Are there people in your life who don't like talking to you?

@TheHorse (217941)
Walnut Creek, California
October 4, 2024 2:43pm CST
As you know, I tend to be a bit of an optimist. I like dark music (James McMurtry) , and dark comedy (Pulp Fiction), but I have a positive attitude toward day-to-day life. My brother (one year younger) is the exact opposite. His mantra is "Life sucks. And then you die." I don't think he cares much for me. And I don't think he enjoys talking to me, though we chat on the phone every other week or so. What's funny is that he is crafty about avoiding talking to me. If I call him, he does not pick up. If I email him, he does not respond. If I tell him I will be at work from 2 PM to 7 PM, he will call me back. At 2:30 PM. That way he can say he returned my call. Are there certain people out there who simply don't like you? Or don't like talking to you?
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@JudyEv (338685)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Oct
Mostly once I work out someone doesn't like me, I don't bother them any more. But it's a bit hard if it's family. My brother never liked me but he's passed away now.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
Do you know why you and he did not get along?
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
@JudyEv Understood. I think my younger brother was jealous because of the positive attention I got for playing sports.
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@JudyEv (338685)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Oct
@TheHorse He had really bad eyesight so couldn't get a driving licence; he was 8 years older and I think once I turned 17 and was going out here, there and everywhere, it was very frustrating for him. He was quite isolated on the farm so didn't really have any friends his own age.
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• Calgary, Alberta
5 Oct
My parents because I married a Black woman
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• Calgary, Alberta
9 Oct
@TheHorse they dont like black people and uses n word a lot
@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
They don't like black women?
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@moffittjc (121503)
• Gainesville, Florida
5 Oct
That is crazy, because my brother (1 year younger) is the same way! I am the eternal optimist, and he's the eternal pessimist. We were basically like twins growing up, doing everything together. Yet when we talk about memories from our past, I always exclaim how good they were and how much fun we had, and all he talks about is how bad they were and how miserable things were. It's amazing how two people who experienced the same exact things can have two completely different views on the matter.
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@moffittjc (121503)
• Gainesville, Florida
5 Oct
@TheHorse It is crazy how our minds work, and that shared experiences can be looked at in entirely different views.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
@moffittjc Yep. We all have different filters.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
My brother and I also remember the past differently. We have a lot of shared experiences, but did not hang out together all the time. I was into sports. He was into...other things.
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@Deepizzaguy (102110)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
4 Oct
Some of my relatives like my sisters do not like to talk to me since I am self employed at home due to illness.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Oct
Why would your being at home make them not want to talk to you?
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@Deepizzaguy (102110)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
5 Oct
@TheHorse I guess being the baby of the family and only working a job in the fast food industry makes them mad at me.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
@Deepizzaguy Oh, they wanted you to be a doctor or a lawyer?
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@aninditasen (16337)
• Raurkela, India
5 Oct
I avoid those people who don't like me as they will just create trouble if we talk to them.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
9 Oct
@aninditasen I am glad my colleagues at Guitar Center are all "cool."
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
I try to avoid them if I can. It's difficult when I work with them, though.
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@aninditasen (16337)
• Raurkela, India
9 Oct
@TheHorse That's a very difficult situation. I did face the situation in my work place too.
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@somewitch (1373)
4 Oct
Maybe, I hardly ever reach out first so they can chill. My mother seems to get frustrated when she talks to me, yet she keeps on talking to me. Go figure.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
How do you frustrate her?
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@somewitch (1373)
5 Oct
@TheHorse I tell her what I think, not what she wants to hear.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
@somewitch Can't that lead to some interesting conversations?
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@GardenGerty (160491)
• United States
5 Oct
Of course there are. And there are a few I honestly do not like. I block them on FB, after accepting a friend request. I go hide out with other jobs to keep from being in the same room. Etc. I will have to keep in mind the idea of calling when I know someone is unavailable. It is crafty.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
My brother is crafty.
@marguicha (222389)
• Chile
4 Oct
My BIL stopped talking to me over 10 years ago. I wish I knew what pissed him so much. Then he told my brother that I was a pest and I also lost my brother. Now we are slowly seeing each other (with my brother, not my BIL) but now it is those sorts of polite get togethers when we don´t really talk of anything important. After such a long time, I don´t care anymore.
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@marguicha (222389)
• Chile
5 Oct
@TheHorse Exactly. I have my very best friends that I call my adopted family.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
At a certain point, one can "let go."
