11/16/24 - Update On My Husband

Linda, you know I love you but you really need to be more proactive and assertive with this stuff. I don't know what the issue is with your husband's phone but the fact that you cannot speak to a nurse for a week is INSANE. I would be calling every 5 minutes until someone answered. If they didn't then I'd be going up the line and calling supervisors, government agencies, etc. You should be able to speak to him daily or at least speak to nurses who are on the floor and who can report on his status. Sadly it doesn't look like he will be able to return home. That means you have to fight extra-hard to ensure that he is being well cared for in whatever facility he is in. Blow up everyone's phones. You are paying a lot of money each day for his care.

It has to be very very difficult on you Linda, I am sorry that you are going through this. I know that you want nothing more than to have your dear hubs back at home with you. Nobody wants to think of living apart from their loved one, but the conversation that you plan on having with him will be a very necessary and important one. It would be awful for him to be moved without his knowledge as that could lead to increased confusion. That being said, should his health take a further tumble, and the sundowners actually be dementia, have you considered seeking out a memory care facility? That illness is a cruel one and can advance so quickly. My mother was in a very posh rest home, which she paid dearly for, and her first night there her dementia advanced significantly. With the long term care homes being on lock down due to covid, the facility was unable to transfer her, but she would have received such loving care at the memory care facility in that city.

Hang in Linda...tough times don't last...I am sure something better is on its way...just hang in there. We are all praying every morning for you.

Many hugs to you . It's very important for you both to be able to reach each other - there's gotta be a better way to communicate with your husband. I remember these places don't always pick up the phone, but they have various offices where people are around - there's the front reception too who should be able to transfer you - keep bugging them!

What NJ Chic said. Don’t take “no” for an answer, especially not at the price you’re paying for the facility.

sorry you still haven't spoke with him...hope the visit will go well tomorrow

I can see how you would get depressed. I hope you get some answers.

Well, thats one thing to be happy about! I hope hubby will think its fine to go back, and even if he doesn't want to maybe you can talk him into it.

Glad the package got there on time

So glad that package got there, Sorry you could not talk to him, I hope you have a great visit tomorrow, Many blessings to you both,

I hope you will be able to talk to him asap. Hang in there

Praying for you amd your husband Linda...

I'm not surprised you feel depressed with so much going on. You have to find out how come you cannot get in touch with your husband or someone at the nurse station. Please pray and I will continue to pray for both of you.

Sugs, you have a lot going on that it's weighing your heart down & keeping you stressed out & if your not careful you'll be in a hospital from a stroke or heart attack & that's not good either,

I have to agree with NJ CChica here. You're being too passive about this. You're letting too much go that you shouldn't. I've told you in several posts, that you have the help, use it. Do the leg work. Be sure you can get a hold of your husband.

I am glad that you were able to get in touch with.

I hope he will like to be back to the previous facility.

I hope when you see him on Sunday he will be in good spirits.