11/17/24 - Update On My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (181346)
United States
November 17, 2024 2:45am CST
Thank goodness. My husband called me at 11 pm last night. He's always hard to understand these days; but he sounded very lucid. He thinks he's going to be going home soon because he's doing so well. I doubt that's the case.
He doesn't have a doctor's appointment until December 11 and will have to keep the Foley in until then. I can't imagine that's good hygiene-wise. I worry about infection.
I want to apologize for saying I was overwhelmed and depressed. So many of you have it much worse than I do. I am feeling much better and am hanging in there. I do have a lot of things going on right now.
We will be going to see him today. He doesn't think I should switch him to another facility because he thinks he's coming home soon. I wish that were true.
I'm still trying to apply for VA benefits. The problem is verifying my husband's identity. It finally accepted copies of his driver's license...now I have to wait for a code in the mail so I can continue the application online.
Thank you for your continued prayers, support and thoughts.
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22 responses
@AmbiePam (93793)
• United States
17 Nov
Linda, you don’t need to apologize at all! Anyone would feel overwhelmed and depressed, and we want you to feel like you can talk about that here on Mylot. We’re here to listen and hold you up in prayer, and we want you to feel free to express your emotions, whatever they are, to us openly, without any guilt.
You are so loved, and I can only hope that that you feel that to your bones.
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
17 Nov
Thank you. Yes, everyone has been so supportive and generous with their offers of help, etc. It warms my heart.
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
18 Nov
@Marilynda1225 Everyone here is such a good friend.
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
17 Nov
Yes, everyone here has been so supportive.
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@Juliaacv (51498)
• Canada
17 Nov
You need not apologize here, you are amongst friends.
It is better that he is in an upbeat mood and thinks that he will return home again, than being miserable as he realizes that is not the case.
I hope that you both enjoy your time together when you visit today.
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
18 Nov
Thank you very much. I always enjoy my visits with him.
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@LadyDuck (472004)
• Switzerland
17 Nov
@LindaOHio - May be he stays in bed almost all the day long and he thinks he is strong enough.
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
17 Nov
Yes, he really feels he's strong enough. I doubt that's the case.
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
18 Nov
@LadyDuck He was sitting on the edge of the bed when I arrived, which was a surprise.
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@RasmaSandra (80658)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Nov
Well miracles can happen I will pray, Perhaps by Christmas. Many blessings to you both,
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@BarBaraPrz (47634)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
17 Nov
Is your husband somebody other than who he says he is?
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@BarBaraPrz (47634)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
18 Nov
@LindaOHio You said, "The problem is verifying my husband's identity."
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
18 Nov
I'm not sure I understand the question. I'm sorry.
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
19 Nov
@BarBaraPrz To get on the Veterans Administration website, they have to make triple sure that you are who you say you are before you can apply for benefits.
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@FourWalls (68915)
• United States
17 Nov
It’s never easy, is it. Hope you have a good visit with him today.
And you don’t have to apologize! Yes, someone else might “have it worse,” but YOUR ENTIRE WORLD has fallen apart. That’s not something to take lightly! That’s what we’re here for. I’ve been out a few thousand dollars this month with the car and property taxes and a new fridge, but that is “nothing” compared to what you’re enduring.
Love you, dear!
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@wolfgirl569 (107932)
• Marion, Ohio
17 Nov
It is a tough time for you. If venting here helps then keep doing it. I think that's his confusion talking when he says he is coming home soon. You may need to just start making the decisions on your own.
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
18 Nov
Thank you. I think first I need to get him out of that place.
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
18 Nov
Thank you. His nurse cousin says not to worry about the catheter. I will keep filling out the VA application.
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@thelme55 (77168)
• Germany
18 Nov
@LindaOHio You’re welcome. I hope Monday is okay with you.
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
19 Nov
@thelme55 Monday was OK. Hope it was good for you.
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@GardenGerty (160908)
• United States
18 Nov
Does he not have a copy of his DD214? He should also be trackable by his Social Security Number. At least that is what they always want about Bob is the last four of his Social Security. The VA forms online have not seemed very user friendly to me in the past, I hope it goes well for you. When was he in the service?
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
18 Nov
Yes, I have his DD214. He was in the Army from 1963 to 1966.
@snowy22315 (182009)
• United States
17 Nov
I am glad you are Appling to the VA. He ma be Lucid but he us not being very realistic. Don't feel bad about wing overwhelmed or depressed, we all would be..
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@kaylachan (71589)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Nov
Is he a vet? That's a process you should've done years ago. And the level of benifits he'd get would be based on how disabled he'd be considered and they would want to use their facilities.
And, as I've pointed out before, many times, there comes a point where facilities will say we've gone as far as we can, now its time for you to continue the work at home.
Also, "going home soon" might be his way of saying he's dying and it's only a matter of time. People typically start saying that when they are ready to give up. Given what he's been through and the problems with his heart and infected legs and so on....his age....
I don't want you to dispair or loose hope. But, that's another thing to consider.
One more thing to consider, is that by law, as long as he's lucid and capable of making a rational decision. He has the right to come home when he wants. And, even though you are his wife, you can't say 'no'.
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@kaylachan (71589)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
18 Nov
@LindaOHio Yes, I know. It's bleak. But, you need to talk about it. As hard as it is.
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@LindaOHio (181346)
• United States
18 Nov
Yes, he's a vet. I can't think about his dying right now. I have enough to deal with. Don't think it hasn't crossed my mind though.
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@Marilynda1225 (83074)
• United States
17 Nov
Honestly I would have fallen apart a long time ago if I was dealing with all that you are. I'm glad you're feeling better but don't beat yourself up when you get overwhelmed.
Hope you have a nice visit today and that you can get the benefits from the VA.
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@Beestring (14679)
• Hong Kong
17 Nov
Good to know that your husband is doing well and feeling optimistic. Have a nice chat with him when you see him.
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@grenery8 (11100)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
20 Nov
@LindaOHio those short moments of happiness
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