A bit forward, do you think?
By much2say
@much2say (54804)
Los Angeles, California
July 23, 2024 1:52pm CST
My daughter met this guy in her 5 week summer class at a local community college. It was nice that she had someone to walk around with and talk to after class before I came to pick her up.
He'd walk her up to our car door each day. We'd often have a brief chat through the open window before we drove away. There was something strange about him, but I couldn't put my finger on it . . . maybe because it seemed like he was trying to butter me up a few times by saying "You're a good parent, I can tell" or "You did such a great job with her" 
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On the last day of the summer session, he said (not asked), "One night I can come over to your house for dinner" . . . "And I'm a vegetarian". . I thought this was being a bit forward to invite himself, with his dietary preference, considering he was just a friend from class for a few short weeks . Even my daughter was shocked.
What do you think?
*** We never got back to him - it conveniently worked out that way. Anyway, at age 20, he is a recovering "drinker". Apparently he ran away from quite a dysfunctional family and went to go live with a friend's family who kicked him out recently. He asked my daughter if he could store some things in our garage if something happened - of course she said no. There were red flags all over this one among other things my daughter told me . . . I'm glad my daughter had enough sense to just keep this at a friends level.
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On the last day of the summer session, he said (not asked), "One night I can come over to your house for dinner" . . . "And I'm a vegetarian". . I thought this was being a bit forward to invite himself, with his dietary preference, considering he was just a friend from class for a few short weeks . Even my daughter was shocked.
What do you think?
*** We never got back to him - it conveniently worked out that way. Anyway, at age 20, he is a recovering "drinker". Apparently he ran away from quite a dysfunctional family and went to go live with a friend's family who kicked him out recently. He asked my daughter if he could store some things in our garage if something happened - of course she said no. There were red flags all over this one among other things my daughter told me . . . I'm glad my daughter had enough sense to just keep this at a friends level. 23 people like this
19 responses
@much2say (54804)
• Los Angeles, California
23 Jul
I felt bad for him, but we cannot get in a situation where we'd get "stuck" with him. Had a sick feeling he might then ask if he could live with us temporarily. No way. I think his parents probably didn't really teach him much about the ways of the world - like manners.
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@much2say (54804)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Jul
@MarieCoyle I did try 
. But he's only 20 and has a very common name. Since he told us what high school he went to, all I found were some high school athletic stats . His awkwardness and the way he said things was enough to make me question this kid. But luckily my daughter isn't interested in him - she held her own on this one.
. But he's only 20 and has a very common name. Since he told us what high school he went to, all I found were some high school athletic stats . His awkwardness and the way he said things was enough to make me question this kid. But luckily my daughter isn't interested in him - she held her own on this one.3 people like this
@MarieCoyle (34016)
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25 Jul
@much2say
It sounds like your girl has some good, solid common sense. Thank goodness for that!! I would have been worried, too.
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@rebelann (112254)
• El Paso, Texas
23 Jul
Yikes, he sounds scary. I hope he doesn't try to pursue your daughter in any way. Does she know his full name? If so maybe you could ask someone about him ...... I confess, I watch too many shows about lawyers, right now I'm watching LA Law and it does give me ideas about watt to watch for, I'm just glad I'm not a young pretty girl for any man to get hung up on.
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@much2say (54804)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Jul
The good thing is my daughter had the smarts enough to see the red flags on her own . . . she really wasn't interested in this guy that way. She held her on on this one 
. I think the guy was actually interested, but also he seemed needy and was possibly desperate to find a stable place to be (sorry, we can't accommodate that). Anyway, for now I think we won't have to deal with him.
. I think the guy was actually interested, but also he seemed needy and was possibly desperate to find a stable place to be (sorry, we can't accommodate that). Anyway, for now I think we won't have to deal with him.1 person likes this
@LeaPea2417 (37339)
• Toccoa, Georgia
23 Jul
You definitely dodged a bullet on that one.
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@RasmaSandra (77609)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Jul
Good that she never started a more serious relationship, Sounds like one scary fellow, So now she no longer has any contact with him?
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@much2say (54804)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Jul
The summer session just ended . . . and she knew him just long enough to realize there were too many red flags. They did go on one mall outing . . . he showed more of his outside-of-the-class self and she wasn't liking it. Since then they haven't spoken.
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@celticeagle (164045)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jul
Ugh! Red flags all over that one. Sometimes these types push even harder. Be glad it went the way it did. I've watched too many Lifetime movies.
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@celticeagle (164045)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jul
@much2say ......There are a lot of those type of storylines in the movies on Lifetime. And, many are taken from true stories.
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@much2say (54804)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Jul
That's the thing - I could see how it might lead to him wanting to live with us temporarily - and there's no way we could let that happen. When they get desperate, yah, they will push harder. We sure wouldn't to end up being a plot idea for a movie .
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@much2say (54804)
• Los Angeles, California
25 Jul
@celticeagle I also wouldn't want to be the focus on something like Dateline either (not a movie but those investigative docu shows) .
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@kaylachan (65344)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Jul
Yeah, sounds like a real creep.
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@kaylachan (65344)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Jul
@much2say I don't blame you, I wouldn't want that, either.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16686)
• China
25 Jul
It wasn't done thing ! You didn't know each other well, he went to so far as to want to go to your house for dinner ,without so much as asking you .Your daughter is a good judge of people !
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@much2say (54804)
• Los Angeles, California
27 Jul
@changjiangzhibin89 I think so too. I feel bad for him, but I cannot entertain any of his living plans. Who asks this of someone after only knowing them for a short time? Sadly, he must be desperate.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16686)
• China
27 Jul
@much2say It would spell troubles if you meet his demands for his living plans.You don't know what will happen.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16686)
• China
26 Jul
@much2say Since He has such a family background ,he must have harbored ulterior motive to walk your daughter to your car every day.It was a good thing the 5 week summer class was over ! He has no reason to cotton up to you.
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@LindaOHio (170715)
• United States
24 Jul
Oh my goodness! I'd be separating myself from him immediately. And inviting himself over for dinner is indeed more than forward. Have a good day.
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@much2say (54804)
• Los Angeles, California
26 Jul
@LindaOHio But she's only 19, so still I worry about these things.
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@LindaOHio (170715)
• United States
25 Jul
@much2say Thank you very much. Your daughter is very wise!!!
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@GardenGerty (159754)
• United States
24 Jul
Your daughter sounds pretty level headed. He obviously has not got any real "social graces" probably from his rough upbringing.I have been taken advantage of a couple of times and had people "in need" stay with me or store stuff with me. I took a long time to learn.
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@allknowing (132209)
• India
24 Jul
Love is blind and glad that your daughter was not blindfolded.
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@RebeccasFarm (88351)
• Arvada, Colorado
24 Jul
Your daughter is golden..she was a smart cookie to distance herself. These smart choices avoid catastrophes in life..
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@Tampa_girl7 (49864)
• United States
24 Jul
This was not only a bit forward, but a bit creepy. Y’all really dodged a bullet.
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