Debbie Downer
By MARILYN
@Marilynda1225 (83372)
United States
September 10, 2024 11:49am CST
Happy Tuesday everyone! It's a beautiful sunny day here today.
Yes, I'm late getting here today.
I had just poured my coffee, opened the laptop and was ready to chat when my phone rang. It was my friend so naturally I answered.
What a mistake. All she did was complain and I had a headache by the time we hung up.
She complained about everything under the sun and I've noticed that the older she's getting the more she complains.
I used to enjoy our conversations and we've been friends for over 30 years.
I can't help but wonder if she's turning into a cranky old lady.
Her husband is probably glad he's partially deaf 
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14 responses
@AmbiePam (94989)
• United States
10 Sep
I’m sorry, Marilyn! I made a note when my my maternal grandmother turned into mostly a complainer, to watch myself as I got older. I mean, a person doesn’t have to be that old when they start to mostly complain. So I have to watch myself now.
Hopefully, your day gets better. 
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@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
10 Sep
I guess getting older comes with all sorts of complaints and I try to keep mine to a minimum especially to my daughter. When my mom got elderly and lived with me she made life difficult with her complaints when half the things she complained about either couldn't be changed or were beyond the realm of reasoning.
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@LindaOHio (183959)
• United States
11 Sep
You made me laugh. I tell everyone what's going on in my life; but I rarely "complain". I dislike people that make complaining a career. I'm sorry your friend has become a complainer. Maybe she needs attention. Have a good day.
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@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
11 Sep
With everything you have going on I would be shouting to the rooftops about the frustrations. Yet, you always sound positive and not whining about it all. My friend either just likes to complain now or something medical might be causing all her complaints.
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@LindaOHio (183959)
• United States
11 Sep
@Marilynda1225 I hope there's nothing wrong medically with your friend.
@snowy22315 (183464)
• United States
10 Sep
Oh well some people are like that, and sometimes it's me.
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@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
10 Sep
We all complain but I'm beginning to think there's more to it with my friend. She never used to be like this
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@kaylachan (73341)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Sep
She probably just needs an outlet and you just happened to be it.
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@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
10 Sep
She knows I'll listen but it's getting to a point where she does nothing but complain.
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@kaylachan (73341)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Sep
@Marilynda1225 Try to explain to her, that you want to help, but the constant complaining is starting to get to you.
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@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
10 Sep
I'm sure you're not a constant complainer and we all have days when we have a lot to grip about. This has been an ongoing thing with my friend and since she ne er used to be like this I'm starting to think k it might be something else (maybe medical)
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@RasmaSandra (81528)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Sep
Aww sorry she was so cranky, I see no reason to get other people down if you are not feeling right yourself, As they say I sure hope she gets her act together,
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@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
11 Sep
She's just turning into a cranky old lady which is sad. I don't know why she lets the things bother her that she does when half of it doesn't even affect her life in any way. We all have legitimate complaints but this goes beyond that. I'm wondering if maybe it's a medical issue that she's unaware of.
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@RebeccasFarm (90744)
• Arvada, Colorado
10 Sep
I am sorry she affected you like that. Have a good day Marilyn.
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@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
11 Sep
Everyone has legitimate complains and needs someone to vent to. But, my friend carries on about things that don't even affect her life in any way.
@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
11 Sep
Next time I'll let it go to voicemail and leave a message. If she's not in a good mood I won't call back 
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@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
11 Sep
I guess some people just turn into being grouchy and negative when they get older. I certainly don't want to and hope and pray that I can smile and laugh through my old age.
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@JudyEv (343439)
• Rockingham, Australia
11 Sep
@Marilynda1225 People have the choice really, don't they? They can let things get them down or they can rise above it all.
@Deepizzaguy (105225)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
10 Sep
Sorry to learn that your friend is turning out be cranky.
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@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
11 Sep
This has been going on for awhile now and she's making it difficult to enjoy having a conversation.
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@Deepizzaguy (105225)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
11 Sep
@Marilynda1225 Sorry to learn about your friend being hard to talk to.
@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
11 Sep
I'm hoping I don't turn into one of those grouchy old people too.
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@Beestring (14779)
• Hong Kong
11 Sep
Sorry you had a negative conversation to start the day. Enjoy the rest of the day.
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@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
11 Sep
The rest of my day went well but it's just sad that my friend is turning into a grouchy old lady.
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@LovesEverybody (4386)
• United States
11 Sep
I am so sorry you had to deal with that call.
I used to be a major debbie downer thinking negatively. Then my peer started to talk to me about finding the positives in everything I experience.
Positive thinking (and my peer's advice) have helped me so much in my life and made me happier.
Have a super special day, and treat yourself and others well!
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@Marilynda1225 (83372)
• United States
11 Sep
I'm glad that your peer has been able to help you be a bit more positive and that you're feeling happier.
Hope you had a good day and wonderful week ahead 
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@LovesEverybody (4386)
• United States
11 Sep
@Marilynda1225 thank you! it is amazing what a little positive thinking can do to a girl like me! I have a book about thinking positively about myself on my Kindle I have been meaning to read. I plan on reading it as soon as I can.
Joining the peer program was the best decision of my life.
I hope your day was as good as mine was! Hope you wake up in the morning with a smile on your face! 
