What Should I do?
By MARILYN
@Marilynda1225 (83109)
United States
March 6, 2024 9:47am CST
Happy Wednesday Everyone! another rainy day here in my neck of the myLot world.
Let me start by saying my son in laws niece is expecting a baby boy the beginning of May. Even though I know her from family functions I didn't expect to get invited to the baby shower, etc.
I think I mentioned that I was crocheting two baby blankets to give as a gift. One small blue and white the size of a receiving blanket and another bigger one is navy blue and white.
The baby shower is this Sunday and my daughter and granddaughter are going. I was going to send my gift with them.
However, I just found out that EVERYTING she has on her baby registry is neutral shades of beige. I mean everything when I say everything.
So my dilemma is do I still send her my gift with my blue blankets? Should I just wait until after the baby is born and then send my gift? OR should I just not send a gift at all since I wasn't invited to the shower, etc.
I appreciate your input on this.
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@LadyDuck (472074)
• Switzerland
6 Mar
@Beestring May be the mother does not like pink and blue.
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@just4him (317241)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
6 Mar
That is a dilemma. If you weren't invited, I wouldn't worry about it. Send the gift after the baby is born. I know you don't have time to make another baby blanket before Sunday. Still, you know about it and it would be rude to follow my advice in the first sentence. So ... Send her a gift card. At least you're giving the new mother something she can use to get what she needs.
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@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
6 Mar
Since I wasn't invited to the shower I'm not gong to send a gift per se. I'm going to wait until the baby is born and then see about gifting the blankets I told my daughter to make note of what she gets as shower gifts and if everyone abides by the neutral color on her registry. Personally I think beige everything is dull and boring and that babies need color. But, it's not my choice only my opinion 
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@just4him (317241)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
6 Mar
@Marilynda1225 I agree. Totally boring color. I also agree babies need color. Good choice about waiting until after the baby is born.
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@snowy22315 (182175)
• United States
6 Mar
Probably they are going with gender neutral stuff. I would send something in that shade.
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@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
6 Mar
I made these as I thought it would be a nice gesture but never considered that they might have a color scheme. Since I wasn't invited to the shower I'm not going to send them and then see after the baby is born.
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@Juliaacv (51359)
• Canada
6 Mar
@Marilynda1225 She will be thankful to have something colourful to put on the baby for outings so that people do not have to ask the child's gender.
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@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
6 Mar
This is her first baby so I kind of think she's leaning toward what's popular right now for decorating and not that everything single thing in beige will be boring. As you know, little ones need color and stimulation. Far be it from me, though, to say that to my son in laws family.
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@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
6 Mar
@Juliaacv I'm curious now to know what she's going to name him. So far she says they aren't telling until affter he's born. I can respect her decision.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50525)
• United States
6 Mar
I think they would be appreciated. One can never have enough baby blankets.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50525)
• United States
6 Mar
@Marilynda1225 I know that I appreciated everything that was given to me for my son. Maybe your son in law knows her well enough to know iwhat she’d think.
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@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
6 Mar
@Tampa_girl7 it's doubtful my son in law would know. I'm going to wait until my daughter goes to the shower to see what she gets. For now I'm going to wait until the baby is born and then decide if I want to gift her the blankets I made. I know that new moms don't really know how much stuff a baby needs so it's possible you will appreciate them in the next few months.
@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
6 Mar
That's what I thought but then again I don't want my hard work to be discarded if they don't like them
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@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
6 Mar
I don't usually send a gift if I wasn't invited but I just thought this would be a nice gesture.
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@AmbiePam (93883)
• United States
6 Mar
I would wait until after the baby was born. No way is everyone going to stick with her boring color scheme, and she’s going to learn really quickly that’s not important. I think when you send them, she will love them; any item someone hand crafts themselves has always been, in my opinion, been of better quality than store bought (unless it was made by me).
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@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
6 Mar
I'm definitely going to wait until the baby is born before deciding if I'm going to give them to her. Maybe when she was making her registry she didn't really have an idea of how much stuff a new baby is going to need or that everything in the same color will be boring after awhile.
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@RebeccasFarm (90464)
• Arvada, Colorado
6 Mar
I think sending the handmade blankets is a lovely gesture, regardless of the color scheme on the registry. They are thoughtful and unique gifts that will likely be cherished by the new parents, and the colors are still fairly neutral. You could always reach out to the mother-to-be and ask if she'd like the blankets in advance,
You could sent them with your daughter and granddaughter with a handwritten note.
Or wait til the baby is born and then send them.
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@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
6 Mar
I'm definitely not going to send them on Sunday with my daughter. Figure I'll see what other gifts she gets at the shower and then decide whether to gift them or not.
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@wolfgirl569 (108126)
• Marion, Ohio
6 Mar
As you were not invited I wouldn't be too worried about it.
@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
6 Mar
I don't feel obligated to send a gift but I thought it would be a nice gesture and I do love making baby things. I'm going to keep the blankets for now and maybe send them after the baby is born,
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@JudyEv (342088)
• Rockingham, Australia
7 Mar
Maybe keep your gift till after the baby is born. It it's a boy, I'd send the blanket. Maybe do something neutral while you're waiting.
@Mike197602 (15512)
• United Kingdom
6 Mar
I think your current plan is to wait until after the shower to see if people totally abide by the colour scheme and go from there?
I thinks that's a good idea...personally, if I'd gone to the trouble of making the blankets, I'd have sent them to the shower with a note saying you know they're not exactly to the colour scheme so if they don't like them feel free to regift them...but then you don't know if they'll just be polite and say they're lovely and stick them in a drawer and never use them...so maybe give them to a childrens ward at your local hospital.
...but then you don't know if they'll just be polite and say they're lovely and stick them in a drawer and never use them...so maybe give them to a childrens ward at your local hospital.1 person likes this
@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
6 Mar
Yes I'm going to wait and see if everyone abides by the color scheme and then see if I still want to send a gift when the baby is born, I'm sure she would be gracious enough to say thank you even if she didn't like them.
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@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
6 Mar
Yes I'm going to wait until the baby is born and then decide if I'm going to send the gift. I always thought blue was a perfect color for baby boy.
@LindaOHio (181721)
• United States
7 Mar
I wouldn't worry about it now since you weren't invited to the shower. Gift her when the baby is born if that's what you want to do. I probably would not send a gift at all. Have a good day.
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Mar
Beige? Interesting choice. I'd take the blanket to the shower. Why not? Surely people get tired of blandness at some point and a little blue for the little guy will be nice.
@LeaPea2417 (37379)
• Toccoa, Georgia
6 Mar
You could wait until after the baby is born to send the gift.
