10/30/24 - Update On My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (178568)
United States
October 30, 2024 2:42am CST
Got a hold of my husband yesterday. He is not happy in this new facility and feels it's worse than the last one. The food is terrible and he's not getting the care that he's had in the past.
Physical therapy is wearing him out. I'm sure at 83 he'd rather sit and watch TV. I really feel sorry for him; but he wants to come home; so he'll have to power through..
Thank you for your continued prayers, support and thoughts.
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26 responses
@MarieCoyle (37442)
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30 Oct
I am not sure I know how all of the PT thing works for a long stay. I thought when the other place said he had advanced as far as he could with PT, that he wouldn't have any more, or benefit from any more? I am not meaning to sound dumb, I was just surprised he could still get PT, even in a different facility.
So, if you put him back in the 'old' facility, they would not give him PT anymore, right? Does he know that? I suppose you could set up your home with what all he needs to function, but as you have stated, you would have to have 24/7 help--I don't know if that would exceed what you are paying now for his stay in the place he is in, but I do know how hard it is to find enough help for 24/7--I had to arrange for 2 family members to have it, and it's amazing how some of them just call in sick, are late, or don't show up at all. I hope you can get it worked out for him somehow, so he is happier.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
30 Oct
I don't know what the answer is at this point.
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@MarieCoyle (37442)
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31 Oct
@Treborika
Some people in the nursing homes here have no family left, they have outlived everyone. It's really sad when that happens.
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@Treborika (17661)
• Mombasa, Kenya
30 Oct
I have realized that family members hardly show up to visit or nurse their ailing members.
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@snowy22315 (180660)
• United States
30 Oct
I,m sorry about this. Can you meet with the staff and state your concerns? I thought you supposed to let them know what your expectations were.It seems as though they thunk he will not improve.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
31 Oct
They know I want him home. He is getting PT; but he's having trouble.
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@marguicha (222965)
• Chile
30 Oct
I hope you will find what is best for him. You are in my thoughts.
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@marguicha (222965)
• Chile
31 Oct
@LindaOHio If it could be done, house with a complete care would be wonderful if your health insurance can give it.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
31 Oct
Thank you. At this point I'm running out of options.
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@Juliaacv (51190)
• Canada
30 Oct
You are right, he needs to power through.
What are they doing here at this facility that wasn't done at the previous place for pt? I hope that it is strength building for day to day activities of life so that he can realize his dream and move back home again.
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@GardenGerty (160658)
• United States
30 Oct
@LindaOHio And if he came home he would want ice all the time and pop, would he be able to get it himself? Would he do okay in a wheel chair?
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
30 Oct
He wants ice all the time and a can of pop, he needs to be cleaned up, etc. I don't know if he's pressing his call button or not. He needs to push it to get someone to help him.
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@LadyDuck (471485)
• Switzerland
30 Oct
@LindaOHio If he prefers to go back there I think he would be happier. I fear that he will not have PT anymore there, as they said they already did everything they could do.
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@MarieCoyle (37442)
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30 Oct
@LindaOHio
If they took him back he would be in the long term section, I’m sure, since they basically sort of booted him from the rehab part, I think?
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@wolfgirl569 (106192)
• Marion, Ohio
30 Oct
They are giving him PT and the other place might not. But you could ask them about that and maybe get him moved. But I don't think it's going to make a lot of difference. I know you both want him home but without live in help I don't think he can.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
30 Oct
Yes, they said they would take him back.
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@celticeagle (166909)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Oct
What a bummer. I feel so bad for him. My thoughts are certainly with him, especially after reading Marie's response.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
31 Oct
If you could have seen him back in February, you wouldn't believe what he looks like now.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
1 Nov
@celticeagle He was a little overweight, he could walk, he could drive. Now he looks like a frail, very old man. He's lost about 70 pounds.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
31 Oct
Yes, he needs to be strong to come home.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50243)
• United States
30 Oct
This is a terrible situation. I pray he can get strong enough to come home.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
31 Oct
Yes, you're right. Thank you so much, Marie.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
30 Oct
I'm hoping against hope that he will be able to come home.
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@Treborika (17661)
• Mombasa, Kenya
30 Oct
@LindaOHio That is my all time prayers
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
30 Oct
I don't know. I'm giving it 100 more days.
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@NJChicaa (119608)
• United States
30 Oct
After 8 months it is time to be realistic about the situation. He isn’t improving and you’ve unfortunately seen that he can’t go home without some major live-in assistance. It is of course understandable that he wants to be home. He can’t though.
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@NJChicaa (119608)
• United States
30 Oct
@LindaOHio Does he have access to a social worker or counselor at this new place? After all of this time he has to be frustrated and likely is depressed. It is probably a good idea to have him talking to someone and eventually considering the possibility of long term care in the future.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
31 Oct
@NJChicaa There is a social worker at every facility. I still don't get how he can walk with a walker for 100 feet, he comes home and then he falls after walking 2 feet.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
30 Oct
Yes, I know you're right; but I'm going to give him the 100 days that he has coming in rehab.
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@Beestring (14553)
• Hong Kong
30 Oct
I'm sorry the facility is not good. Is there a way to change to another one?
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@RasmaSandra (79833)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
30 Oct
I am sorry he is unhappy but you are right he has to attempt the PT to get back home, Many blessings to you both,
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
31 Oct
Yes, I worry about his heart giving out.
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@TheHorse (218781)
• Walnut Creek, California
31 Oct
@LindaOHio Do you ave Applebees there? Or however it's spelled? Their steaks are smallish, but really good!
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
1 Nov
@TheHorse Our Applebee's really sucks. We tried it several times. Longhorn Steakhouse makes a good steak.
@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
31 Oct
Yup. No Taco Bell for him. He'd like a steak.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84010)
• Rupert, Idaho
30 Oct
Sorry that he feels this place is worse than the last one. That's awful
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
31 Oct
Yes, I don't know what the answer is.
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@sharonelton (28826)
• Lichfield, England
30 Oct
I'm sorry your husband is not happy at the new facility. 
I'm sure he would rather be sitting and watching TV.
Let's hope he can come home soon.
I'm sure he would rather be sitting and watching TV.
Let's hope he can come home soon.2 people like this
@sharonelton (28826)
• Lichfield, England
31 Oct
@LindaOHio Fingers crossed. Keep us updated.
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