Has Anyone Ever Ghosted You?

@akalinus (43209)
United States
October 16, 2024 11:40am CST
Someone I know has been ghosting me. That means they have shut me out, pretended I don't exist, and never talked to me. If I message, they don't answer. I have been pleasant to this person and don't know why she is doing that. Has anyone ever ghosted you? How does it make you feel? What do you do about it? Why do people do that?
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@anya12adwi (9468)
• India
16 Oct
Yes, many! If anyone ghosts me, I literally get into ghost mode and don't think about them further!
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
16 Oct
That is harder to say than it is to do.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
17 Oct
@anya12adwi She is my son's fiancee. He is crazy in love with her. They have been together for seven years but she always threatens to kick him out.
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A A
@anya12adwi (9468)
• India
17 Oct
@akalinus If you are romantically involved, then yes! It will take time to move on! Otherwise not!
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The Horse
@TheHorse (218918)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Oct
Yes, my brother ghosts me often. He does not like talking to me. I am being ghosted by a couple of other people.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
16 Oct
Do you think there is a reason for their behavior? Or, are they just obstinate? I vaguely remember something about you and your brother. I forgot the details but I think it was a source of anguish for you.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (218918)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Oct
@akalinus He resents me. I was the family "hero." A couple of reasons that come to mind. People ghost those they are jealous of. People ghost those they perceive themselves as "owing something to." But I am sure there are many other reasons.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
16 Oct
@TheHorse She is jealous of me when I spend time with my son. I don't see him very often. They are engaged and I desperately want us to be friends. I don't know what to do about it.
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Abhijit Bangal
@abhi_bangal (5534)
• Ahmednagar, India
17 Oct
I didn't know the meaning of what ghosting is. But when you explained it in your second paragraph it's then only I came to know about it. Yeah, I have been ghoasted and I should accept that very broadly. And those people wear my school classmates. And a couple of them actually did this. I I am not sure if they did this on purpose or if they were just playing a prank with me. But yes that was what happened with me. But it was during my school days. And things are left behind back then.
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Abhijit Bangal
@abhi_bangal (5534)
• Ahmednagar, India
17 Oct
@akalinus To be honest it was only later that I came to know that I was being ghosted. I didn't realise during that "ghosting process" that this particular thing was happening with me. Because I took it casually and I didn't even think that my friends would do such a thing to me. But now when I look back and see that incident, I feel very funny about it. And yes, no grudges against anyone.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
17 Oct
@abhi_bangal We do get busy and sometimes don't realize that someone is missing from our lives. Kid are immature and their brains are not fully formed so they don't think about the other person.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
17 Oct
When it happened in your school days, how did that make you feel? Do you still think about now as an adult?
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Kayla Tsukino
@kaylachan (69808)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Oct
i've had it happen before. It doesn't bother me. People have their reasons and while I may never know why, I need to respect that. If they want to talk to me, they will.
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Kayla Tsukino
@kaylachan (69808)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Oct
@akalinus Sounds like she needs help, but she can't get it unless she wants it.
Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
18 Oct
@kaylachan This is true. She says she does. They give her meds that help. Then she decides she doesn't need them. Then she is out of control.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
17 Oct
Yes, I understand that. It is hard though. I love this girl. She is delightful when she is herself but then she changes into someone I never met before.
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Manuela Lopes
@nela13 (58669)
• Portugal
18 Oct
I don't remember that happening to me. Just don't bother about it.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
18 Oct
That is good. I try to get along with people but some don't want to get along with me.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
21 Oct
@nela13 Yes, maybe, but they do not know they lost. I feel like I lost though.
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Manuela Lopes
@nela13 (58669)
• Portugal
19 Oct
@akalinus forget about those who don't want to get along with you, they are the ones who lose.
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Jim Bauer
@porwest (90937)
• United States
17 Oct
I am sure it has happened. I don't really care that it does happen. Life is too short to worry about people who don't care about me.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
17 Oct
It is hard when it is someone you should get along with.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
17 Oct
@porwest You are right. Maybe I should just forget her.
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Jim Bauer
@porwest (90937)
• United States
17 Oct
@akalinus I still don't care. lol
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Amber
@AmbiePam (92778)
• United States
16 Oct
It’s such a silly thing to do. They need to be an adult and deal with their issues face to face, or at least over the phone. The problem lies with them, not you.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
16 Oct
She has a lot of issues and a lot of trouble keeping friends. She has no filter and says things she should not.
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MARILYN
@Marilynda1225 (82789)
• United States
21 Oct
Yes I've been ghosted and it's frustrating not knowing why all of a sudden someone just disppears.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
21 Oct
I know the feeling. I try to remember every action and conversation to figure out how I offended them. I can't figure it out most times.
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Lenore Plassman
@sallypup (61150)
• Centralia, Washington
19 Oct
This kind of reminds me of my husband's family. They act like hubby and I aren't married- not sure why but there it is. Almost 46 years and we're not married????? His nieces refuse to talk with him now. I don't understand but oh well.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (218918)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 Oct
Hey, I have a Copyright on that headline! I just called someone who has been ghosting me. It turned out it was a generational thing. Young people (those in their 30s) text (and sometimes receive calls) but do not check their emails. Sigh. We have a great telephone conversation.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
28 Oct
Anytime you can connect with someone is a good time. I am old, but sometimes I go weeks without going through my email. I just glance at it to see if my brother sent any messages and ignore the rest. Sometimes, I go in and delete thousands of emails.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
28 Oct
@TheHorse I am so sick of politics that I no longer care. Most of "you won" posts get filtered to trash or spam.
The Horse
@TheHorse (218918)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 Oct
@akalinus I delete the political and "you have won" stuff daily.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (340132)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Oct
I haven't had it done to me. It must be hard when you don't know what you've done wrong.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
17 Oct
She accuses me of stuff. She said I stole her over-the-counter medications, two packages of them. She was calling me all sorts of names over text messages. She found her medications had fallen off the shelf and were behind the air fryer—no apology from her. I never know what is next.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (340132)
• Rockingham, Australia
19 Oct
@akalinus It sounds like you're better off without her.
LindaOH
@LindaOHio (178780)
• United States
17 Oct
Yes I was...once. It's a long story; but I was upset about it. I tried contacting the person; but she didn't answer. Have a good day.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
17 Oct
Sometimes, you meet again and things will be okay this time.
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jaishankar
@Shivram59 (35522)
• India
16 Oct
No;I never had such an experience.Do you know who is she or he?? If you know them;you can catch them red handed.Do they make you afraid?? After all you know they are not ghosts.h
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
16 Oct
I know who she is but she is pretending I do not exist. I don't know why exactly.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
16 Oct
@Shivram59 That is but I think it might work. The neighbors may wonder why I am outside tossing stones, though.
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jaishankar
@Shivram59 (35522)
• India
16 Oct
@akalinus I'm telling you what you should do to catch her.Pick a stone from the road and simulate throwing it at her. There the story will end. We had done it to a beggar who was pretending to be blind.
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Jaycee
@fivecandles (435)
• United States
26 Oct
I haven't been ghosted but I have ghosted someone. I didn't want to, my (now ex) husband had a major issue with me having any male friends, but especially my best friend. Too bad for him though because after our divorce I got back in touch with my best friend and now we've been married for 10 years.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (43209)
• United States
26 Oct
I hope you are happy now.