10/15/24 - Update On My Husband

I know this is all very hard, totally heartbreaking. To say I am sorry just doesn't help, but that's all I've got...it just doesn't seem like enough to say. Anyway, a small idea--would the nice, short term place take him if you explained to them you are looking for another facility other than the one he was in? They might take him if you are actively looking for another place.

I am so sorry to know this. I hope you find a good facility for him. I will continue to pray for you and your husband.

I am so sorry it did not work out for the two of you. I hope you can find a place other than the bad one for him.

This is a sad news, he needs a nice long term care facility where to stay.

This is sad news. What a terrible year you're having.

I pray that he'll get better and that you find another 5-star facility that can take him in. I had my mom stay in 3 different nursing homes until she fully recovered.

You can always try. If it's as good as you say, then he might be able to recover enough to come home. If not, you might need to discuss long-term options.

If he won’t then YOU talk to the doctor about what he needs to be home.

Yes, that was just a tease. I have feelings, but no words for how sorry that I am for you both. The dash of dreams, the reality that his body has aged in the past year beyond what you can assist him with at home. Are there any facilities that offer residential as well as long term care? I worked in such a facility years ago, and when 1 would have a fall or a stroke or their heal failed to the point that they needed around the clock assistance, the husband or wife, who still had good health, would move to a room in the residential section of the home. It was a blessing because everyone gets a day older every single day. The well one could easily make their way to the their spouse and spend most of their days together. Is that something to consider as winter is coming and you will be alone in that house again. I pray that you can speak with a social worker to help find the best scenerio for the 2 of you.

Now you don't know about never so do not depress yourself, Just take what you have learned and this time check out every possible thing you can. Start making lists of home care of other possibilities make it a project and then when he is in a facility bombard them with a thousand questions to educate yourself on his situation, If things were so bad they should not have let him go home but they did now it is up to you to make the impossible possible, I wish you the very best of luck, many blessings to you both, and will hold you in my prayers,

I'm sad and don't have a clue on what to say. For you: is there any chance someone can stay overnight with you at least a couple nights a week this winter? It's going to be deeply lonely for you otherwise. Hugs.

Isn't there anything that can be done so that he can go back home without the risk of falling again? This is very heartbreaking. He finally comes back home only to fall down again and go back to the hospital. Did he break anything in the fall? Sucks that I can't help.

I am sorry for both of you. I hope you will find a better place for him.

I am sorry to hear this. Will continue to pray for both of you.

Is there an assisted living where you could go and be together?

Sad, it had to come to this, but it is what it is I guess try to keep a positive mindset and hopefully good things will happen. Maybe the hospital social workers or the Ombudsman could help you find a better rehab. You know if he goes back to the other one it will be more of the same.

Sweet Linda, thank for what you have. You can talk with your husband, he is there. And don´t stop hoping. I´m not.

I hope you can find a nice place for him to go

I hope he's in good spirits when you visit him today and there's no delirium. Hope he can be admitted to a better facility and not have to go back to the one he just left. I wonder if the hospital will be able to determine whether he'll need short term care or long term.

I wish I knew more to say....sorry you are going through this