Saying 'please' and 'thank you' when it's not needed

@JudyEv (346592)
Rockingham, Australia
February 3, 2024 10:10pm CST
The photo has nothing to do with the text and some of you might have seen it before. Have you had any experience with ChatGPT? I know it’s a controversial subject but it’s here to stay so we might as well get used to it. It can be used for good as well as bad. I’ve only used it once or twice but it’s a quick way to get background information. I know you also need to check other sources but it can be a handy tool. However, after all that palaver, what I really wanted to tell you was that, when I log into it, it asks ‘How can I help you today?’ I type in my query but have to exert the utmost self-control not to add ‘please’ at the end of my question. I also have trouble with Vince not saying ‘thank you’ to Siri after she helps him with something. And I don’t like him being impolite to the girl/guy on the GPS when she/he leads us up the garden path. Anyone else have these sorts of problems? Maybe I’m just a bit over-polite sometimes.
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@Juliaacv (52332)
• Canada
4 Feb 24
I am a please and thank you kind of person too, there aren't enough of us left in this world these days, although both of our little granddaughters know the more pleases that they use the easier it is to get what they'd like.
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@Juliaacv (52332)
• Canada
4 Feb 24
@JudyEv At this stage, I would say that they are better at getting what they'd like with their charm.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Feb 24
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Feb 24
We taught our boys to have good manners. It did make a difference to how they were viewed, particularly by older generations. I can just see Willow and Harper using good manners and charm to get something they want.
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@xFiacre (13218)
• Ireland
4 Feb 24
@judyev I refuse to use GPS because I can’t tolerate my wife giving me instructions about where to turn never mind a gadget immitating Joanna Lumley.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Feb 24
Poor lady - I can't stand her. But don't you have a choice? I know we do. Some are better than others but some have phrases peculiar to their own characters. Boy George always invites people to have a cup of tea at the finish.
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@AmbiePam (96086)
• United States
4 Feb 24
I’m just like you. It is so innate to be polite that I can’t seem to help it. Maybe we’re a little odd, Judy!
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Feb 24
If you don't add 'thank you' it's like you've missed out something.
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@1creekgirl (42469)
• United States
4 Feb 24
Judy, we were taught good manners and it's a hard habit to break!
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Feb 24
I don't think we need break it at all really. The machine won't mind unless it gets even more clever. lol
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@moffittjc (122692)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 Feb 24
I have never used ChatGPT, but I'm sure I will in the future. It's funny that you posted a discussion like this, because when I talk to Siri I always say please and thank you to her. A co-worker of mine was laughing at me about it the other day; I told him that Siri and I have a very delicate relationship and that it is in my best interest to be polite to her.
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@moffittjc (122692)
• Gainesville, Florida
7 Feb 24
@JudyEv I don't know how. you talk to her woman on woman, but I speak to her in a very flirtatious manner. Some say we have a real love/hate relationship with each other.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
8 Feb 24
@moffittjc I wonder if she looks forward to your interactions.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Feb 24
I'm with you. I'd be doing my best to stay on Siri's good side too.
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@Deepizzaguy (106786)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
4 Feb 24
I try to be polite since I was brought up to be kind to others.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Feb 24
Good manners can make a great difference as to how others view you. Being kind is a really lovely thing to be.
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@GardenGerty (162252)
• United States
5 Feb 24
It is the same as talking to the self check out, only the few times I have used it I have been guilty of talking back. "I AM putting in my loyalty number". "I DID place my item in the bagging area." I am secretly a rude person.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Feb 24
And I'm sure it's only good manners that stops you thumping the wretched thing. I can't see you are being rude, secretly or other wise! lol
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@RebeccasFarm (92068)
• United States
4 Feb 24
I don't have the problem...I treat AI with the same disdain I do people who have no manners
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Feb 24
Good for you. I knew I could depend on you.
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• United States
5 Feb 24
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@FourWalls (71508)
• United States
5 Feb 24
I don’t consider manners a “problem,” even if it IS Siri. Yes, I say “thank you” to Siri (and he [I have the voice set to male] replies something like “don’t mention it” or “sure thing”). And I like that photo!!
