Children who don't listen to their parents
By UmiNoor
@UmiNoor (4523)
Malaysia
August 1, 2024 8:25pm CST
My niece recently gave birth and my sister is a grandmother yet another time. My sister has 5 children and this is her last child who just gave birth. It's a happy occasion for both mother and grandmother.
What saddens my sister is that this child of hers refuse to listen to her advice regarding taking care of her baby. She would rather listen to her Whatsapp group friends who would tell her mostly unproven and unsubstantiated advice about how to take care of her baby.
My sister is non-confrontational so she just lets my niece do whatever she wants. It is after all her baby.
I really don't understand children nowadays who don't appreciate their parents. Do you think my sister should just let my niece do whatever she wants even though it may be detrimental to the baby?
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8 responses
@kaylachan (69370)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2 Aug
Yes. Unless the baby's life is in iminiate danger, then the mother needs to be the one to parent the child. The sister's concerns may bbe valid, but it's only advice. momamma can choose to take it. It's hard, but it's what needs to be done.
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@UmiNoor (4523)
• Malaysia
2 Aug
@kaylachan I only hate it if one day my niece would turn around and blame her mother for not telling her what to do when things go absolutely wrong. You know people really don't like to take the blame for the choices that they make.
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@kaylachan (69370)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2 Aug
@UmiNoor Yes. But the mother needs the chance to parent her child how she sees fit.
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@JimmyDeen (252)
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2 Aug
She should explain that people on social media don't always give good advice. Take it from her mother who has raised five and truly has her grandchild's health at heart
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@UmiNoor (4523)
• Malaysia
2 Aug
My niece just turn 20 I think. She thinks she knows better than everyone around her. So it's not easy to talk to her when she thinks she knows better than her own mother.
The one thing that she did with her baby that I too don't agree is that she only bath her child once every three days. And she would cloth her in long sleeves and long pants. I look at the baby and I can feel how uncomfortable the baby must be feeling. She felt sticky to the touch.
And if she does bath the baby, she will not put baby powder on her. The baby smells terrible. The country I live in is very humid and when you sweat and you sweat easily because of the humidity and the heat, you will definitely smell horrible.
She said someone on social media told her this is the best way to take care of a baby. Yeah, if you're in a cold country!
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@aninditasen (16382)
• Raurkela, India
2 Aug
If the baby is safe in her daughter's care I think your sister should accept her technique.
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@aninditasen (16382)
• Raurkela, India
6 Aug
@UmiNoor Old or new if it's good for the baby it should be implemented.
@everwonderwhy (7326)
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2 Aug
Eventually, this young mother will see things making sense to her. Your sister should just enjoy her newest grandchild and be there for her when she is needed.
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@pumpkinjam (8754)
• United Kingdom
4 Aug
What saddens me is parents of adults trying to dictate how other people raise their children. Your niece will do what she feels is right. If your sister genuinely thinks the child is in danger then, yes, she should say something. Otherwise, she can offer her opinion but her daughter doesn't have to accept it. All parents are different, all children are different. There's no way I'd have raised my children the way my parents raised me.
As a grandparent now, my daughter is welcome to ask me about anything. She knows the experience I have. I still respect that decisions relating to her children are decisions for her and her husband to make.
@psanasangma (7289)
• India
3 Aug
Quite concerning but I think it is okay as long as baby is safe, besides she should have at least listen to her mother
