12/14/24 - Update On My Husband

Thank you. I wanted to spend our "golden years" together.

Thank you. I must be strong and handle this.

@LindaOHio

Thank you so much. I had hopes of us spending our last days together.

@LindaOHio Yeah, I know..

I really thought we would spend our last days together.

Thank you. It's not the future I had hoped we would have together.

@LindaOHio It's sure not what all of us hoped and prayed for. But God is still with you and loves both of you.

@1creekgirl I pray that he will be able to endure long days in bed.

Thank you. It's not the ending that I had hoped for the two of us.

I just hope he won't blame me for the rest of his life.

@LindaOHio If you stop fighting and helping him to get home, then maybe he might. I know you think you're doing the right thing, but long term care doesn't always mean forever. With him being in long term care, you can still work twords him coming home. He's come as far as he can with in-patient therapies. But, now, you can arrange doctor's appoitments to have him evulated and ensure his wishes are being met. Now you can get the scripts and wheels in motion for home health aides and things like that. The point is, you can't give up on him and respecting his wishes. You have to ask yourself, why you did it? Was it more for you? Or, was it for him? If he said he wanted to live out the rest of his days in a home, done deal. It's over. But, if he wants to come home, you have one less weight on your mind, you don't have to rush a discharge date. You can bring him home, once you get things in place to do so. But, you'll only be hurting the both of you if you give up now. When I told George similar this morning after reading this post, he said 'I wouldn't stay'. He would've given anything if it meant being home. And he deserved that. Both of my parents passed in their own home. And, I am sure that's what your husband wants, too. Linda, please, don't give up. You were willing to fight a loosing battle with the insurance company to get some of the money back you spent on the rehab centers. Please keep fighting for your husband. See about pallitive in-home care. See what your options are. Be present when he goes to the doctor, don't wait for a phone call. You can do this. He needs you.

@LindaOHio I do not think that you made the decision so much as you are rolling with the punches that life has dealt to him, and indirectly to yourself. You are being realistic, and you can still enjoy time together, it just will not be as you have always thought it would be.

It's against everything I thought we would share together in our last days.

@Juliaacv It's a big blow at this stage in our lives. I will just have to adjust to it.

@LindaOHio - We always hope to spend all our days with the one we love, until the end.

Yes. It's not what I had hoped for us.

Thank you. I had hoped that we would spend our last days together.

Thank you. It's not the future I had hoped for us.

@LindaOHio You're welcome.

Thank you very much.

It hurts me to the core. I just hope he doesn't blame me.

Thank you very much.

@LindaOHio I hope they have good news.

Thank you. Waiting to hear back from the VA.

@LindaOHio You need to research. The one I had dad in would even take him for a walk in the middle of the night when he wanted to.

They don't do that at the present place or the last one.

@wolfgirl569 Wow! This place would never do that..or the old one for that matter.

@LindaOHio

Thank you so much.

@LindaOHio Bummer. Will it arrive quickly?

@TheHorse Yes in 2 days.

Thanks. I don't know. I had to order a new one for him.

@LindaOHio wow! That is crazy. Can’t afford to do that.

He goes to PT. It could have been lost in his bed; and they took the sheets to the laundry. It's 2x as expensive to have someone here 24/7 to take care of him.

Thank you. I had hoped we would spend our last days together.

@LindaOHio