10/15/24 - Update On My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (194032)
United States
October 15, 2024 1:34am CST
I will be visiting him in the hospital today. He seemed lucid when I spoke with him last night. I don't want to go through weeks of hospital delirium again.
It's really not fair to tease us with a few hours together; and then he's gone again.
The 5-star facility that my husband has been in before and wants to go back to unfortunately is for short-term residents. I doubt he will be able to get in this time. The bad facility would love to have him back, so they say. Probably because we pay our bills on time.
I have my doubts if my husband will ever be able to return home.
Thank you for your continued support, prayers and thoughts.
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@MarieCoyle (46073)
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15 Oct
I know this is all very hard, totally heartbreaking. To say I am sorry just doesn't help, but that's all I've got...it just doesn't seem like enough to say.
Anyway, a small idea--would the nice, short term place take him if you explained to them you are looking for another facility other than the one he was in? They might take him if you are actively looking for another place.
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
15 Oct
Thank you. I'll have to see what the doctors say about his condition.
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
16 Oct
@MarieCoyle It depends on which facilities have beds open. The one he was in always has beds available unfortunately.
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@MarieCoyle (46073)
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15 Oct
@LindaOHio
Yes, for sure. I was just trying to think of a workaround to him having to go back to the place he just left.
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@Juliaacv (54135)
• Canada
15 Oct
Yes, that was just a tease.
I have feelings, but no words for how sorry that I am for you both.
The dash of dreams, the reality that his body has aged in the past year beyond what you can assist him with at home.
Are there any facilities that offer residential as well as long term care?
I worked in such a facility years ago, and when 1 would have a fall or a stroke or their heal failed to the point that they needed around the clock assistance, the husband or wife, who still had good health, would move to a room in the residential section of the home. It was a blessing because everyone gets a day older every single day. The well one could easily make their way to the their spouse and spend most of their days together.
Is that something to consider as winter is coming and you will be alone in that house again.
I pray that you can speak with a social worker to help find the best scenerio for the 2 of you.
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@Juliaacv (54135)
• Canada
16 Oct
@LindaOHio No, not you, but if you could find a place where he could receive extended care and you live in another part of that facility under residential care, and do for yourself, that may help.
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
16 Oct
I cannot do what he needs. He needs round-the-clock care.
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
17 Oct
@Juliaacv I hope we don't have to get to that point. We'll see what happens over the next couple of months at the new facility.
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@FourWalls (76520)
• United States
15 Oct
If he won’t then YOU talk to the doctor about what he needs to be home.
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
16 Oct
He needs to be able to walk a whole lot better.
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@sallypup (65134)
• Centralia, Washington
16 Oct
@LindaOHio I'm truly sorry for the entire mess.
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
16 Oct
I've spent 8-1/2 months alone. I'm not the type of person that likes "alone time". I hate it. 
There isn't anyone that can spend some time here.
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@marguicha (227780)
• Chile
15 Oct
Sweet Linda, thank for what you have. You can talk with your husband, he is there. And don´t stop hoping. I´m not.
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@kaylachan (78774)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
15 Oct
You can always try. If it's as good as you say, then he might be able to recover enough to come home. If not, you might need to discuss long-term options.
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@kaylachan (78774)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Oct
@LindaOHio I know it's not something either of you want, but we all reach that point. I can handle George, but I'm not you.
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@kaylachan (78774)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Oct
@LindaOHio I read how you did it, and if you do it that way, of course he will be. IF he gets an opportunity to go to rehab, you need to get tought how to support and help your husband. He has the ability to lift himself and bare weight on his legs, otherwise he couldn't use a walker. So, you need to learn how to safely help him. In the event you need to. Any family you have helping you, needs training as well.
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
16 Oct
I'm afraid long-term options will have to be discussed.
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@LadyDuck (478543)
• Italy
15 Oct
@LindaOHio - I know that he does not want to go back to the rehab and I understand him.
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@wolfgirl569 (118991)
• Marion, Ohio
15 Oct
I hope you can find a nice place for him to go
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@RasmaSandra (86779)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
15 Oct
Now you don't know about never so do not depress yourself, Just take what you have learned and this time check out every possible thing you can. Start making lists of home care of other possibilities make it a project and then when he is in a facility bombard them with a thousand questions to educate yourself on his situation, If things were so bad they should not have let him go home but they did now it is up to you to make the impossible possible, I wish you the very best of luck, many blessings to you both, and will hold you in my prayers,
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
16 Oct
Thank you so much. He needs to walk a whole lot better before he can come home.
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@lovebuglena (47181)
• Staten Island, New York
15 Oct
Isn't there anything that can be done so that he can go back home without the risk of falling again?
This is very heartbreaking. He finally comes back home only to fall down again and go back to the hospital. Did he break anything in the fall? Sucks that I can't help.
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
16 Oct
Fortunately he didn't hurt himself too badly. He needs to walk a whole lot better before he can come home again.
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@lovebuglena (47181)
• Staten Island, New York
16 Oct
@LindaOHio does he need more PT?
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
17 Oct
@lovebuglena Absolutely. He must get more strength in his legs.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (85184)
• Rupert, Idaho
15 Oct
I wish I knew more to say....sorry you are going through this
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@GardenGerty (164671)
• United States
15 Oct
Is there an assisted living where you could go and be together?
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
16 Oct
He needs more care than an assisted living situation can offer.
@snowy22315 (192509)
• United States
15 Oct
Sad, it had to come to this, but it is what it is I guess try to keep a positive mindset and hopefully good things will happen. Maybe the hospital social workers or the Ombudsman could help you find a better rehab. You know if he goes back to the other one it will be more of the same.
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
16 Oct
If he has to go back to the same facility, there is no way he is going back to the same room.
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@Marilynda1225 (85253)
• United States
15 Oct
I hope he's in good spirits when you visit him today and there's no delirium. Hope he can be admitted to a better facility and not have to go back to the one he just left. I wonder if the hospital will be able to determine whether he'll need short term care or long term.
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@LindaOHio (194032)
• United States
16 Oct
He's very lucid. I think he's going to need long-term care.
@almostoveryou (4863)
• Philippines
15 Oct
I pray that he'll get better and that you find another 5-star facility that can take him in. I had my mom stay in 3 different nursing homes until she fully recovered.
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@Beestring (15599)
• Hong Kong
15 Oct
I am sorry to hear this. Will continue to pray for both of you.
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