Do your friends and family know you write on MyLot?

@TheHorse (218554)
Walnut Creek, California
October 25, 2023 2:56pm CST
A thought just flashed through my head: Please do NOT mention MyLot if you leave a comment on my music posts with @Vandana7. Why? Because MyLot is my top secret place to write what I'm thinking, kvetch about friends and family (and lame fellow musicians), and in general be as much of an ass, or as politically incorrect, as I feel like. I have casually said things like "Oh, I sometimes write on this writing site that's not Facebook," but I provide no further details. And of course most of the goofballs I know are too self-absorbed to ask for further details. Anyway, is MyLot your "secret place" to be whatever you want to be? Or do your friends and family know about it.
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@vandana7 (100255)
• India
25 Oct 23
Now I know how to control you.
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@vandana7 (100255)
• India
25 Oct 23
@TheHorse It is illegal in India too. But this is outside India's jurisdiction as well as America's. So you have to think....where you gonna file that complaint. LOL That is nasty of that lady.....so did you let her know that you saved that phone message? File a case against her, you might get more than 1150 now that you have serious evidence. But before that, give her an ultimatum. Please hand over what you owe me, by this day, else I will be forced to file a case along with your phone message threatening me with bad things...
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Oct 23
@vandana7 No. The wheels of justice move very slowly here. I don't want to incite her. "That is nasty of that lady.....so did you let her know that you saved that phone message?"
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Oct 23
Blackmail material. What's sad is that the lady who owes me $1150 left me a phone message saying she'd make up "bad things" about me if I kept asking her for the money she owes me. But she's a dummy. I have saved the message! Blackmail is illegal in the US. I don't know about India.
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@much2say (55567)
• Los Angeles, California
25 Oct 23
Your secret is good with me . . . because, shhhhhhhhhhh, it's my secret place too! Only Hubby and kids know. But no one else does . . . I don't need the world to know that I have vented about them and can find evidence here. However, I have solved that worry by deleting almost all past posts.
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@much2say (55567)
• Los Angeles, California
27 Oct 23
@TheHorse You probably have more posts than I ever did. I'll tell ya it was a lot of work to delete them one by one . . . but worth it. I can rest knowing no one I know "on the outside" will find out anything .
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
I should start deleting some of my posts.
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 Oct 23
@much2say You have inspired me. I will start now. But sometimes I renaissance old posts with comments I forgot to respond to. Heh. Maybe I'll do that too. I am easily amused.
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@allknowing (136100)
• India
26 Oct 23
Most know I write at forums but not sure they know that one of them is myLot
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@allknowing (136100)
• India
26 Oct 23
@TheHorse Very kind of you
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
I will not tell them.
@Treborika (17661)
• Mombasa, Kenya
26 Oct 23
That's very interestingly
@DaddyEvil (137257)
• United States
25 Oct 23
A few friends and family know but they don't care...
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@DaddyEvil (137257)
• United States
26 Oct 23
@TheHorse I don't usually ask people questions. If they want me to know, they'll tell me.
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
@DaddyEvil I hope they don't interpret your behavior as "disinterested."
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
I tend to ask about what others are up to. Heh. Maybe they find me nosy.
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@wolfgirl569 (105977)
• Marion, Ohio
25 Oct 23
Some of them know about it
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@wolfgirl569 (105977)
• Marion, Ohio
26 Oct 23
@TheHorse Not that I know of
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
Do they ever read what you write?
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@Treborika (17661)
• Mombasa, Kenya
26 Oct 23
That's very cool
@JudyEv (339591)
• Rockingham, Australia
26 Oct 23
Only Vince knows about myLot. I usually describe it as 'sort of a social media site'.
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
That's kind of like what I say. what. Let me thing. "It's not a blog. Just a writing site. But it's kind of cool because it people from all around the world on it." 'sort of a social media site'
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@JudyEv (339591)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 Oct 23
@TheHorse I found it hard to explain until I hit on that idea.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 Oct 23
I've never really talked about it outside of earning sites when people ask like that. Other wise I use this as my way of just talking to new people and making a few extra cents as a perk.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
27 Oct 23
@TheHorse Sometimes not always but yes it does happen but usually, I get new ideas from reading something and then it sparks an idea that I jot down and then talk to my alpha reader about later.
@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 Oct 23
@ShyBear88 What is an "alpha reader"?
@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
Also, if you like writing, interacting with relative strangers can provide new ideas.
@jstory07 (139579)
• Roseburg, Oregon
25 Oct 23
My friends and family know I do a lot of sites online but none know which sites and never ask.
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Oct 23
Just as you want it, I assume.
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@vandana7 (100255)
• India
25 Oct 23
myLot is pretty obscure. But there is no trolling no nastiness...I like this site. It is truly a social site.
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Oct 23
@vandana7 I agree. I may be a bit TOO transparent here. But I trust MyLotters for some reason.
