What is your love language?
@cacay1 (84055)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
February 10, 2025 7:27pm CST
I have no class this morning so I have to spend some time here on Mylot. GIVING is my love language. I do not hesitate to give financial assistance to my family or relatives. I also give gifts to my family, relatives, and friends during Christmas. I also spent a huge money almost $ 8,000 for my beloved nephew for his dialysis for three years, but he died two years ago and that made me feel excruciating pain. I was his only benefactor and I never regretted the money I spent for him. I love my nephew Seig so much. I was also assisting my nieces financially during their university days.
But everything changed. GIVING is not anymore my love language. It is not that I regretted the money I spent, but the reality that they were not worth especially to my friends and some siblings. I am done with them. I have been observing it for many years now but I played blind to what I observed.
Yes, I agree that it is better to give than to receive but it is too much. I have to end this attitude of mine. Never had I received a gift from those friends and co-workers and some siblings. I better save my money than waste it on the wrong people.
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@RebeccasFarm (91790)
• Arvada, Colorado
11 Feb
My love language is a long time ago.
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@innertalks (22313)
• Australia
11 Feb
It is not good to be continually taken advantage of, and sometimes, perhaps, we need to take a tougher stance, as you are doing now.
Discernment is good, and not just always giving, and yet giving is never regretted, when you give with the open heart that you had, when you gave to your nephew, Seig.
@Melanie_Marie (1934)
• United States
11 Feb
So sorry to hear about your nephew. But you did buy him some time and he knows what you did for him, even now.
And what you said about saving your money,
Y-E-S.
I’ve been hanging out with this group of minimalists on YouTube and a lot of what they teach is by not spending, you are not only saving, but also earning. If you refuse to drive anywhere for a day and not walk into any stores or buy anything, in a way you have earned money that day, because otherwise it would have been spent. And gone. But now, you have the money. You still have it. You’ve earned it, by not touching it.
As for my love language, mine is strange and confusing and only the other weirdos of the world will understand it.
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@cacay1 (84055)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
11 Feb
@Melanie_Marie,that sounds funny about your love language which is confusing and strange
It's indeed intriguing hehe.
It's indeed intriguing hehe.1 person likes this
@cacay1 (84055)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
11 Feb
@lilacskies, he he, there might be for sure 
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@lilacskies (1279)
• United States
23h
@cacay1 I am too aromantic for a love language. Lol!
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@Orson_Kart (6947)
• United Kingdom
4h
One of the Romance languages ( French in particular) is generally considered the “language of love”
N’est ce pas, ma chérie?
@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14742)
• Torrington, Connecticut
11 Feb
Food is for surer my love language
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@grenery8 (12919)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
20h
really sorry for your nephew. Giving/receiving is something that others get used to it. you can also give yourself, which is bad as well and get no true love in return so, yes, i support you on this path of no more giving. i try not giving anymore; my emotions and all.
i try not giving anymore; my emotions and all.2 people like this