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@FourWalls (71508)
• United States
5 Feb 24
@JudyEv — “we want to be mountain sheep, so we’re practicing our climbing!”
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Feb 24
Those lambs were having such fun on that log. One fell off a bit later and there was even an old ewe standing on it at one stage.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
6 Feb 24
@FourWalls Lambs love to play up and down dry creek beds too. You sometimes see 20 or 30 of them all having the time of the lives, usually towards evening.
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@LadyDuck (472500)
• Switzerland
4 Feb 24
I like the photo, cute little lambs. I never thought to this problem. We do not have Siri and Alexa, but I found myself "thanking" a robotic answer on a site.
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@LadyDuck (472500)
• Switzerland
5 Feb 24
@JudyEv - It is so common for me to say please and thank you. I almost say please to the machine at the self checkout when it asks if I want to pay with cash or using my card.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Feb 24
It can be really hard NOT to say thank you at such times. It seems really inbuilt in us older people.
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@wolfgirl569 (111827)
• Marion, Ohio
4 Feb 24
I sometimes catch myself doing that.
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@wolfgirl569 (111827)
• Marion, Ohio
5 Feb 24
@JudyEv It proves we have manners
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Feb 24
It just sort of pops out, doesn't it?
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@paigea (36315)
• Canada
5 Feb 24
I'm always saying please and thank-you to Siri. Once my GPS said, Ask me how I'm doing? I said you're not that helpful. She said, Sorry.??
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Feb 24
That's so funny. It would set you back on your heels a bit though, wouldn't it? lol
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@paigea (36315)
• Canada
5 Feb 24
@JudyEv it made me laugh, though I was frustrated at the moment because I couldn't get it to find my way
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@LindaOHio (183918)
• United States
4 Feb 24
I was raised with please and thank you and use it all the time. We don't have Siri or GPS; and I don't use ChatGPT....at least not yet. I LOVE the picture. Hope you and Vince have a good day.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Feb 24
Well, I bet if you ever use these sites, you'll be saying please and thank you to them too! lol
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@LindaOHio (183918)
• United States
5 Feb 24
@JudyEv You're probably right.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
4 Feb 24
I know chat gpt but I have never used it. I also think I could be over-polite too because I use such words often. I don't think it's a bad thing. Being polite is better than being impolite.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Feb 24
It is such a habit with me that I say please and thank you to machines and websites!! But it's a good fault to have, isn't it?
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• Nairobi, Kenya
4 Feb 24
@JudyEv Yes it's a good fault but machines and websites don't have feelings.
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@snowy22315 (185430)
• United States
4 Feb 24
Hmm, I don't think I have been tempted to be overly polite with AI.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Feb 24
You might need to stay in its good books.
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@RasmaSandra (82584)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
5 Feb 24
I had someone as me to help with a project today. I was to proofread some chapters from a book and involved some technical stuff about all kind s of gagets and detectors to help people elderly and disabled if they should fall and not be able to get up. What I discovered is that while checking on grammar they have what is generative Al. It really helped me put together some of the more complex sentences and technical stuff, I was sure happy about that,
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Feb 24
AI certainly can be very helpful. It's a pity some use it for not-so-good purposes.
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@TheHorse (223362)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Feb 24
Heh. I sometimes feel bad when I hang up on bots before they have completed their final sentence.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Feb 24
I can totally understand that.
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@Ronrybs (19897)
• London, England
4 Feb 24
I of heard a lot about it and others of that ilk, but haven't worked up the will power to have a look!
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Feb 24
Our son more or less talked us into having a look at least. He asked for 500 words on why teaching kids ukulele was beneficial. We then asked for 300 words, then 100 and finally a haiku. It was very impressive.
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@Beestring (14925)
• Hong Kong
4 Feb 24
I've never used ChatGPT but have used Bing's AI. It is quite good. I forgot if I ever said thank you.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Feb 24
It's a very useful tool if it's used for good.
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• Cloverdale, Indiana
4 Feb 24
I've seen where a gps gets people LOST cause they have ended up at MY street & I'm the last house on the road ha ha ha
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Feb 24
We have been very impolite to our GPS from time to time.
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