2/11/24 - Update on Hubby

@LindaOHio (193175)
United States
February 11, 2024 7:10am CST
Since I posted so late yesterday, I have no new news about hubby except that he still requires a sitter so he doesn't get out of bed. I couldn't call him because his phone doesn't amplify your voice, even when it's set to high. Hubs can't hear me. When he gets to rehab, I will make sure he has a phone. Monday I should find out more about whether or not they were able to find a rehab facility for hubby. I hope it's close by. I still am having difficulty dealing with being alone. Thank you for your continued prayers, thoughts and concern. Photo Credit: Pixabay
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@2ndchances24 (10595)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
11 Feb 24
I know how scared it can be if you lose your best friend & being alone it's not something easy to deal with, but there may come a time when you are all alone in life. I've been trying to deal with that my whole marriage of 37 yrs & it's not easy to face what may happen 1 day but I keep thinking about what would I do if I lost my husb. I think I'd just put myself in a assistant living place & live what life I have left to live, cause I have no family & there's no 1 I can trust or deal with to live with, so that's my plan.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
11 Feb 24
Assisted living may be my/our goal too.
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@GardenGerty (164487)
• United States
12 Feb 24
@LindaOHio If you can move in together you may find it quite nice.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
@GardenGerty The hardest part would be cleaning out a house with 50+ years of accumulation.
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@Juliaacv (54003)
• Canada
11 Feb 24
Within the 4 walls of your home Linda, you are without him, and alone, but overall, you are in many of our hearts and minds. I am thinking and sending positive vibes to you both, all of the time. I hope that you feel the support.
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@Juliaacv (54003)
• Canada
12 Feb 24
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
I appreciate your friendship and from all the other MyLotters here.
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@kareng (76691)
• United States
13 Feb 24
I hope you get good news Monday on a Rebab Center!! I'm here if you want to chat! I have Messenger so reach out to me if you want to!
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@kareng (76691)
• United States
14 Feb 24
@LindaOHio Oh no!
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
13 Feb 24
Thank you so much, Karen. Didn't hear anything today; so she must not be having any luck.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
14 Feb 24
@kareng He may be transferred to a rehab facility today!!!
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@FourWalls (76225)
• United States
11 Feb 24
Can the VA give him a rehab room? I know you’re miserable. My aunt said that, when I stayed with her, she was so much more content even though I was in the basement doing my own thing. She said it was just the “knowledge” that I was there.
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@FourWalls (76225)
• United States
12 Feb 24
@LindaOHio — I’d suggest that you give the nearest hospital a call and talk to patient advocacy, just to see what they can (or can’t) do.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
Yup. There are days I rarely see my husband; but I know he's in the Florida room. I don't know about the VA.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
@FourWalls I may do that if I don't hear from the lady that's working on getting him into rehab.
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@lovebuglena (47078)
• Staten Island, New York
12 Feb 24
Does he have a hearing problem? Or he just cannot hear now for some reason? I hope someone can help you to do things.
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@lovebuglena (47078)
• Staten Island, New York
12 Feb 24
@LindaOHio maybe bad reception in the hospital.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
13 Feb 24
@lovebuglena I haven't been able to speak with him for days.
@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
The phone is a piece of crap. When people call in from outside, you can't hear them even with the volume turned up.
@Beestring (15554)
• Hong Kong
11 Feb 24
It's tough being alone when you get used to having a company. Do you have any close friends you can talk to?
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
11 Feb 24
I have one in Minnesota and one in London, England.
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@GardenGerty (164487)
• United States
12 Feb 24
Hugs, it is hardest on the weekends, I bet. You know that nothing is really happening. I know VA told Bob he was going to a rehab on a Saturday, which did not work out, then they said Monday, then they kept changing the time. Like your husband, he was very confused, and it made him angry. People do not do well in those circumstances. I hope they find a nearby place and that they make the move smoothly.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
I hope the place is clean and has caring people.
@AmbiePam (100068)
• United States
11 Feb 24
It has got to be a big adjustment when you are used to someone always being there.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
Yes it is. I miss him terribly.
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@LadyDuck (477694)
• Italy
11 Feb 24
I am so sorry to know that you are home alone with no one who can help you. I hope they can find a good place for your husband.
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@LadyDuck (477694)
• Italy
12 Feb 24
@LindaOHio - Some places are like hotels, while others are really poor looking places.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
@LadyDuck I've seen ones that are horrible. They smell of urine and are dark and dingy.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
I hope the place is clean and has caring people.
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@Tampa_girl7 (52786)
• United States
11 Feb 24
You are both in my thoughts and prayers.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
Thank you so much, Marie. You're a good friend.
@moffittjc (124767)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Feb 24
I know how hard it can be to be alone during this time. I hope you find the strength and courage to press on despite the circumstances I will be sure to keep you in my prayers.
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@moffittjc (124767)
• Gainesville, Florida
14 Feb 24
@LindaOHio I wish there was more I could do to help.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
Thank you so much, Jeff. You're a good friend.
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@sallypup (65046)
• Centralia, Washington
11 Feb 24
I feel so helpless about your situation. I am sorry for your loneliness.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
Your friendship and the friendship of the others here makes it much easier!
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@JudyEv (357176)
• Rockingham, Australia
11 Feb 24
Thanks for the update. I hope you get good news soon.
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
Me too. I could use some good news.
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@porwest (102332)
• United States
11 Feb 24
Thanks for the update, as always, and I hope everything works out for you...and for him of course. I forget. How old is he again?
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
11 Feb 24
He's 82. He robbed the cradle. lol
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@porwest (102332)
• United States
12 Feb 24
@LindaOHio lol. Hey, my wife kind of did that too. She's 57.
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@snowy22315 (192028)
• United States
11 Feb 24
I will say a prayer. Is he still in and out of delirium?
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
Thank you. Yes, he's still confused about where he is, etc.
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@wolfgirl569 (118534)
• Marion, Ohio
11 Feb 24
I hope they have good news
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@LindaOHio (193175)
• United States
12 Feb 24
I hope so too.
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