Can YOU live without a PARTNER in LIFE?

@Shavkat (139933)
Philippines
April 9, 2024 6:19pm CST
Some people think that their lives are incomplete. I do respect that because they are into this kind of relationship. Some singles out there accepted the fact that life is fine without any partners. I am one of them. I can still be happy without someone to live forever or even for a lifetime. However, I am not closing my door to being committed to someone. Any thoughts about it? Image Credit: i.pinimg.com
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@marguicha (223010)
• Chile
10 Apr
I married a wonderful man very young. The only thing he did wrong was to die too young. I have been alone for almost 25 years. I haven´t found another person such as him. It is not a matter od deciding rationally whether I want to stay single or have a partner. Things happen. Or don´t.
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@marguicha (223010)
• Chile
10 Apr
@MarieCoyle I believe that the only important thing to do while you are dating is to be true to yoursrlf. Many people try to "bend" themselves so that the other person likes them better. But he other is not liking or loving HER. Same the other way around.
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@MarieCoyle (37507)
10 Apr
You are so right. I recently had a newly divorced friend, not a close friend but still...when her husband got caught cheating, she divorced him. Then she went nuts, joined several dating sites, and found a so-called husband. She isn't happy at all. She didn't take the time to really know the person at all. It would have been better for her to be alone than to be married and be unhappy. Her children tried to tell her it was way too soon, but she didn't want to hear that. Very sad. ''Things happen. Or don´t.'' So well put, Marga.
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@MarieCoyle (37507)
10 Apr
@marguicha Oh, I agree. Just be yourself or you don’t stand a chance of it working out at all.
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@LadyDuck (471506)
• Switzerland
10 Apr
We had a friend who was single and very happy not to have a partner. He had very good friends and he was happy being single. We are not all the same.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
12 Apr
I agree. Being single is a good thing for some, and others are not.
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@LadyDuck (471506)
• Switzerland
12 Apr
@Shavkat - Humans are not exactly the same, some like crowds and some not and some prefer not to have a partner.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
12 Apr
@LadyDuck I agree that people have different preferences.
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@pumpkinjam (8763)
• United Kingdom
10 Apr
I am happily married now. However, I've been in some less pleasant relationships. I was third-time lucky with my husband as he was my third long-term relationship. Before I met my husband, I'd come out of a bad relationship. I hadn't spent much time as a singleton before. This time, I made a choice to enjoy being single. I lived quite happily without a life partner. Then I met my now husband entirely unintentionally He'd been living a happy single life before then as well! I think some people do need a life partner but I found that I only thought I did until I learnt that I didn't.
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• United Kingdom
12 Apr
@Shavkat no partner is certainly better than a bad partner.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
12 Apr
I have had bad relationships in the past. I am looking for a new partner. But it may happen if it is intended. If not, I am still fine with it.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
12 Apr
@pumpkinjam You said it right. I tried my best to level my brain waves for my exes, but they tend not to understand what I am trying for them to know.
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@kaylachan (69714)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Apr
I think people who claim they are happy without a life partner are lying to themselves. People need people. Everyone needs someone. Even loners and introverts get lonely and want company. Saying you're happy alone, is one of the biggest conterdictions a person can make about themselves. I am an introvert and a bit of a loner, too. However, I'm happily married. Being open to relationships just shows you're waiting for the right person to come along and won't settle.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
12 Apr
At some point, I may feel lonely. However, I am fine with my immediate family. If this person comes, it would be great. If not, it is also fine.
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@kaylachan (69714)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12 Apr
@Shavkat Sometimes you just never know.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
12 Apr
@kaylachan I am sure I can never tell, but I still need to be vigilant.
@wolfgirl569 (106271)
• Marion, Ohio
10 Apr
I don't mind being alone. I don't need my husband, I want him in my life
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@wolfgirl569 (106271)
• Marion, Ohio
10 Apr
@MarieCoyle It's the truth. I have lived on my own and liked it at the time. But I don't want to anymore.
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@MarieCoyle (37507)
11 Apr
@wolfgirl569 We often change as we go through life. I think many people who have had a bad relationship seem to want some time by themselves for awhile, before they put themselves out there.
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@MarieCoyle (37507)
10 Apr
Eva, what a wonderful thing to say, very profound!
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@elmer0421 (432)
10 Apr
I can live without a partner..I came to deal with difficult people before and I am really afraid of being able to meet another one.. But I am not closing my door too..
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
12 Apr
I guess we are on the same page. I am sure God has plans for us, and that includes this concern.
@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
12 Apr
@elmer0421 I am not sure what you are pointing to, kabayan. Would you mind to tell me more?
12 Apr
@Shavkat I realize how important temperament compatibility is in a relationship..Do you know your MBTI temperament already?
