Is winning a personal argument worth more than risking a relationship?
By Anish Asokan
@RevivedWarrior (1902)
India
October 22, 2024 8:31am CST
One of my friends called me yesterday and spoke about a heated argument he had with a common friend of us. They argued on politics and well in order to win the argument, the common friend just crossed the line and said a few things. My friend and he are now are not in talking terms post this argument.
Our common friend has a not so friendly trait of trying to win any arguments at all costs! He finds satisfaction when he wins the argument. There have been many situations, where unwanted arguments have got him into trouble. The language and the tone to be used in a friendly banter should be caring especially when the other person is a friend or family member. There should be empathy and foster deeper understanding in such cases.
Focusing on winning the argument, risks mutual respect and emotional bonds (which is what happened in this case). Winning argument over relationship may provide temporary gratification, but result in isolation . We should all remember quality of relationships contributes to personal happiness and fulfilment compared to arguments won in life.
What is your say?
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6 responses
@marguicha (222142)
• Chile
22 Oct
Politics and religion are touchy subjects. But if there is love, a heated argument should not include personal insults or the like.
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@RevivedWarrior (1902)
• India
23 Oct
Unfortunately , not everyone follows those rules properly. Thanks for sharing!
@Shavkat (139167)
• Philippines
26 Oct
@RevivedWarrior I do agree with you. But I still prefer not to talk anout them. Besides, it will make me bored if it does happen.
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@RevivedWarrior (1902)
• India
23 Oct
You can talk about politics and religion. However, you should be considerate to others and not bash on others. No political ideology or religion has taught us to be inconsiderate to others, rather we should all live in harmony. Thanks for sharing!
@RevivedWarrior (1902)
• India
23 Oct
I agree that you should stand for what you are right. However, there are certain arguments where both parties could be right and context needs to be considerate. This person is looking to win arguments even if he was wrong. That is definitely not helping in his case. Thanks for sharing!
@porwest (89034)
• United States
23 Oct
@RevivedWarrior Well, if you are wrong that's another story. But nowadays right or wrong is more a matter of opinion than it is of facts. I have been called wrong MANY times DESPITE the facts being clear I am right. I will defend that to the end of time regardless of the consequences.
When someone tells me I am wrong, I ask them to define it. Most of the time they can't. Because THEY are the one who is wrong.
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@aureategloom (8748)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
22 Oct
some people are just like that friend of yours who wants to be right at all costs. and some people are willing to listen. they don't want to win argument, but just see things from other person's perspective - and maybe even change their opinion on certain things if they see they're wrong.
i believe that there are some topics that are really important to some people and just talking about it makes a big problem, specially if you're not thinking the same way they do.
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@RevivedWarrior (1902)
• India
23 Oct
Very true- there are people who are not so considerate and they should definitely avoid talking about sensitive topics. Thanks for sharing!
@somewitch (1310)
•
22 Oct
I usually cut off an argument when I see heat on the rise. I stop talking and leave, if possible. That happens when one or both parties are unwilling to listen, you can't question your own beliefs in a matter of seconds. There's no way to win an argument in such case and, if one resorts to insults, they lose immediately. At least in my opinion, then they can believe they won or whatever. 
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@RevivedWarrior (1902)
• India
23 Oct
I agree - There is no point in arguing where there is lot of tension and unneccessary exchanges. Thanks for sharing!