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
@marguicha I have people in my life like that as well.
• Philippines
6 Oct
There are lots of people who loves to do the same to me, but I just smile and brush it off. And besides its their lost not mine. But I tend not to get bothered by those kind of people. But in your case, its your brother, I think its kinda hard, but never giving up of communicating to him every week and if possible everyday. My sister also don't love talking to me on the phone, but I tend to nag on my text, so she have no way of not returning my calls. I just want to make sure if she's ok, or how is she doing... She's my sister after all, its ok if she's not fond of talking to me over the phone, I love talking to her, and I love knowing what's she's doing, because I care. Sometimes its hard but love is always sacrificial and giving... but what matter is we show them care and love even our parents who loves to brush me away most of the time, because I know I am simply annoyed them most of the time. But that's ok, when I am hurt I just pray to God, and thank the Lord that I still have them as my family. And God made sure that I always see the good things beneath the bad things. God bless.
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• Philippines
7 Oct
@TheHorse we really have to take care of our parents no matter how grumpy they are, we are the only person they can rely to when they are really gets old. And besides God is so good to give us a family. Anyway that's so nice of you.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
7 Oct
I am trying to "let go." But my dad always reminded me it was my job to "look after him and take care of him." Other than that, my dad was pretty cool.
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@Juliaacv (50866)
• Canada
5 Oct
My brother younger than I doesn't speak nor see eye to eye with me. He is a jealous person, and always felt jealousy, as did his wife, over things that my hubs and I had. But we worked hard for those items, and never ever flaunted them or even talked about them. He is very simple minded though, and not a very intelligent person, and ignorance counts for alot I'm afraid.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Oct
I have often seen jealousy play a role in dislike.
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@wolfgirl569 (105318)
• Marion, Ohio
5 Oct
I think there is. But they are not a big part of my life anyways
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
Glad they are not major forces in your life.
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@noni1959 (10061)
• United States
5 Oct
I'm sure there are. One of my sisters for sure. We never got along and I don't reach out to her.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
Do you know why you didn't get along?
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
9 Oct
@noni1959 A metal car in the face is a bit "over the top." I recall a similar incident with my younger brother. It involved stitches (five) as well.
@noni1959 (10061)
• United States
6 Oct
@TheHorse It went way back to toddlerhood. She has some issues but when I was three, she hit me across the face with a metal car and I had to have stitches. Over the years, lots of this and that and I chose to step back. Blood doesn't mean have to be around them.
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@Shiva49 (26644)
• Singapore
5 Oct
I have found some who think others are luckier and avoid them due to jealousy. I keep an open mind and entertain conversations but leave them to their devices if they avoid me.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
I have often seen jealousy play a role.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
5 Oct
I know of people that don't like me; but they are out of my life. I'm sorry about your brother. Have a good weekend regardless!
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
You too!
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
5 Oct
@TheHorse Thank you very much.
@snowy22315 (179769)
• United States
4 Oct
Sis isnt overly friendly, but sometimes we get into good text convos. She used to call to chat, but that is a rarity these days. She is pretty busy with her work though and extracurriculars. Maybe when she retires there will be more time for chats.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
4 Oct
My brother and I have had some decent "intellectual" chats over the years. But he can be a "know it all."
@vandana7 (100127)
• India
5 Oct
I like talking to you. I love talking to you. Wait a second...correction....I love teasing you...does that amount to talking to you?
@much2say (55347)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Oct
I think most people do like to talk to me . But right now my younger and only sister is not really talking to me, nor my mom for that matter. Long story, but she never understood how our family works . . . so ever since my father passed away, she has become worse than she already was. Very sad.
@kaylachan (68557)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Oct
I seem to rack them up and piss off a lt of people. I couldn't name them all if I tried.
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@TheHorse (217941)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Oct
Well Boy Howdy! What do you do to piss people off?
@grenery8 (9782)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
6 Oct
i seem to clash with my family members too so, yes, not fun talking to me or them
• India
5 Oct
Currently , whoever I am in touch are likely to talk to me. I do not think they have any reason to avoid me , but then this my belief. Now, whomever is not in my current life or in touch , may not like me or may nto talk to me. Reasons could be : we have grown apart or nothing to talk about etc. I have not avoided any so far , however, I do have meet people with ego and have few instances where they never picked up my calls. Since it was office related and not to my personal life , not sure if that would qualify. Any case, they were never my well wishers and I nver bothered to call them any ways!