Why it happens with me always?

@sjvg1976 Right, but I am sure you have discussed this upsetting situation with your friends with her. What does she think about it?

@snowy22315 she knows it because I don't have friends like people have. Just 1-2.

My wife is loving and caring. She is like a friend for me.

No. I never expect people to favour monetarily or anything, I expect the some love and compassion from them.

@sjvg1976 ok that's great you don't expect anything from anyone

@banksim Yes that is. But sometimes I cannot hold my heart and get disappointment afterwards.

@sjvg1976 I asked you is there someone who likes you but you do not like them. And then there is the situation those whom you help will not help you but there will someone who you have not helped will help you and that is life

@allknowing I don't remember any such person whom I don't like and he/she likes me.

I am talking about the friends. I feel I try my level best to help them and support them because I like them, but I don't get the same because they don't like me.

You said it right I need to improve myself and should stoping bothering myself by such thoughts.

@id_peace I know it is difficult to do that but still I will try my best to avoid such toxic people in life

@sjvg1976 I am glad that you are able to straighten your thoughts.

@BACONSTRIPSXXX

I am married and have kids.

@sjvg1976 jajajaja Never mind then your good lol

Hmm..I have a good family , an understanding wife and kids but still I feel I lack friends because I am an introvert and don't express my feelings so easily.

@lilacskies Absolutely. But still it hurts when you like someone and are always ready to help that person, but when you want someone to be with you, that person turns and shows his back and gives excuses. I always feel that I am used by the people. See, one of my so-called friend got ill. I was there for him, but when I told him that I had an accident and was having pain in my knee, he just ignored it and never asked about it even after 2-3 days. I know expecting something from people is what one should not do but still, I was not expecting something wrong.

@sjvg1976 I am an introvert myself and I assure you. You are doing just fine. You don't need to worry about having friends. You have a wife and kids so you don't really need friends anyway. Your wife and kids are enough and they will always be there for you because they are your true family and support system. Friends come and go. Don't stress out about something as minuscule as friendship. Some people might defend friendship and make a big deal out of it, but come on. At the end of the day, your true family is your support system. What are friends but strangers at the end of the day, right?

@sjvg1976 Well, I don't know if you should eliminate all these people. Some are negative, mean, and make your life miserable . . . those are the kinds of people you should eliminate. Some just have "issues" that for whatever reason, they are not ready to relate to people. I had a new co-worker - very nice guy - but overly friendly to me from the beginning. He knew I was married - it's not that he "tried" to do anything romantically. He was single, had just moved here, and just wanted to make friends . . . but he wanted me to include him in anything I talked about though I did not know him well. It's not that I didn't like him, but I am saying he was a bit forward and pushed the friendship thing a little too quickly for my taste. In this case, I was not ready to relate to him.

Yes they are...we need to identify such complex people and should eliminate them from our life.

What I understand is that I should confine myself with people, as you cannot expect affection from those you like. It's nature; you always cannot get what you think of.

@sjvg1976 you should not confine yourself. It is what it is. Just because they do not like you back, you will back away and confine yourself. I do not think that is right. Just live your life. If they want to be a part of it, then good. If not then you still have your life to live and leave them behind.

I think that's the best practice to deal with the people.

That's true...there are sort of people in the world.

I will try to do that. What I am thinking is to distance myself from such people who don't reciprocate with the same intensity.

@sjvg1976 Good Thought!

I agree with you. I need to pay less attention to the people who don't reciprocate and I have started it from today itself with the person who is like this. I have stopped talking to him much like I used to, few days back and the worst part is , it doesn't make any difference to him or he is just pretending that it doesn't matter.