She didn’t like her Christmas present, and told me.
By Amber
@AmbiePam (96071)
United States
December 22, 2024 11:10am CST
My dad always tells me if I don’t like something he gets me, to let him know because he said he’s fine with taking it back, or getting me something else and giving my original present to someone else. Maybe it’s because everything he gives me is special because it comes from him, but I’ve never disliked or gave back anything he gave me for Christmas or my birthday. As I got older, I told him the same thing. You won’t hurt my feelings, let me know if it isn’t something you want (I’ve never said that to anyone else). He’s never given one of his presents back.
This year, I thought I got my stepmom the perfect present. I was so excited to give it to her. But seeing as it was not cheap, and I really wanted someone to enjoy it, I told her flat out (the only time I ever said this to anyone other than my dad), to let me know if she’d rather me give it to someone else. I said, honestly, you will not hurt my feelings. I want whomever gets this to really like it, but if you don’t I’ll give it to someone else. I don’t have the money to get you something else, but you won’t be stuck with it.
She opened the box, looked at it, and said, “Well, it isn’t the prettiest thing.” My heart sunk. Not because she didn’t want it. I just assumed she’d say it wasn’t her taste. But she actually said it wasn’t pretty. Why would that bother me? Because I got something very similar for a fellow Mylotter! The Mylotter had already gotten the present, and seemed very happy with it, but now it’s in the back of my mind that I might have stuck the sweet lady with a gift she really does not like. She’d never tell me otherwise, but it did sink my heart a bit. My feelings aren’t hurt, and I found someone who DID like the gift I had originally given to Diana, but now I’m thinking, maybe I should start going with gift cards!
I’ll just remind myself about the thought being what counted!
I’ll just remind myself about the thought being what counted!18 people like this
19 responses
@LadyDuck (472492)
• Switzerland
23 Dec
@Dreamerby It is incredibly rude to say what her stepmother told her. This is something I would never say to someone.
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@NJChicaa (121411)
• United States
22 Dec
I'm so sorry that happened to you. It is good that you found someone to appreciate the gift. Personally I would never in a million years tell someone that I didn't like something that they gave me. NEVER. It 100% the thought and intention that counts.
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@AmbiePam (96071)
• United States
22 Dec
Oh, it’s okay Lenore. She the most unlikely person to say something hurtful which is why I think my heart sunk. I thought, oh no, if she actually finds it that bad, then I never should have given it to someone else either. I just thought I had found something really cool and creative.
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@MarieCoyle (40983)
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22 Dec
That’s just not something I could ever do. Someone who thinks enough of someone to put a lot of thought and love in a gift, doesn’t need to know the gift wasn’t appreciated or liked. I imagine it hurts your heart, and I am sorry that happened. I know you love and care about Diana.
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@AmbiePam (96071)
• United States
22 Dec
It really was okay that she didn’t want it, although of course I had hoped she’d like it as much as I did. But I kept thinking oh no, that Mylotter probably thinks what am I supposed to do with this?! And I hadn’t actually anticipated Diana saying something negative about it.
But I know she wouldn’t hurt my feelings on purpose. And I know she loves me. I think the world of her.
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@MarieCoyle (40983)
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22 Dec
@AmbiePam
I’m sorry though. You try so hard for others. I have to agree that gift cards are just easier.
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@snowy22315 (185399)
• United States
22 Dec
That really wasn't very tactful on her part I think I would have said something like it's nice, but..I have something just like it or something similar. Yeah, maybe go with the gift card thing for her from now on unless you get told a specific thing she wants.
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. And I'd be hurt hearing that too. My SIL said of a gift I gave her on the 1st Christmas I knew her "This is weird". Sheesh.
And never mind that I never received a gift or card or anything from her until years later - and even then the first gift I actually got from her was a tacky already-opened regift 
@kaylachan (75129)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22 Dec
I don't think she hated it, but beauty is subjective. Try not to take it to personally.
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@kaylachan (75129)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22 Dec
@AmbiePam You'll have to ask them, then.
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@RasmaSandra (82565)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22 Dec
Sorry this happened to you, At least now you know, Might I ask what the gift was? Personally I think gift cards make things so much easier,
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@1creekgirl (42451)
• United States
23 Dec
I'm sorry your stepmom didn't like the gift. But that doesn't mean the myLoter didn't like hers. People like different things.
But to me it always has been "the thought that counts." I'm very easy to please.
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@JudyEv (346592)
• Rockingham, Australia
23 Dec
I think even if someone said I could give a gift back, I wouldn't do it. I would be terrified of hurting their feelings even if they assured me it was okay. But just because Diana didn't like the gift, doesn't mean the myLotter didn't. Eveyone has different tastes and you are such a kind, beautiful soul that I'm sure it's treasured. 
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@Dreamerby (6542)
• Calcutta, India
23 Dec
yeah I agree with you. I wouldn't ask someone to give a gift back.
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@Dreamerby (6542)
• Calcutta, India
23 Dec
A gift is always a token of love. It is pretty in all senses. Sorry this happened.
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@luisadannointed (7245)
• Philippines
7 Jan
I guess it normal and initial reaction of us givers.
I think there will always an effect specially when we dont expect that we will feel the opposite of what we think is not a big deal. I hope you are feeling better now. God bless.
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@jobelbojel (36492)
• Philippines
23 Dec
Oh my. I am so sorry you received that feedback from her. If it is something that I don't like, I keep it myself not to often a friend or a family member.
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@wolfgirl569 (111824)
• Marion, Ohio
22 Dec
Sorry she didn't like it but glad someone else did. I would never say I didn't like something because they took the time to shop for the perfect present.
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@LindaOHio (183918)
• United States
23 Dec
I'm sorry that your stepmom didn't like her gift. I would never tell someone that I didn't like his/her gift. Don't let it bother you. You put a lot of thought into her gift. Have a good week.
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@aureategloom (11051)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
23 Dec
i understand how that made you feel and i'm sorry about that.
there's a saying in Bosnian that can be translated as "who's not grateful on a walnut, won't be grateful for a bag of them either" (it rhymes in Bosnian though ) - meaning who doesn't appreciate little things, won't appreciate the big ones either. some people are just like that, they don't know how to be grateful for anything.
and after all - it's the thought that counts. you did what you could and you gave her a present you thought was nice. you're doing amazing job at taking care of other people - that's what i realized on myLot and i don't even know you that well. i hope you get over that situation, take care!
) - meaning who doesn't appreciate little things, won't appreciate the big ones either. some people are just like that, they don't know how to be grateful for anything.
and after all - it's the thought that counts. you did what you could and you gave her a present you thought was nice. you're doing amazing job at taking care of other people - that's what i realized on myLot and i don't even know you that well. i hope you get over that situation, take care! 1 person likes this
