The Dreaded News
By Four Walls
@FourWalls (71505)
United States
January 21, 2025 5:38pm CST
Hi, everyone.
I’m sure we were expecting this, but that doesn’t make it any easier to hear. Linda OHio’s husband, Ken (“Mr. OHio”), passed away this morning.
I just got off the phone with her. Needless to say, she’s hurting a lot. I told her about the “relief/guilt” feeling, which she said she’s already experienced (“relief” that he’s no longer suffering, then “guilt” for feeling that way). If you’ve been in those shoes, and so many of us have, you know the pain.
His sister is there with her, to help her when she goes to the funeral home tomorrow to make the arrangements.
She’s so grateful for everyone’s prayers and concerns. Please keep her in your prayers as she deals with this unimaginable pain.
The photo is of the US flag at the VA hospital at half-staff to honor President Carter. Mr. OHio was a veteran himself, and it only seems fitting to present that picture in his memory.
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@MarieCoyle (40983)
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21 Jan
None of us want our loved ones to suffer, for sure. I just wish it didn't have to be this way for her, and that they had some more quality time together. I am glad she has the sister with her, to help out. None of this is easy for her by any means, we are just never ready to lose someone we love.
I am glad that she has his family to support her. She did everything she could do for him, we all know that. Thank you for keeping us informed. She is in my prayers for sure.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
21 Jan
I told her there were a boatload of prayers and well-wishes expressed here, and she was so grateful. She said she’s “okay” (as much as one can be at a time like this) right now, and his sister being there helps.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
23 Jan
@Marilynda1225 — don’t you know it. I hope she “feels the love,” because I know for a fact that it’s here.
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@Marilynda1225 (83778)
• United States
23 Jan
This is just so sad. All my prayers are with Linda
She is so loved here and I wish I lived closer to hug her in person.
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@wolfgirl569 (111794)
• Marion, Ohio
22 Jan
Thanks for letting us know. I am glad someone is with her right now.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
She knows we’re with her in spirit, but having someone physically there to help her is so necessary.
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@AmbiePam (96068)
• United States
22 Jan
@FourWalls what a doll he must have been.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
I know she’ll appreciate the thoughts once she feels comfortable enough to come here and see them. She’s such a sweet person, and he was terrific, too. He offered me a whole bag of apples to take with me when I left! 
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@LadyDuck (472492)
• Switzerland
22 Jan
I feared he could not live for a long time and I feel so sorry for Linda, she must be devastated.
I am glad the his sister is there to comfort and help Linda. I am sure that the second cousin will also be of some help.
He is no more suffering now.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
I hope hospice has resources to help her with the grief.
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@LadyDuck (472492)
• Switzerland
22 Jan
@FourWalls - I hope so, they usually help people with their grief.
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@DaddyEvil (141814)
• United States
22 Jan
Oh, no! I'm so sorry to hear this news!
Thank you for letting us know. Keeping Linda in my thoughts.
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@NJChicaa (121404)
• United States
21 Jan
Thank you for the update. I was waiting for this. She did everything she could for him but he simply wasn't going to get better. I'm so sad for her because she has said many times that her family disowned her so she only had her husband's relatives. At least she has a few people from his family who will try to help her.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
21 Jan
I’m very thankful his family is standing by her.
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@Dreamerby (6539)
• Calcutta, India
25 Jan
Oh I didn't know this. Why did her family disown her? It's all very sad.
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@snowy22315 (185371)
• United States
22 Jan
Poor Linda,
but at least hubby is no longer suffering. I'm glad his sister is there to help out . Thanks, for keeping us posted.
but at least hubby is no longer suffering. I'm glad his sister is there to help out . Thanks, for keeping us posted.5 people like this
@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
We all hoped (remember when they discharged Fredo from hospice after six months?). I’m glad he isn’t suffering anymore, and I know she is, despite what she’s going through emotionally right now.
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@celticeagle (171528)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Jan
I'm glad to hear she has someone with her. Poor dear. My heart goes out to her. How extremely sad.
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@celticeagle (171528)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jan
@FourWalls .....my thoughts are with her. I'm glad you have communication with her.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
I told her I’d be there if she needed me.
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@Aquitaine24 (11858)
• San Jose, California
23 Jan
@FourWalls I have no idea why that would make America look bad.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
I’m glad someone is there for her as well.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
When this happens you’re just overwhelmed by emotions, and not a one of those emotions is good. I hurt for her as well.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
Thanks for the prayers. Those of us who’ve been there know how much they mean.
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@porwest (96233)
• United States
22 Jan
Terrible, sad news. I agree it is hard to see people suffer, yet at the same time, it's also hard to let them go. She's had such a rough time this past year or so, so hopefully there's a silver lining in all of this despite the situation. Our thoughts are with her always.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
The “silver lining,” I suppose, is he didn’t have to suffer for a long time (he already did that).
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@lovebuglena (45509)
• Staten Island, New York
22 Jan
@FourWalls I hope Linda has someone to help her with everything.
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@porwest (96233)
• United States
23 Jan
@FourWalls Yeah. I agree. And on top of that, she won't have to put out as much money for his care either. Not that it wasn't worth it, of course, but it was a lot of money.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84581)
• Rupert, Idaho
22 Jan
I am sorry to hear the news....I wish I knew more to say than that. I always told her that through the whole situation, that I wish I knew more to say than I was sorry, But sometimes there are no other words that can be said...
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
There really is nothing more to say. I know that she knows we ache for her.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84581)
• Rupert, Idaho
22 Jan
@FourWalls That is true, just sorry never feels like enough.
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@much2say (57209)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Jan
This is most difficult, to say the least - I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm thinking back on this extremely rough year - she did her best to do what she can for her husband. I'm glad there are family members there to help her. Keeping her in my thoughts.
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@much2say (57209)
• Los Angeles, California
23 Jan
@FourWalls Those brick walls . . . there were so, so many of them 
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
I know, she did everything possible to do, including running through a lot of brick walls in her way.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
She has expressed her gratitude every time I’ve talked with her during this.
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@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
She asked me to let everyone know. Sure wish it was better.
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@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14778)
• Torrington, Connecticut
22 Jan
Thats terrible, prayers to Linda and her family
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@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14778)
• Torrington, Connecticut
22 Jan
@FourWalls Thanks for keeping us in the loop
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@2ndchances24 (9894)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
22 Jan
Oh damn, I'm so sorry to hear this, I know what kind of
pain she is going through & it's not nothing easy to live with, that's a
hard time in life to go through & try to push through, give her my
condolences, I was sure hoping he would get better & come home.4 people like this
@FourWalls (71505)
• United States
22 Jan
I was, too…hoping, at the very least, the VA would be able to get him home health care. Alas, it wasn’t to be.
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@2ndchances24 (9894)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
22 Jan
@FourWalls Well you know how things have been with the help she's been trying to get him
just wasn't there no matter what she did & that's just more or less letting him die.
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