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@RasmaSandra (79714)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
25 Oct 23
I have no one to tell except my friends who live below me so I do what I want to do,
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@1creekgirl (41394)
• United States
25 Oct 23
My husband knows I myLot and listens politely to my interactions at times, but feels no need to become a member. I'm kind of glad none of my family are on here. I never say anything unkind, but still...
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@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
27 Oct 23
I think pretty much the only people that know I write on mylot are those that are already on mylot. And by the way, your secret is safe with me...
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 Oct 23
Whew! Thanks!
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 Oct 23
@lovebuglena I have mentioned "the writing site I'm on..." but I try not to mention MyLot by name.
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@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
27 Oct 23
@TheHorse Have you accidentally let it slip that you write on mylot?
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@Deepizzaguy (102624)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
25 Oct 23
My cardiologist as well as my relatives know I write on this site.
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@LindaOHio (178131)
• United States
26 Oct 23
My husband knows it by name; but he's the only one. Have a great day. Your secret is safe with me.
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
@LindaOHio Sometimes I wonder if I should delete some of my older posts, just in case "the cat gets out of the bag."
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
Heh. Thanks.
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@LindaOHio (178131)
• United States
26 Oct 23
@TheHorse You're very welcome.
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@MarieCoyle (37228)
26 Oct 23
I never thought about it before. None of my family has ever asked, they know I like to blog, etc. so there's that...Of course there are many members on mylot that do not use their real name, or they use a name that means something to them, but it's not their name--you know what I mean. As for the lady that owes you that money. Because you are a fellow that always seems to be out for the underdogs in life, you do realize if she isn't made to pay you for your work, she will just keep doing it, right? She will cheat someone else who relies on that money for rent, food, childcare....you need to go after her. It's not right, what she did. Yes, I know--you didn't ask my opinion. Aren't you lucky, I gave it to you anyway?
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
What you say is validating, and I actually appreciate It. I have done what I can up to this point . The police know about the situation, but they have bigger fish to fry. Licensing knows about the situation, but aren't interested in the financial aspect of things. I do feel for the others who worked for her. Some of them were not as "blessed" as I am. I am also really worried for the littlies. They deserve a good daycare environment.
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 Oct 23
@MarieCoyle I do not know the extent of her criminal activities.
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@MarieCoyle (37228)
27 Oct 23
@TheHorse I am glad the police and others are aware of her actions. Yes, I was very concerned about the littles as well. If she is so irresponsible with her actions, and threatens people, what else is she doing?
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@kareng (59050)
• United States
27 Oct 23
Only a few people know I am here. My hubby probably couldn't tell you the name of the site. I have mentioned to all three of my daughters that I participate on this site. Do they remember? Probably not!
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@kareng (59050)
• United States
28 Oct 23
@TheHorse I know I do, but I also know some busybodies in the family.
@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 Oct 23
Heh. We all have more important things to do than be interested in what others do.
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@AmbiePam (92488)
• United States
26 Oct 23
My dad knows because I met someone in person from Mylot, and I told him who I was meeting. Then, I told him if something ever happened to me, he needed to notify such and such from Mylot, who I’m closed to. He doesn’t give a lick about Mylot though. And yes, I just said give a lick.
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@AmbiePam (92488)
• United States
26 Oct 23
@TheHorse I figured you would if you know bless your heart.
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
I've heard "give a lick."
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
@AmbiePam You mean if I know the "true meaning" of "bless your heart"?
@May2k8 (18356)
• Indonesia
26 Oct 23
only my brother knows I'm on myLot and doesn't know what I wrote here.
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@May2k8 (18356)
• Indonesia
27 Oct 23
@TheHorse no and never!
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 Oct 23
@May2k8 Heh. I wonder if I should delete some of my old posts. Just in case.
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
Do you tell him about conversations you have here?
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@LadyDuck (471356)
• Switzerland
26 Oct 23
My husband knows that I write on myLot, but he never look at myLot site.
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
Do you ever talk to him about conversations you have here? That I DO do with friends sometimes.
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@LadyDuck (471356)
• Switzerland
27 Oct 23
@TheHorse Yes, I often talk to him about conversation I have here in myLot, but I am glad he does not check the site.
@ExplorewtMe (6332)
• Nairobi, Kenya
26 Oct 23
Why to make it secret place let other interested people know about this ??
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
Because I don't want people I know to read what I write here.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
26 Oct 23
@TheHorse Ok. But why, You are doing well here?
@Treborika (17661)
• Mombasa, Kenya
26 Oct 23
For me l think that none of my family and friends are aware for me being active here in my lot
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@TheHorse (218554)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Oct 23
Sounds like a good idea to me.
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@Treborika (17661)
• Mombasa, Kenya
26 Oct 23
@TheHorse That's very okay my friend