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@capirani (2840)
• United States
10 Apr
I grew up an only child. I was lonely a lot. Then I got married and had two children. I loved that time in my life even though there were many challenges and we ended up divorced. Our divorce happened at the same time that my youngest moved out. It was a very lonely time, and I was not sure I would be able to do life alone. But that was 24 years ago, and I am still living on my own. Now in the early senior years, I think about the idea of marrying again. But then I think about new in-laws, their children and grandchildren, my children and grandchildren. And at that point I do not think I would want to go through all of those situations again, What I would prefer is companionship with anyone who just wants to hang out, go out and do things together. Just friendship and fun. Nothing physical or romantic at all. Relationships are difficult enough as it is, but doing it all over again with another person's other family, and then being compared to the previous wife/mom. Not for me.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
12 Apr
I have a random feeling about whether I really need to get married or not at my age right now. If ever I find someone, having a child is not an option now. For now, there is no marriage if the person is not the right one. At some point, I need to use my brain over my heart.
• Philippines
22 Oct
As long as I have God that's okay. Though sometimes its hard to think that I am getting old alone one day, but I have relatives who also become an old maid lol!... but they are all fine. So I think there is no problem about it as long as you are with God, He will take care of everything that I will need when I got old.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
27 Oct
In our family's bloodline, some of them are still single like my uncle. I think he is fine being an old bachelor. I also think that God will be always there for me.
• Portugal
10 Apr
I think you can be happy without being in a relationship but when you are in a relationship you feel things that make you wish not to be single again it is like if something good happens in your life you feel happy but if you have someone to share that good thing with, it becomes so much better i hope when you meet someone, that this person makes you very happy
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
12 Apr
I also hope that this person can make me complete. True happiness will come when it happens.
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@RebeccasFarm (89882)
• Arvada, Colorado
10 Apr
I'm doing it just fine.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
11 Apr
I am glad that you are.
@just4him (317041)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
10 Apr
I'm okay with living alone.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
11 Apr
I am with you.
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@thelme55 (77061)
• Germany
10 Apr
People are different. Some are happy being single, some are not. If you are happy being single, why not. Not all who have partners in life are happy.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
11 Apr
You said it right. It is a matter of having the choice. They could embrace singlehood or not. Having a partner is not all to be perfect.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
12 Apr
@thelme55 Thanks for agreeing.
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@thelme55 (77061)
• Germany
11 Apr
@Shavkat I agree with you.
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@MelthySow (176)
• Indonesia
10 Apr
It's all about individual choices. The most important thing is that without a partner or with a partner, you remain happy with yourself.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
11 Apr
I am with you. The most important thing is we are happy and found inner peace for being single or not.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
11 Apr
@MelthySow We can never tell the future, but we still need to find our true happiness.
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• Indonesia
11 Apr
@Shavkat yes right. Always be complete with yourself. Inner peace will spread outer peace to others.
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@grenery8 (10665)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
11 Apr
That's some deep question and it reminds me of manga that i started to read, unfortunately it is ongoing. it is called I have no intention of dating i respect people who are single and satisfied inside. i wish i was one of them. i am single but not satisfied with my future, rather, a few job oppotunities. in this age, i am feeling like a man in the 1950s, if i don't have a good job or job, who would want to have anything with me... i've been throgh blind dates recently and guys just talk about jobs; some eventually talk about their exes and such, which is a red flag for me. i wanted someone to love me because of me and when i look through many events in my life so far, i handled them alone so, sadly, i am used to that feeling. i don't like being alone but i am tired of working so hard to find someone. old people say, love will come around. i would like to experience that but i am not sure anymore. when i listen to some chinese drama songs, i like how people want to be together until their head turns gray. since many here are bald or half bald, i don't even have a right for that wish i guess me and love go seperate ways
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
12 Apr
I can feel your sentiments with some people. They keep on talking about their exes, which is not a good thing. It just shows that they have not moved on and still glimpse past things with them. It is better to end by entertaining them. I hope you can find the right one for you.
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@grenery8 (10665)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
12 Apr
@Shavkat thank you for acknowledging that. i am okay if a peson mentions their ex after a few more meetings but on the first meeting and 4-5 times, i mean, it is not fair to me. not sure anymore but thank you
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
13 Apr
@grenery8 I think it is really not a good thing to say about exes, especially during the dating stage. As they said, it is a big no, whether the couple is in a relationship or not.
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@much2say (55607)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Apr
I do have some friends like that . . . and they say they are perfectly happy. One friend I think of says he is not a commitment person, regarding people anyway. He likes only to be able to take care of himself and not have to answer to anyone. He can eat, sleep, go wherever he wants, etc on his own time. But I know he is also cheap - he likes not having to pay for anyone else .