Just a question??

I know what you mean and unfortunately there is not an answer to this. Often people we barely know are of more help than our siblings, family and friends. It is a sad situation.

People are very close to you if they are benefiting from you it's all I know

A real friend should want to help you. Sorry your friends and family do not want to help you.

It's tricky and it depends. Without much back story it is hard to have a strong opinion. But it DOES depend on the back story. There are people who no longer get help from me because there is a point it is no longer help but support, or enabling someone. In order for help to be given and for people to want to offer it, people need to see that it WORKS and ACTUALLY HELPS. For example, if someone is perpetually in debt and has money problems, and they never actually do anything to use the monetary help to get OUT of their situation, there is a point when it is no longer help at all. The person is not getting it. The reality is not sinking in. At some point you have to let people go and figure things out on their own.

I'm so sorry for nobody wants to help out these guys!

I'm facing the same problem myself with trying to get the cabin done I've hired 2 people, but I can't seem for the life of me understand why they aren't willing to help when I pay WAY more than what they get from working where they are. They don't have to drive anywhere, they don't have to wait on their $, they don't have to wait on supplies they don't have to use their own tools, I just don't get it.

I guess they do not have the golden heart.