back some time in the future. Really, they were just protecting their interests but it did look like it might cost us a bit just to get the papers signed.
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@JudyEv (342088)
• Rockingham, Australia
23 Oct 23
@innertalks The money we gave him showed up as several quite large deposits in his bank statements so he didn't really have a good way to explain them away.
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@innertalks (22088)
• Australia
21 Oct 23
@JudyEv What I was implying there though, was that your son must have told the bank that he got the money from you. At nearly fifty, he could have told them, or let them think, that he saved up that deposit himself, like which I did.
Yes, you were lucky not to have had to pay the lawyer's fees, which for a consultation, and signing of papers, etc. could have cost you quite a lot.
They usually charge big money even just for a phone call.
@freelancermariagrace (28714)
• Philippines
20 Oct 23
Oh, wow. You are blessed to find a lawyer like that. May God bless him.
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@Beestring (14692)
• Hong Kong
20 Oct 23
The lawyer was really nice and generous. He certainly deserves a positive review.
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